The wedding customs in Fuzhou are as follows:
" c3 Z. W' |' c# {- P! l' _1 N( p (1) First, the man must go to the woman's home to propose marriage. The man has to give the woman's father a gift of 33,000, and also give the woman's mother 3,000 or more money for stomachache, because it is not easy for the woman's mother to give birth to a woman; 5 j5 q% l3 E8 S+ }( U, Z/ O< /p>
(2) Secondly, the man buys the woman three sets of wedding clothes, inside and outside (including underwear, underwear, autumn clothes, autumn pants and outer suits), suitcases, bags, etc., because The woman’s mother should give some expenses to the woman’s parents after giving birth to the woman. If you are a man, when you pick up the bride and take her to the groom’s house, you will have to kneel down and worship all the relatives of the groom’s family;
' |; K- o( K6 w* A' A' P (4) Fourth: When the man goes to pick up the woman, he needs to use a red umbrella to block the sun and not let the sun shine on the woman’s face;
$ i' @ M) M$ D; n( M (5) Fifth, the man The hotel must be booked after discussing with the woman, and the guests must be greeted at the door of the hotel on the day of the wedding; i1 _: O+ v$ G! _. Buckets, red wash basins and other household utensils; % H* @4 X0 m. N D; k. "Custom. When the bride goes to the kitchen, she wears an apron, burns firewood first, then boils the eggs, and sings with her house mother: Before the newlyweds go to the stove, the layers of property are "salty" (high)... This is a demonstration ritual. The bride just made a move
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# e8 z! }( Z5 U: C On the second day, there were also some. Three to five days later, the bride will go to the kitchen to cook, which is called "testing the tripod." At this time, mothers, aunts, aunts and other relatives and elders come to watch. They can suggest how to cook this dish, how to stew it, how to cook it, etc. It can range from cutting vegetables with a knife, cutting open fish and carving meat, to using oil, salt and glutinous rice sauce. , conduct inspections and propose topics for cooking. They are generally instructive in order to cook well and stir-fry well. If one or two relatives and elders deliberately propose topics, the bride should have her own opinions and not just listen to random opinions to avoid mistakes. . But as a bride, it’s not easy to just say “whatever you say,” and your cooking skills should have your own character. If someone asks, just say, “Try the taste first, and I’ll follow your instructions next time.” Or Respond calmly and humbly to "eat and see first, and then cook according to your instructions" to avoid "butting the cow" and causing unnecessary complications. The tripod test usually involves boiling tofu and serving it with oysters and garlic. After the tofu soup is boiled, add the thin sweet potato starch. This step is very critical. If you add too much flour, the tofu soup will condense into lumps; if you add too little flour, the tofu soup will not form a soup. The bride should try the tripod calmly, so as not to panic and cause an imbalance of salty, sour, bitter, spicy and sweet tastes. Farmers attach great importance to tofu, which is homophonic to "wu" (有), which is a good sign; oysters, commonly known as "oyster", are homophonic to "dizi" (child); garlic, commonly known as "garlic", are homophonic to "grandson" (grandson) Wait, this is the pursuit and expectation of Xijia. . E" D# c4 n8 e `
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After a woman gets married, sometimes on the next day or sometimes on the third day, the bride’s family will send the bride’s brothers and nephews to the groom’s house to “invite the bride and groom back.” With the representatives of the younger generation leading the way, we go back home together. If the two families are far apart, we have to take a sedan chair, carry a bicycle, or take a boat. Now that the transportation is convenient, we can choose to take a car. " _1 N/ H( V0 p4 x
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Please come back to the door. It was called Guining in ancient times. You are only here for one day. Those who return to the husband's house that night are called "please catch the candle" and are scheduled to return to the husband's house when the candle is bright and the night is dark; if the road is far or the girl's house is lively, they can stay for three to five days, so that they can meet relatives and friends of the girl's family. In lively scenes, people can make fun and funny jokes to the groom (commonly known as uncle or brother-in-law). As a new son-in-law, you must be polite to others, behave in a civilized manner, and answer questions tactfully to avoid being trapped in the "trap" of conspiracy and conspiracy. You have to be punished and laughed at at the same time. For example, if the cup of tea is overflowing, you must hold it up smoothly without dripping or leaking. Or if the food is too flat, how to use chopsticks to pick up the noodles. All other actions must be paid attention to. Some use ivory chopsticks or silver chopsticks for the new son-in-law. You must use your brain and deal with it calmly. In addition, you must pay attention to how to drink wine, how to pick up food, and how to talk during the banquet. If there is a slight mistake, it will be a big mistake. To be "punished (fined)."
From a single fine, buying gifts and cakes and dividing them among relatives and friends present, which is called "small meal"; to collecting several fines and hosting a banquet to entertain relatives and friends present, which is called "big meal". The new son-in-law was "snatched", leaving the "silly son-in-law" as a laughing stock and a "talking head" for a long time. Generally, the parents-in-law intervene in excessive "picking up food", as long as the new son-in-law is not mentally retarded or makes a fool of himself.
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) }! @8 O( j2 t" J$ D! F# K" s) Marriage, it’s time for a girl to get married. How to get married? Except for the fact that the parents of both parties know each other, are friendly to each other, and form a marriage, or the man and woman have known each other since childhood and got married when they grow up, they usually need to be matched through a matchmaker. Most of the people who act as matchmakers are elderly women, and people call them "matchmakers" to show their respect.
) N/ K; the difference. The so-called dual media refers to the cooperation between a male matchmaker trusted by the husband's family and a female matchmaker trusted by the girl's family, which is more likely to achieve success smoothly. Single matchmaker refers to someone who is asked by the man's family to arrange marriage with the girl's family, or someone who is asked by the girl's family to arrange marriage with the husband's family. Matchmaker, also known as "introducer". In the old days, matchmakers were a social profession. Most of them were women with little knowledge and low education. They made a living by talking as matchmakers. They were often irresponsible, cheated, and simply made a match to get a sum of "matchmaker's money" (today's called introduction fee). Therefore, the word "matchmaker" also has a derogatory meaning, which corresponds to the folk proverbs "the matchmaker's mouth makes the dog fart", "the matchmaker has to eat eighteen meals" and so on. Of course, there are still "matchmakers" in some remote areas today, and in urban and rural areas, it is mostly relatives and friends who are entrusted to act as "introducers", playing the role of connecting and communicating. This kind of non-professional matchmaker is quite popular with both men and women. Because men and women who fall in love freely do not need to rely on a "matchmaker" to understand and reconcile. However, many marriage agencies and marriage recruitment agencies are also alternatives to "matchmakers". Many people don't know each other, but in the process of falling in love and getting married, the man and woman get to know each other and love each other. In the end, they have to communicate and get married through an intermediary introducer. Bingfangma, commonly known as "bridesmaid", refers to the fact that when a girl gets married, the parents need to find someone to accompany the bride. Because it is inconvenient for a bride to enter her husband's house for the first time, the people and the place are unfamiliar, so the bride's family has to hire someone to accompany her. The housemates usually choose women who are good-looking, articulate, familiar with etiquette, and amiable and humorous. In the old days, there were two types of roommates: single and double partners, and there were differences in time between long-term partners and short-term partners. A short companionship of a few days, a long-term companionship of more than a month.
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. `7 r6 k' s, A8 a) \A housewife is also a kind of Social occupations in Fuzhou were mostly undertaken by women from Shuishui families. From the day before the wedding, the bride is invited to accompany her, preparing to "go out", and taught etiquette, until the wedding ceremony is completed, and she accompanies her to visit her parents-in-law and relatives. He always addresses and pays respects to the bride, and his words and deeds are clean and generous. Especially when there is a quarrel in the house, the housewife must play the role of adapting to the situation and speaking out to help the bride, and try her best to protect the bride from being ridiculed or ridiculed. Whenever relatives and friends make trouble, or when some relatives and friends do anything, the housewife must be good at mediating it, persuade her with good words, and try her best to protect her. She must encourage the bride to be more easy-going and allow some entertaining performances; she must also mediate the situation. Some relatives and friends are angry at others, avoid "pranks", and do not make them "hold their arms" (referring to congratulations on newlyweds who make trouble but fail to laugh at them). The bridesmaid plays a coordinating role in this special environment and must be good at random answers and originality. Because the bridesmaids are a little older and most of the relatives and friends involved in the marriage are younger, they are called "the bridesmaids' mothers".
0 F, s J, M. f: L3 {. and personnel mission, while also taking care of the bride’s life. On the night of the wedding, the bride and groom are also instructed to drink acacia wine and the customs and etiquette of the newlywed's daily life and food are given. Often after the wedding, the bride's mother will ask the groom for a red envelope. After the groom paid one portion, he also asked for additional ones. "Tian" means adding hair and nails, and the groom must meet this "add" requirement. At this point, the roommate's work is over and she can leave that night or the next morning.
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If you have any, please "return" "Door" means that as soon as the bride and groom arrive at the bride's house, they must be accompanied by the housekeeper's mother. When the ceremony is completed and the housekeeper's mother's errands have been completed, she will leave. This time will give you a little more time, and rich people can hire Over the month.
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" N; I" n# u! The "exit chengzhang" has been passed down from generation to generation. After the bride enters the groom's family, traditional songs are sung on every occasion.
For example, "The Bride's Entry Song": When the bride enters the door, she will have good fortune and longevity, the flowers will bloom all year round, and the children will sit in the basin... "The Groom's Uncovering Song": If you can lift the lid as high as you can, the wealth (family wealth) will rise; if you lift the lid high enough, the house will be built. Buying a field and hugging a younger brother; uncovering the cover and uncovering the center, four generations and two grandsons... "Song of Patting the House Door": As soon as the door is knocked, a greeting is heard, the magpies in front of the eaves report good news, the wild geese fly together to grow in love, the mandarin ducks pair up and stay in love forever... " "Acacia Drinking Song": The bride eats chicken heads, and the family property goes upstairs; the bride eats chicken [bone intercourse], and the more she becomes rich; the bride eats chicken wings, and her work is worthwhile (a good sign); the bride eats chicken bottoms, and she will become a mother-in-law next year. ...Whenever the accompanying mother sings and sings a line, everyone should cheer and respond: "Okay!"