1. Find out the reasons for divorce: "Men need freedom and recognition most, and women need respect and love most." No matter what the reason for divorce is, these two most basic sentences are inseparable. As a man, he must guide a woman's life and give her enough sense of security to make her feel that a real man is loving and caring for her; and as a woman, she must be willing to be the guide behind the man and give him full spiritual support and support. Agree with him and give him enough freedom so that he has the confidence to develop his potential and become a man who can truly lead his woman. Women's strength and dependence, and men's avoidance and cowardice, all make divorce unstoppable. 2. Face your partner calmly. If the other party proposes a divorce, he will definitely not want to have close contact with you for the time being. At this time, you must control your emotions, avoid crying and making a fuss and making it known to everyone, and calmly agree to his proposal. Just leave. If you calmly accept your partner's proposal for divorce, he will feel that your decision was wrong, and he will be more likely to remarry in the future. If you cry and make a fuss at this time, it will only send a message to him: he should leave you and get rid of this crazy person like you. 3. Think from someone else’s perspective: Marriage is a matter between two people, and only if they work together can it last long. Since your partner has filed for divorce, it must be because you have bad habits that he cannot tolerate. At this time, you need to think about the problem from the other person's perspective. Don't just think about your contribution in the marriage. In fact, the other person is also very considerate. Any conflicts and contradictions are based on mutual misunderstanding. How to understand each other and see the other party's contribution in the relationship is often the first step in easing the relationship. 4. Play the family card appropriately. If you find it difficult to do it alone, you can consider asking family members to help. The prerequisite for family members to help is that the other person has a good relationship with your family or his family, and that the other person cares about the opinions of the relatives around him. At this time, you can honestly explain the reasons for the divorce to them and express your determination to remarry. With their help, your partner will feel more important about the family and will be more likely to return. 5. Communicate carefully Eighty percent of conflicts between people are caused by poor communication. What you want to say is not conveyed to the other party, and the other party's understanding is biased, so conflicts arise accordingly. Especially between husband and wife, the two people live together for a long time, and the bedroom does not meet the kitchen. Communication problems are even more troublesome. While both parties have calmed down, talk about marriage and children. If you want to remarry, you must take the initiative to admit your problems and show your willingness to work hard to improve family relations. You can also recall the good times in the past together to help your partner regain a warm sense of family belonging. 6. Give each other time to calm down. If you had conflicts due to a fierce quarrel before breaking up, you cannot go to each other immediately at this time. Instead, you need to give each other time to calm down, because after a fierce quarrel, you will feel very angry. , when people are angry, they cannot listen to anything, so at this time, do not go to the other party, do not continue to argue about who is right and wrong, this will only deepen the conflict; and do not immediately bow your head and admit your mistake. , assuring the other party of the future, this will only make him more rational for his decision to leave you, because the other party will subconsciously feel that it is because you did something wrong that you came to admit it, so it is right for him to choose to leave. . Then, during the cold treatment period, you need to reflect on yourself, including the mistakes you made during this quarrel, and take the initiative to admit your mistakes to the other party. Because in any quarrel, both parties must be at fault, but if you want to retain him, you must first reflect on your mistakes and muster up the courage to admit them to him. After the quarrel, don't disturb him. Wait until some time has passed and both parties have calmed down. Then find a suitable time, preferably when he is in a good mood, to admit your mistake to him. 7. Arouse the excitement of the other party. Maybe when your relationship was good, you had made various agreements, but due to various reasons, they were not realized one by one. So at this time, you can independently complete one of the agreements. . For example, a person goes to a restaurant that you have wanted to go to for a long time, and then show the photo to him through an online display, with a paragraph: Finally here, the food is delicious, but I hope to share words with so-and-so. Later, when the other person's anger has calmed down and the conflict between the two has been resolved, you can find another step for him, and you can find a reason why he needs to be there, and then you can naturally reconcile with him. 8. Think about each other's relationship in a different way. After breaking up, you just give each other some space and time to think about the relationship. You also have time to examine yourself and see your own shortcomings, so as to change yourself and improve yourself, such as exercising, reading, traveling, and learning to always think about it. Learn guitar and oil painting, etc. Remember that in the process of constantly improving yourself, you must maintain appropriate contact with the other party, neither far nor close, greet the other party appropriately, let the other party know your changes, and then talk about the problems that existed in the past relationship. Don't make a big fuss. Analyze the problem quietly and then solve it. I believe the other party will be willing to talk to you in detail. I believe that through these methods, you are already on the road to saving or successfully saving your marriage. How to save a marriage 2 1. Accept and face If you want to save your love and save your marriage, you must choose to accept this fact. Faced with the disintegration of their marriage, most women are unwilling to face the facts. They always feel that this is just a temporary setback and that the other party's cold war is just a temporary thought.

But what’s the point of deceiving oneself like this? For you, the safest thing at the moment is to accept this reality and realize that your partner's attitude has changed. Only by being willing to accept the reality can you have the courage to face it. 2. Responsibility and commitment. If there is a problem in any relationship, it will not be one person's fault. Since both people want to enjoy the beauty of emotion, they should bear the responsibilities in married life. In previous relationships, you may not have been perfect. Now that there is a problem in your marriage, you must let your partner know: In fact, you have realized your mistakes and you are willing to accept his attitude. I hope I can continue to shoulder the responsibilities in marriage. In fact, correcting your attitude can touch people's hearts far more than a humble request to get back together, and it will often bring you unexpected surprises. 3. Tolerance and retreat. When faced with cold violence or cheating from their husbands, some women will adopt an aggressive stance to completely suppress his arrogance and show off his power. In the movie "A Thousand Arrows Pierce the Heart", the wife also became aggressive after discovering that her husband had cheated on a female colleague. She would always take the opportunity to make sarcastic comments on various occasions. She thought she could suppress her husband for the rest of his life and make him unable to hold his head up, but... He was able to live a peaceful life with himself, but the end result was that his husband could no longer bear it, left a suicide note, and committed suicide by jumping into the river. Since you choose to stay in the marriage, it means that you can forgive him in your heart. Since you want to return to the original state, you must stand on an equal footing. Cynicism will only make your situation worse; rational tolerance and retreat can bring about his return. 4. Change and rebirth Only change can bring new life to marriage. There must be problems of one kind or another in your married life. You were not aware of it at the beginning, but the current marital problems have sounded the alarm for you. It's time to make changes. Don't just live for yourself, but also learn to light up your life for your partner. Think about it, what behaviors of yours are limiting the development of your marriage? And in what directions can you improve, so that he can shine and become convinced enough to obey you? Believe that this is the direction you have changed. Only by changing can you regain your life. 5. Initiative and return. Since you choose to recover and since you are willing to retain your emotions, when you make this decision, it means that you have chosen "initiative". In fact, you don’t have to just wait for him to change his mind. During this period of time, you can take the initiative to find yourself, return to the circle that once belonged to you, travel, and develop hobbies. Of course, if you feel that this continues , if it is too depressing, you can consult an emotional counselor to relieve your worries. When it comes to restoring contact, only if you take the initiative can you truly re-establish contact, otherwise he will only hesitate. After all, he is the one who made the mistake, and he will feel unconfident in his heart and feel that it is difficult for you to truly forgive him, and this It's your initiative that will give him a heart booster and let him know that you are willing to accept him again. 6. Establishment of contact Re-establishing contact does not mean that your relationship has recovered as before, nor does it mean that your marriage is back on track. Just like two parties negotiating a business, sitting at the negotiation table does not mean that the business is finalized. The negotiation process is relatively long. Re-establish contact, and don’t try to solve all the problems in your marriage right from the start, because when you put all the problems in your marriage in the open, it may only bring pressure to him again. If he really can’t bear it, maybe You will escape again, and your situation will return to the starting point. Correctly handle reconnection, you can focus on good interactions, cultivate a good atmosphere, and let him realize that you are willing to accept him again, so as to quickly relieve stress and help yourself to stand firm. 7. The best way to communicate is to communicate enough. When he realizes his mistake and no longer emphasizes divorce again and again in a threatening tone, but starts to recall each other’s happiness, that’s when you will lay some foundations for him. It's time to show up. Of course, everything must be discussed on a case-by-case basis. Don’t dwell on old scores, let alone use excessive language. Tell him lightly: “I am willing to forgive you. After all, this is not one person’s fault. We must learn to communicate better and maintain enough tolerance.” And patience, after all, this is the way to a long-lasting marriage.” After successfully completing the above operations, coupled with the atmosphere at this moment and matching your words, he will definitely understand your true feelings. 8. Consolidation: When he is willing to come back to you, you need to reorganize your emotional model. After all, the previous marriage business model has failed. Only by rediscovering your marriage business model can you truly get everything back on track and completely consolidate your marriage. However, don’t rush for success. After all, this is a step-by-step process. You must be good at observing, detecting changes in your partner’s attitude, and observing every change in the marriage. Only in this way can you find the true success of your marriage in mutual tolerance. Let's go forward hand in hand and be happy forever.