In the past, relatives and friends rarely had the opportunity to get together in a year. Therefore, when guests arrive, upper-middle class people will kill chickens and ducks to entertain them. Even if conditions don't allow, they will go around their neighbors. At least, they should "peel" a plate of eggs or cook powder with eggs, and the host will entertain the guests. Even if the table is full of big fish and meat, they will politely say "simple tea and light rice, not a single dish" to the guests, and constantly send meat to the guests' bowls.

Whether it's a red event, a white event or a divine event, we can't ignore the seating arrangement of the guests attending the banquet, otherwise it would be a big mistake. In the banquet seating of rural customs, the "upper horizontal head" is the first in each banquet, and the "left" is the largest. "Horizontal head" is relative. The determination of "Sheung Shui Flat Head" varies with the display position.

The most common and noble "upper horizontal head", the male seat is usually located in the first seat on the left side of the ancestral hall, and the female seat is located in the first seat on the left side of the ancestral hall (ancestral hall). In the old days, men and women had separate banquets. The main room of Dalongwei House had three halls, and there was a screen between the upper hall and the middle hall. The upper hall is for women and the middle hall is for men.

The side of the upper hall near the ancestral tablet is the upper horizontal head, in which the upper horizontal head of the first seat in the left row is the first and the upper horizontal head of the first seat in the right row is the second. Therefore, the most distinguished guest among the female guests must be at the top of the first seat on the left side of the upper hall, and she is the first person to be invited to the table among all the guests. Similarly, the first seat near the screen in the left row of the central hall is the upper horizontal head.

The so-called "respect" and "expensive" are all "choices" in reality. In secular society, "official ceremony" is greater than "family ceremony". No matter whether it is red, white or divine, all official figures are invited into the chief "upper horizontal head" as "distinguished". Except those who are distinguished by relatives and in-laws, they usually sit across the table to avoid rudeness.

The antonym of "upper crosshead" is "lower crosshead". It's the waiter who sits at the roadside delivering vegetables and "gets off the crosshead". Don't underestimate the "escort", especially for the first and chief "escort" personnel, we must strictly select and know the rules and etiquette, otherwise it will still make a joke.

Of course, it is not easy to sit on the "upper horizontal head", especially the "upper horizontal head" of the first head is even more difficult to sit on. Because people have pushed you to the table, you should have a real aristocratic demeanor. All the people sitting at the top must be polite. In the red event, you must stand up before the opening ceremony, make a short and incisive memorial speech, and raise a glass to congratulate the host family. In vain, the dutiful son and grandson gave you a "gift of gratitude". You must help with the gift and persuade them to "grieve". In the sacred affairs, you must improvise "adding fuel to the fire" and do the sacred affairs well.