Later, mother Jing saw a netizen talking about her parents. Before, her father was a serious mother-in-law, and all her wages were paid to her grandmother, who even washed her clothes. Later, after her mother married her father, she discovered the problem. Later, her mother went back to her mother's house for dinner (because her father's salary was in her grandmother's hand and she had no money to buy food). Dad's clothes are not washed. She can put them in smelly clothes and throw them in the trash can. Later, my father slowly changed, paying my mother's salary, and buying food, cooking and doing housework before giving birth.

A clever mother will start to cultivate her father when she is pregnant. When her father is well trained, the child is born, and there is basically nothing for her except breastfeeding.

The first thing: the layout of the nursery

Some families need a bed because children sleep by themselves as soon as they are born. What kind of crib to buy, where to put it, how to put it, or how to put these things is most suitable for dad.

Because this is also the best opportunity to show dad's strength.

If you don't plan to install a nursery, then the bed at home will be widened and the room will be rearranged after the baby is born, and there will still be physical labor, so the role of dad will be revealed.

When I was watching Thirty, Zhong was pregnant, and her husband said she didn't want children, but she had quietly measured the size of the room and prepared to install a crib. At that time, I thought Chen Yu was really a good husband and father.

The second thing: mom's recipe making.

Generally, in the early stage of pregnancy, the pregnant mother's appetite is not very good, and there may be vomiting during pregnancy, and she wants to vomit even more when she smells the fumes. At this time, the prospective father will take on the job of cooking.

It depends on what kind of food mom can eat. By the second trimester, my mother's appetite is good, and my father will cook some foods with high nutrition, but low fat and average calories to help my mother control her weight.

The same is true in the later period. Make some nutritious recipes for your mother to prevent anemia or diabetes and let your baby grow up healthily.

The third thing: housework contracting.

At that time, I thought of doing epidemic prevention support. A nurse from Sichuan went to Hubei to help. Her husband dropped me off and chased the car and said, I will contract housework for one year when you come back.

Later, I heard that the nurse's husband bought a dishwasher and a sweeping robot, which also showed that he knew how to do housework.

In fact, the best time to train her husband to do housework is when she is pregnant. Considering that the big belly is not easy to bend over, you can't smell the smell of oil smoke in the early days, and you are too crowded to go out to the vegetable market for fear of being met. These are all excellent excuses for your prospective father to do housework.

The fourth thing: ask the prospective father to help relieve the discomfort during pregnancy.

When leg cramps at night after pregnancy, wake dad for a massage. Or feet edema, let dad massage and wash feet with foot washing water.

Sometimes it's not convenient to wash your hair, so you can ask dad for help.

The fifth thing: dad goes to mom's class together.

The hospital will organize some studies for pregnant women, such as what to pay attention to after pregnancy. After pregnancy, my mother's memory is not very good, and I need my father to help me remember.

Zhi Zhi used to be a model and attached great importance to her figure, so she didn't eat much meat and didn't eat food such as animal offal. She has been anemic and dare not eat such food after pregnancy.

Later, I went to a class on nutrition for pregnant women. Zhi Zhi's husband began to feed her all kinds of animal offal every week. I didn't expect to cure Zhi Zhi's iron deficiency anemia without taking medicine.

So it is also very useful to take dad to the maternity class.

The pregnancy class still teaches how to hold a newborn and how to bathe it. Think about it. If the father learns these jobs, then the mother really only needs to be a moving cow after giving birth, and other living fathers can take care of it.

The sixth thing: let dad do exercises.

When colleagues, relatives and friends around you give birth to a child, you can ask your father to do some practical exercises, such as how to hold the child, how to make milk powder for the child, and how to change the diaper for the child, so that you won't say that you are in a hurry after the child is born.

Changing diapers will be the other way around. I don't know whether to put water or milk first when making milk powder.

Seventh thing: let dad go to the prenatal examination together.

At present, it is necessary to make an appointment in advance to do a prenatal examination in the hospital. Some doctors are so nervous that they even have to make an appointment at midnight. So these things need dad to come.

Besides, when I went to the hospital, there were many people. While paying the money, they may have to go to the hospital for examination. These two people can work together to make dad feel that it is not easy to have children.

Eighth thing: read prenatal education stories to children.

Every day, the mother and the baby are integrated, and the baby is tired of listening to the mother's voice. Dad's low magnetic voice is still strange to children.

Studies have found that dad's voice is more likely to penetrate amniotic fluid and enter the baby's ear, so we suggest that the task of telling prenatal education stories should be given to dad after the child is 6 months old, so that the child will know how to listen to his voice after birth.

Ninth thing: be a punching bag for pregnant mothers

Women's emotions are generally more sensitive. After pregnancy, they will be very anxious about which items are abnormal and have an inexplicable fear of having children. Therefore, the prospective father should be able to understand his mother's emotions and be a punching bag for his mother when necessary.

When pregnant, the mother consciously arranges the above nine things for the prospective father to do, which will make the father feel more responsible and more willing to talk to him after the baby is born. See if you did it.