Can I go back to my parents' house on March 3 rd?
The custom that you can't go back to your mother's house on March 3rd mainly comes from Shandong. There are some popular sayings in Shandong, such as "Go back to your mother's house on March 3rd, and your dead husband will collapse" and "Go back to your mother's house on March 3rd, and cry", which means you can't go back to your mother's house, otherwise it will be bad for your husband and even something will happen at home. March 3 is also one of the four traditional Halloween festivals, so some people say that women should not go out at will on this day. It also has something to do with saying that you can't go back to your mother's house on March 3. It is said that the third day of March is an "evil day" and should be avoided. According to the Book of Rites in the Song Dynasty, "Zhao Xu, a native of the Plain, got triplets in early March and died on March 3rd. A villager was very surprised. From then on, he went to the water to wash himself or go out to ward off evil spirits every day.
What festivals can't I go back to my parents' house?
There are many folk customs, some of which are rarely remembered, and some of which are still widely circulated in some places. Many young people don't understand them and think they are the dregs of feudal superstition. For example, a married daughter can't go back to her mother's house very often, so she "looks at her mother's house's lamp and strikes her roots" to avoid beginning of spring going back to her mother's house, because "spring" is bigger than "year", otherwise she will be poor. You can't go to your mother's house for the Lantern Festival, and you will be poor all your life. Tomb-Sweeping Day, October 1st, beginning of winter, Laba and Jiujiu (Winter Solstice Day) can't go to your parents' home, such as "Don't avoid Qingming, dead old man", "Don't avoid Jiujiu, dead old man" and "Don't avoid beginning of winter, dead old man". On some festivals, women must stay at their husbands' home, at least not at this time. Nowadays, many young couples are only children, and they hope to reunite with their families during the Spring Festival and holidays. So someone suggested "take turns, go to the man's house this year and the woman's house next year", which is considered the fairest.
My conclusion
Our custom here is that we can't go back to our parents' house on March 3. Since there is such a saying, it's not that we don't have time to go back to our parents' home. It's better to go back to our parents' home another time: rural people attach great importance to Tomb-Sweeping Day, and every family should worship their ancestors, but the married girls don't have to. Rural people think that girls belong to others. If there is a son at home, no one in the family wants her daughter to go back to her parents' grave for fear that others will say that there is no one at home. Only families without sons can girls go back to their parents' graves. Only the names of sons and daughters can be engraved on the tombstones of ancestors, while the names of girls are generally not engraved on the tombstones of parents and ancestors.