The flowers are gorgeous and quiet.

"He loves you easily, and he will touch you. For each of us ordinary people, the luckiest thing is that someone loves your dreams from beginning to end, loves everything about you, protects you from the wind and rain, and is willing to travel around the world for you. Every day in the future, when we are warm and self-aware, we can look at each other warmly, smile and never give up. "

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When I reach the age of marriage, I always talk about feelings. A while ago, I chatted with my best friend in the United States. When I talked about this, I returned to this topic.

"How long are you going to eat dog food?" The girlfriend said helplessly.

"Well, I can't answer this question. I've seen a lot of "grass" to ask my future Mr. Right. Naturally, I have to find out what kind of "grass" can be worthy of my "flowers", and then ride my horse and share the prosperity of the world. " I said jokingly.

"I'm worried sick. I'm not talking about you. If you are too handsome, your eyes are too ugly, your mood is too stupid, and you can't catch it, you will feel insecure. What else do you want to choose? In fact, when two people are together, it is more a trivial matter of life. After more than a year's experience of marriage, and looking at the couples of classmates and friends around me, I feel more and more that "knowing the cold and knowing the heat" is the warmth of life. People in their late thirties are not handsome or married, and sweet words are not practical. It is true to find someone who knows how to be cold and hot. " My best friend taught me seriously.

After listening, I felt a little helpless embarrassment and a burst of inexplicable sadness.

The tone of my best friend is very similar to that of the elders at home, which makes me afraid that my children will do something wrong. My mother often nags, looks can be eaten as food, and she can live a good life by looking at her eyes every day. The most practical thing is not that he knows you, he will take care of his family, be careful and considerate, and know how to be warm and cold.

At that moment, sitting quietly in the rented room, the air was a little cold after the rain. I was expecting someone to pour me hot water, hold me in a warm hand and tell me that he would accompany me.

In a trance, I understood the meaning of everyone's warning that "it is true to find a person who knows the cold and the hot".

Think about these years, many friends introduced me, and I refused without mercy. The most common sentence is: his looks don't meet my standards, no matter how enthusiastic he is.

Let others earnestly advise them how to be considerate, try to see if it is appropriate and warm up their prejudice against appearance. I can't even hear it, because in my dictionary, appearance is king, and warmth is just a plus item.

As a result of stubbornness, my friends stopped introducing me and coaxing me, leaving me to fend for myself, so I went further and further on the road of older women.

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Last August, my best friend Z broke up with her handsome boyfriend since childhood, ended her five-year relationship and chose an ordinary boy who was transferred from other branches and had not known him for three months. I was puzzled, so I quarreled with her, filled with indignation, accusing her of picking up sesame seeds and losing watermelon, and accusing her of liking the new and hating the old.

In the face of fierce criticism, Z is very calm. Tell me I'm not as complicated as you think. I just want to find someone who knows both cold and hot. Some people care on weekdays, and some people feel distressed when they are sick. You haven't experienced it, and you can't appreciate the happiness of staying in a cold relationship for five years and accepting the sunshine again.

Seeing her persistence and holding her happy attitude, I no longer openly oppose it and am noncommittal. After all, it's like drinking water, I know it very well.

In order to resolve my potential hostility to her boyfriend, she will mention his kindness to me from time to time.

Girlfriend goes shopping in long skirt and high heels. When riding the escalator, boys always help her lift her skirt and remind her to stand firm.

When eating western-style steak together, boys always cut the steak into pieces for her to eat and remove the tendons that are easy to stick to her teeth;

On rainy days, he will hug his best friend's shoulder tightly, and his umbrella will tilt towards his best friend. Every time he comes home, his best friend only wets his shoes and socks and is dripping all over.

When his girlfriend goes abroad to play with friends, he will help change foreign currency and make a good strategy in advance. In addition to playing the game, there are all kinds of considerate tips, and I have repeatedly explained that you can call him for help at any time if you have any problems.

My best friend talked about a lot of trivial things. Every time she mentions her boyfriend, she smiles from ear to ear and her face is full of happiness. I always hit her mercilessly. "Is this not normal?" Shouldn't a man in love be like this? There is nothing to show off. "She will also fight back:" You will know when we meet later. How much love is just romantic in form, lacking warmth in action is just not warm enough! " "

However, I have to admit that one winter, seeing my boyfriend silently holding her hand and putting it in his pocket touched my heart.

August 25th this year is the first anniversary of their love. On such a special day, they entered the marriage hall. As a bridesmaid, I attended the wedding and exchanged rings, which was impressive.

My best friend's husband said, "I'm not good at words. I went to Baidu last night and got many beautiful words and sentences. Today I want to express my love. Now I find my head blank and useless. Finally, I just want to say that I am ugly, but I am gentle, I am ugly, but I am warm. I will warm you with the rest of my life. "

My best friend was moved to tears, choked several times and cried makeup.

A few simple words, warm feelings, and beautiful sweet words can't compare with the sentence "I will warm you for a lifetime as I saw you for the first time."

I finally believe that my best friend has found a good man who looks ordinary but knows how to be warm and cold, and she will always be happy.

I finally understand that warmth is a person's temperament and an attitude of communicating with others. Warm man won't let your love depend on your own imagination. He will use actions to be more specific, warm when cold, appear when needed, share when happy, and share when painful, instead of letting you walk alone and support.

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After reading the first issue of Art Life, I asked Guest Wang, why don't you get married when you are 40 years old? Wang said she hasn't found the right one yet. "What are you looking for?" Wang Wenzhi paused before answering: "I just want to find someone who can chat anytime and anywhere!"

Zhu Jun said, "Isn't it easy?"

Wang shook his head and said seriously, "It's not easy! It's not easy! For example, if you think of something in the middle of the night, you call her and she will say,' What time is it? How sleepy, let's talk about it tomorrow.' You lose interest immediately, and some words, in some cases, for some people, don't want to say it if you think about it. It's not easy to find someone who you want to talk to and can talk to! "

Celebrities are glamorous in front of people, and people, like the general public, just want to find someone with similar interests who knows how to spend their lives together.

It is said that marriage is the second cycle of life. Finding a like-minded person who knows the cold and the hot is the correct second child. Some people always say they are good to you, but they are hesitant in their actions. People who know the cold and know the hot will pay attention to you and be able to read your needs. He knows that you need to be cared for, hugged and protected, and that you are very important to him.

Just like when I was a child, my parents often quarreled, my mother was strong and my father was stubborn. During the cold war, my father still gave my mother medicine and water when her stomach ached, and gave her a relaxing massage when her leg cramped at night, so he still gave her food and sex. Dad knows how to be cold and know how to be hot, and he can always get his mother's understanding and get back together quickly!

In fact, countless feelings and marriages have been shattered, not because they don't love, but because their hearts are cold, their enthusiasm for you is calm, and then their hearts are cold, and there is no reason to continue.

And countless successful examples tell us that it is not because of much love, but because of kindness and warmth, trust and dependence are generated, and the idea of letting go is no longer generated.

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A good friend once recommended me to listen to an unpopular song, Guo's "A Good Man Knowing Cold and Hot", because the lyrics are straightforward, but also sincere and hit the nail on the head. There is a lyric in it that goes like this:

"Slowly understand that love is the responsibility of two people. Neither red wine nor French food can meet a true lover. Find a man who loves you and give yourself to him. The warmth of fried dough sticks and soybean milk is actually the most real. Find a good man who knows how to be warm and cold. He will be a person who loves you. It doesn't matter how much money. The important thing is that he understands your heart and finds a good man who knows how to be warm and cold. It can give you happiness.

Yes, we all just want to find a friend who knows how to be warm and cold. We can eat soybean milk fried dough sticks with you at breakfast, send you a brief greeting when we are busy, hold your hand for a walk when we are idle, lean on your shoulder when we are tired, hold you in our arms to keep warm when we are cold, hold back when we are troubled, empathize with you when we are in trouble, and fully support you ...... Only warm little details and simple sweetness can breed full love.

Lee Hyo Ri and Li Shangshun, who once caused boos, were attracted by an ugly warm man. After the low-key wedding, they lived a beautiful semi-secluded life in Jeju Island. Today, Lee Hyo Ri took off her heavy makeup and showed a fresh face. Her mouth is full of satisfaction with vicissitudes of life, her eyes are shining like water, and she is surrounded by a lover who knows how to be warm and cold. This is probably a happy time.

I understand other people's happiness, and I understand that "the harmony between the piano and the piano is not easy to seek, and it is the most rare to know the cold and know the heat."

It's important to find a man who knows both hot and cold. I am willing to travel around the world for you. In the future, it is enough to warm and smile at each other and never give up.