Wenxuan is already in Grade One. On weekdays, he goes to school by bike. On the way to school this day, Wenxuan accidentally scraped a private car parked on the side of the road while pushing a car to play with his classmates.
Although the abrasion was not particularly serious, Wenxuan looked around and didn't see the owner. He stayed by the car for a long time without waiting for the owner, so Wenxuan left a note and went back.
When the owner came back and saw the words on the note and the scratches on the car, he was not angry at all. The child explained and apologized on the note and left his mother's phone number.
Curious and worried about whether the child was injured, the owner still dialed this number, and the child's mother answered the phone.
Wenxuan told her mother what happened when she got home, so she was not surprised when she received the phone call. After apologizing to the owner on the phone, she also offered compensation. Although the host refused again and again, Wenxuan's mother insisted on paying compensation. After the owner finally consulted and repaired in the 4S shop, Wenxuan's mother directly transferred the maintenance fee to the owner.
Han Xiao is eleven. Tonight, Han Xiao came back from playing at his classmate's house. When he went downstairs to the community, he saw a private car parked on the side of the road, so he picked up a stone from the ground and drew a straight line on the car body with a pointed end. ...
Just then, the master came back, and Xiao Han threw down the stone and turned and ran. When the owner saw that his newly bought car had only been used for a few days, it was zoned like this, and he quickly followed it to Xiao Han's house.
When the owner found Xiao Han's family, asked Xiao Han's family to educate their children well, and offered compensation, Xiao Han's mother blew up at that time, directly calling it slander or extortion, saying that her children had always been smart and could not have done such a thing. At the same time, Han Xiao's mother said that the owner had just seen Han Xiao run by the car. Is there any evidence to prove what Han Xiao did?
The impatient car owner immediately found the residential property, called up the monitoring and watched Xiaoyan's behavior in the monitoring. Xiaoyan's mother immediately changed her face: "Children are not sensible. What do you care about with a child?" Afterwards, under the coordination of the property, Han Xiao's mother barely took out a few hundred pieces.
How important is the role model of parents?
People often complain that there are more and more Xiong Haizi around, but Xiong Haizi can almost see his parents. These parents almost turn a blind eye to their children's behavior. Even if their children make mistakes or argue with others, these parents like to blame others for their mistakes, such as Han Xiao's mother in case 2.
It is not terrible for children to make mistakes, but parents must guide their children to learn some life experiences from mistakes. Apologize, review and compensation are also consequences that should be borne.
As parents, we should help our children learn from their mistakes, so that they can learn and grow from them. Looking at what Wenxuan's mother did in case one, it is not surprising that Wenxuan can harvest such an educated child.
Small mistakes can still be made up, and parents can correct them in time to prevent their children from making bigger mistakes. You know, some big mistakes don't even have a chance to regret!
What if the child makes a mistake?
1, face up to your child's shortcomings or mistakes
When children make mistakes, even if the mistakes are excessive, parents can't escape. They must face up to it, help children realize their wrong behavior and guide them to correct it.
2. Rethink whether family education has brought bad influence to children.
Most of the reasons why children make major mistakes must come from family influence. For example, children lack care and warmth in the process of growing up, and parents fail to find and correct their bad behavior in time. Therefore, parents must reflect on whether they have really given their children a conscience education.
3. Give children the opportunity and space to turn over a new leaf.
For those mistakes that have not caused serious consequences, parents should tolerate and accept them and give reasonable warnings; For the serious mistakes that have happened, parents should also give their children the opportunity and space to turn over a new leaf, and tell their children that their families are his eternal reliance. As long as the child has the determination to correct, the family will always support him and give him strength.
4. Remind children which mistakes can be absolutely made.
On the road of children's growth, parents must remind their children which mistakes must not be made! For example, illegal behavior may seriously sacrifice freedom and even life; For example, serious violations of discipline, such as cheating in exams at critical times, may delay the future of a lifetime.