My ranking is: family health > family happiness > self-realization.
I saw American sociologists follow many people and found that happiness and money are not necessarily related, but whether there is a stable and harmonious family relationship.
People's innate social attributes are rooted in human genes. No one is an island, and we are bound to be connected with society. People's social attributes include belonging, identification, trust and being needed. And having a harmonious and stable family relationship can meet our social and emotional needs to the greatest extent.
Why does family relationship only rank second? Because the foundation and premise of the relationship is life and healthy body. My family here are all healthy, including myself. Having a healthy body is the premise and foundation of long-term companionship.
Secondly, although I am eager to be a mature and independent metropolis woman, I pursue self-realization. But this is only one of the conditions of happiness. But for me, a happy family relationship can promote me to pursue self-realization better. If the family relationship is not harmonious, it will greatly affect the realization of my self-worth.
Family health
This year, I finally persuaded Pan Ge to buy several insurances for him and his family. The family finally stopped streaking.
Regular physical examination every year, although there are many minor problems, but at least there is no serious illness. I finished the hpv tetravalent vaccine this year, and I was a little relieved.
Brother Pan and I both have bad stomachs, so it's easy to have diarrhea when eating takeout. So I cooked by myself most of the time at home this year, and I also unlocked several dishes. This not only saves money, but also eats nutritionally and comfortably.
I don't like fruit very much. I only eat staple food. Under the influence of Brother Pan, the frequency of eating fruit has increased a lot this year, which should be maintained.
This year, because I often wear a mask, I have almost never committed rhinitis, and it is also a year when I take less medicine.
Old people on both sides also have many minor problems, but this year is still relatively stable. Every year, I am also doing a physical examination of the local organization. I hope they will be safe and healthy in the new year.
domestic happiness
The most important family relationship is the intimate relationship (between husband and wife) and the relationship between the next generation of relatives.
After two and a half years of marriage, the intimate relationship has also gone through several stages. I also gradually found the state from getting along. Marriage management is a bit like running a company, not just living, but trying to make it develop better. I have just started, and there are still many ways to go in the future.
The relationship with parents and children is the second level. The first half is accompanied by parents and the second half by children. They are very important people in my life. As for my relationship with my parents, I think I get along well at present, but I feel guilty because I didn't give them much help financially.
If you enter a new stage of life in the near future, getting along with your parents and children will be a real test. Of course, after handling, the happiness doubles.
Self - realization
Family health and happiness is a long stream, and self-realization is to invest most of your time and energy.
Self-realization is a bit broad for me. To put it simply, I can do what I like and bring economic benefits. Ideally, I can bring value to society, which is self-realization.
At present, I am still doing something that can bring benefits, and I like it hard.
I like reading and recording. Although there is no economic benefit, it brings me a lot of emotional comfort. I gained more self-affirmation and inspired my enthusiasm for life.
But I haven't done enough. Remember what Huiyou Maria said, you must insist on doing the right thing. In the new year, keep doing the right thing.
After writing the above, I found that I didn't arrange too much energy and attention on the key points. My time is filled with work and entertainment, and I seldom settle down and devote myself to these things that really have a great impact on my life.
This year, I didn't insist on too much exercise, and my financial and emotional investment in my family was average. In order to improve the life of family members, they have made no progress in planning what to do, and often perfunctory themselves in self-realization. Where has all my time gone?
It's time to raise the flag at the beginning of the year. This year, my deskmate MT and many friends planted "complex" grass. I'm going to practice my New Year's resolution on 202 1.