0 1 confidante: Li Jia (a pseudonym)

We have been married for six years. Before, we had been working outside. I spend what I earn, and he spends what he earns. Life used to be very nourishing, but since I had children, there have been many problems.

Because I haven't saved money for so many years, I can only go back to my hometown to recuperate after having children. My hometown is rural, and my parents grow rice and vegetables at home, which costs a lot less every month.

My parents-in-law are very happy to hear that I am pregnant. They cook me a lot of delicious food every day, and my husband sends money back to my parents from time to time. Later, my husband changed jobs. He said that the current job is too hard, the salary is low and the risk is high. Because he is operating the machine in the factory and has to work at night, it is naturally risky. The new job is selling houses. Some powerful salesmen earn hundreds of thousands a month.

We thought life would get better, but it didn't. My husband didn't sell a suite for a long time, and finally sold a suite. He also said that buying a house has to go through many procedures, and it will take some time for the commission to be paid. After waiting and waiting, there is still no money. He said that going to work by car every day and inviting customers to dinner are all at their own expense.

So, all year round, I didn't ask for any money, but my children wanted to buy milk powder, diapers and occasionally some fruit. Sometimes my relatives over there hold banquets, marry women, celebrate my birthday and marry a daughter-in-law. The new house is too far away, which is also my gift, but I have to take care of the children and don't go out to work, so I have no money.

When my father-in-law has a birthday and my mother-in-law has a birthday, my husband always gives them 1000 yuan. My father-in-law harvests rice, and my husband gives me 1000 yuan. Later, my mother-in-law was ill and hospitalized, and they were also given lucky money on Dragon Boat Festival, Chinese New Year, Mid-Autumn Festival and Chinese New Year. A year later, she gave them more money than she gave me, and he didn't save any money all year round.

? I am very angry. "You give your parents so much money a year, what do we spend?" "How much does it cost you to take care of your children at home? Parents have food for you. "

"It is free to buy milk powder, diapers, fruits, banquets and drinks."

"Qian Qian money, you know money all day, and I make money myself every time."

"Then how do you give money to your parents?"

"My parents raised me, but I still want to support you. I can't give them money. "

"Let's go, we are divorced, and you live with your parents."

"You are gone, who is afraid of who, and you have to raise a loss-making goods."

I cried and felt so sad.

Emotional information:

Things like your family and my family, emotional things, are often encountered in our lives, and the key is how to solve them. What I want to say, Ms. Li Jia, is that your husband is on the side of his parents. In his life, his parents are a very important part of his life, and his parents' share is for him. But you should discuss how to give more or less, but you should also do what you can. After all, you have a family to support.

In addition, I suggest that you record your consumption expenditure with a pen, form a good habit of bookkeeping, and show it to your husband regularly, so that he can know how much you spend and how much it will cost at a glance, and won't think that you don't need to spend much money to take care of your children at home.

Furthermore, I suggest your husband change to a stable job and settle down, so that he can have a stable income every month, which is better than those figures that he can't get as expected. After all, everyone's situation and ability are different, and what suits others may not be suitable for you. Of course, your husband also has what your husband is good at. Being down to earth is the most important thing.

Finally, I want to say that if possible, we women should try our best to be financially independent. Only when we are independent can we not be limited by everything and stand upright.

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