We have such a custom there that it is difficult for unmarried men and women to meet each other at ordinary times. Only on holidays or when there are important activities at home will the man take the woman home. Spend the holidays together, or participate in important activities at home.

In our country, as long as unmarried men and women are engaged, they will basically get married. Only a few people will break off their marriage for various reasons. It is generally believed that as long as you are engaged, even people in your family will get married sooner or later.

From a very young age, as long as I can remember, I found that engaged men and women seldom interacted at that time. Generally speaking, they have something at home and can only meet on holidays. I didn't know until I grew up that maybe the engaged parties secretly met when they wanted to meet.

At that time, it was rare to pick up a wife, usually driving a carriage or riding a bicycle or motorcycle. Later, there was a small four-wheeled tractor, a motorcycle, and now a car, which is convenient for picking up a wife.

At that time, the engaged men and women were generally from the village or the village, around the village, ten miles and eight villages, dozens of miles away, and very few. At that time, the intermarriage circle in rural areas was very small, with a radius of less than 50 kilometers.

If the engaged men and women have a particularly good relationship, they are all looking forward to their parents talking and bringing the woman home. Generally speaking, it is two or three days before May Day, two or three days before August Day and the third day after the Spring Festival. Under normal circumstances, these days are the days to pick up your wife.

What's more, the husband's brothers and sisters are married, and they must take back the prospective daughter-in-law in advance. Or it is the birthday of the man's parents, grandparents, and the prospective daughter-in-law should be summoned in advance to celebrate.

Then someone will ask why you always pick up your wife. That's because when you pick up your wife, you have to bring gifts to visit your future parents-in-law. When the parents, grandparents and grandparents of the woman's family celebrate their birthdays, the man should take the initiative to take gifts to bless them. Usually a man doesn't need a woman to pick him up.

Now many rules may be impacted, but sometimes old rules and traditions still remain.