This is a recognized love, and it is an intimate love. At first, you will jump with joy for every encounter you think of. Look at him quietly, and you will feel extremely happy. You cherish and enjoy every opportunity to live in a space with him, and then start to create this opportunity, and even imitate him, just because subconsciously you want to be the most similar and suitable to him.
Examining my life is something I often do. Those causes and effects are my research objects. I am emotional and rational. I will fight for it because of my sensibility, and I will follow the feeling at that moment, and also because of my rationality. After the unhappiness, I will analyze myself, heal myself, and then start again with hope.
Of course, if you are not me, you must do something different, because everyone is unique, and the unique one is precious, which is worth cherishing and being cherished. This is the fundamental reason why I have been publishing articles on my account with meager strength. I hope everyone can be happy. I hope you will encounter something similar to me, be less confused and take less detours. There is a subtext in all my articles: I have been there, and I tell you with my own experience that everything will become the past and become the nutrient for your growth, so don't be afraid, you are not alone.
As I said before, if you like someone, you will imitate him. So what have I done over the years?
I call it the first love, and the most obvious thing is that I have changed from behind the scenes to in front of the stage.
When I was a child, my teacher publicly asked me to give a demonstration when educating other students. Of course, I didn't know it was a demonstration. All I know is that the teacher suddenly told me to stand in front of the blackboard. I obediently did as the teacher said. After a while, the teacher asked me to go back and tell the students, you see, XXX has never let the teacher worry. He not only got good grades, but also excelled in his class. I remember this very clearly. What is even more puzzling is that there are still three words in my memory-"invisible man". Did the teacher say it at that time or did I make it up later? I can't prove it, but it means a lot to me, because at school, this is the first time I have been publicly evaluated. When the personal evaluation system has not been established, the evaluation of others is particularly important. From this incident, you should be able to see what a good boy I used to be, but what you can't imagine is that I have almost no friends because I deliberately avoided it. This is me who worked behind the scenes for about three years.
The person I like is the person in the spotlight. There are always many people around him. He is humorous and loves to laugh. It can be said that I was attracted by my inner desire to enter the crowd, or I paid attention to him inexplicably, and then I fell in love with him, which made me step into the crowd. Whatever the reason, the result is the same. He made me a brave and frank person.
The person I like, well, is still him, yes, he has appeared twice in his life, and that kind of love for the opposite sex has appeared twice.
After 20 years of reunion, he and I have more in common. This time, I don't need to imitate him, because I already have a self I like very much, and I am no longer confused and firm. So, what did I do because I like him?
Because he is a good cook and there are recipes on the food platform, that is, because I want to be in the same space with him, I also registered. As a result, he stopped updating a year ago, and I am still here, still active as a talent.
Isn't it interesting? That's how interesting it is.
Remember, there is such a diner in the Huang Lei version of Midnight Food Store. He has been in love and always likes different foods because he likes different people. Although film and television dramas are a bit extreme, we may be more rational in reality and our favorite things will not be so different. Just like I used to like cooking, sharing on the platform was inspired by this feeling of liking him, which is essentially the same as Ma Lingling.
Who else do I like besides him? He is brilliant, outstanding in literature and art, humorous and laughing to the extreme, with delicate feelings, rich in feelings but modest. Have you ever thought that all these people you like actually have your shadow, or what you are eager to be? This is the law of attraction. Just like why there are couples, it is actually because people who look like themselves are the easiest people to fall in love at first sight. Studies have shown that love at first sight has a half chance of entering the marriage hall, while the divorce rate is less than 20% for men and 10% for women.
The original appearance is similar and mutual admiration makes each other unconsciously imitate, accumulate over a long period, act like each other more and more, and act more and more like husband and wife.
Since I like to have such magical power, I don't like it? I don't know how many people will delete all the contact information of their predecessors after breaking up. QQ space content, Weibo and friends circle will deny the past, or even deny the existence of this person. These behaviors show that this is a kind of unrecognized love. You are eager to deny all your relationship with him and think that you were wrong at the beginning. There is nothing wrong with this behavior, but please confirm whether you are rational enough before you operate. It is most suitable for communication and decision-making when reason and emotion are equally divided. There is no psychological knowledge here. Let me give you a recent example. For example, I let him go, deleted all my recipes on the food platform, and gave up the title of gourmet. This represents a relief? I feel silly. What makes me work hard to manage my own content, and the recipes made by carefully cooked dishes are deleted like this? Fortunately, I have never made an impulsive decision. I admit that I liked it before, and I still like it now. Those seniors just changed their favorites, some were family members and some were friends.
In the face of a relationship, how to do it depends on yourself. Everyone can be himself. There is no right or wrong, only suitability. Every time I like it, it is precious. He is not your blood relative, but you can trust him wholeheartedly, but you are willing to approach him defenseless. This is very rare, and such people are not easy to appear, especially those with a strong sense of self-protection. Even if they meet such people, it is difficult for them to take that step.
I cherish every love, every touching moment, those moments that make me change and become better. This is also love for yourself, admitting that you once loved yourself impudently.
When two people are together, we must make ourselves better. This is my view of love. If you think you are getting better and better, you can rest assured to love. If you think this relationship has made you grow up, remember it well, it will be your unique wealth.