Holding a happy event means that parents have grown up with their children. Doing a happy event is like making a wish for many years and finally getting it. It's hard not to be happy At the same time, the family has added a new population, and the whole family is waiting to have grandchildren. Will the family be unhappy?
When children grow up and get married, parents' responsibilities will be lightened. Thinking about this for a while is also worthy of parents' happiness. From this perspective, it is argued that the happiness of the host family comes from the inner excitement and has little to do with the number of gifts given by the guests!
Second, to hold a happy event is to have a lively celebration. The more people who have congratulations and help from relatives, friends and neighbors, the better. Coupled with our traditional folk customs and hospitality, the more guests there are, the more lively the atmosphere will be.
First, when it comes to weddings, the most unforgettable thing is the taste more than ten years ago! Nowadays, apart from the long-awaited happiness of my family, I don't expect much from other relatives and friends. Participating in helping with the wedding is at best a formality. This may be related to the increase in gift money! Ten years ago, our gifts to our neighbors ranged from 10 yuan in 20 yuan to 30~50 yuan. 50 yuan is usually our closest brothers and sisters.
At that time, I had a habit of holding a wedding, and my neighbors who were married with children were welcome to join in the fun and hold a banquet! When you meet a neighbor, you are welcome. When it's time for dinner, we will call again. I remember that there was not much money at that time, but everyone had a good time.
Now, with the gift money, all the neighbors started with the lowest price of 100 yuan, and the relationship increased slightly to 200 yuan. Relatives went to 500 yuan from 300 three or five years ago, and now they are 800 to 1000 yuan.
In addition, there are a series of red envelope blessings, and the younger generation should give a red envelope blessing to the elders! (/kloc-less than 0/00 yuan is definitely not available, generally ranging from 200 to 500 yuan) and mutual blessings between cousins add up to a lot. It can be said that once you meet a relative to do a happy event, you can't get by without a few thousand dollars.
Second, the strangest thing is that the weight of gifts is getting higher and higher, while the number of people eating and drinking with each other is obviously lower than before! This has a lot to do with the floating population in rural areas, but it is by no means the main reason. Nowadays, people generally eat and drink without worry, consciously like politeness and reduce interaction. Not as free and easy as before. The affection between neighbors has lost its former enthusiasm. Except for mahjong players, most of them go home after dinner, and few people will be as busy as the owner of the wedding before.
Nowadays, the chances of holding happy events in rural areas are decreasing year by year. Unlike parents, every family has at least five or six children, and it is held once a year or two. I remember when I was a child, we caught up with the weddings of uncles and aunts who were a few years younger than our parents. Weddings at that time were really lively and festive. Our generation, born in 1980s and 1990s, has only two children at most, and parents will do it twice in their lifetime.
Most sons can't marry daughters-in-law, so parents can only stare here. Ironically, in the past two years, the frequency of second marriage and happy events even exceeded that of new marriage! Because my parents can't do a few happy events in their lifetime, once every ten or twenty years, we must cherish the pursuit of festive scenes. Adhering to the principle that all guests come, the host of the wedding is of course happy.
It is natural to prepare delicious food for the wedding. A few days before the event, the host family will plan several tables to prepare ingredients according to the approximate number of guests coming and going. It has long been planned that the neighbors should eat more of these. Eating alone is not much different from eating as a family!
The benefits of holding a wedding are not lacking in eating and drinking. In a small place like ours, it is more than enough to prepare forty or fifty tables at a time for a wedding with few guests. A village can have more than 70 or 80 tables, and hundreds of tables are not many.
Of course, there are also stingy neighbors, who are committed to careful planning, regard the wedding as a cliche ceremony to get back the gift money, and they will try their best to keep the wedding expenses to a minimum.
In general, the relationship between the host family and most of their neighbors is lukewarm, and neighbors don't want married people with children to eat and drink in their homes. These are habits that have been formed all the year round, and neighbors have long been used to them.
Third, in a place like ours, a table can seat eight people. There are four people in the neighbor's house. Serve lunch and dinner that day, and they can eat a whole table. The main family pursues the effect of eating more people and celebrating more. Some people chat, some play mahjong, some sing folk songs after dinner, and some dance traditional folk dances. This is the ideal image of a wedding. How many people come to the neighbor's house to eat and drink at the wedding, we can see that the main family's style of dealing with people in the neighbor's house reflects the main family's character. The more neighbors who come to eat and drink for a few days at the wedding, the better the people in the main family. The relationship with neighbors is enough to show the generosity of a family! The reference value is high. As the saying goes, there is no intimacy, no interaction, no eating and drinking between friends, relatives and neighbors!
It is said that customs vary from place to place, but no matter how many gifts are given at the wedding, the host family welcomes everyone to eat and drink at home.
Only when there is a large number of passengers and gifts can they make a fortune by holding weddings. After all, there is no real money-making host for other banquets at the wedding. The gift money recovered from the wedding is a little bit. The gift money you take out will only be recovered less, not much more.
Accompanying gifts is equivalent to accumulating deposits to invest in stocks. Relatives and friends hold banquets once every two years and only once every ten years, which is particularly disadvantageous. Moreover, even if it is a happy event to recover the amount of gift money, it must go through a series of steps of spending and entertaining guests. Those who receive a gift of 1 10,000 to 20,000 yuan will spend more than 1 10,000 yuan on business comprador life. Finally, I made a noisy and poor joke.
Conclusion: Most of the gifts that come and go are spent on eating and drinking. The traditional custom of holding a wedding in the countryside is good, and everyone can get a lot of happiness from it!