Therefore, if you want a person to have a good impression on yourself, you need not only praise, but also learn to praise first. Here are a few small examples of compound communication, and everyone can immediately feel the benefits of belittling first and then praising: for example, asking for help from your predecessor, and then blindly praising "Wow, that's amazing, I feel that you can solve anything!" So he doesn't remember it deeply or painlessly, but he is suspicious. No big deal. I don't think he is so pompous to please me.
Let's watch it again: "Science is definitely not good at writing copywriting." At this time, the feeling for girls is unconvinced. How can there be no outstanding talents in science? At this time, you need to add "I didn't expect you to be a great god, and finally found the right person this time!" At this time, the satisfaction of the other party will increase sharply and the relationship between the two people can be further improved. In the process of communication, don't be afraid to annoy the other party, and don't be afraid that the other party will ignore you. In fact, the essence of communication lies in interactive communication, which makes small talk more comfortable and interesting. More importantly, it makes him feel that you know him, which is stronger than anything else.
Reduce the expectations of the other party and create an impression gap. Anna was so kind to her boyfriend in the previous relationship that she couldn't get well and there was no room for promotion! The consequence is that you pay for your boyfriend and can't provide a lot of feedback adjustment. If Anna relaxes a little, she will give her boyfriend negative feedback. In other words, the information feedback of two people is unbalanced. Normal information feedback is that you are good to your boyfriend and he adjusts the feedback; Your boyfriend loves you dearly. If you give your boyfriend feedback and adjustment, their feelings will continue to increase.
If it is applied to the compound type, you can't play all your cards at once. To improve your space, the best way is to lower the opponent's estimate and get a higher satisfaction rate. As for Anna's phenomenon, because she used to live with her boyfriend and could hardly cook, after a month of hard study and cooking practice, I arranged for her to meet her boyfriend and fully demonstrated her talents. I said to that boy, "You know I can't cook. I have learned a few simple recipes recently, and I will cook them all in the future. Don't laugh at me if it's not delicious! " The boy made sure that he didn't laugh again and again, and minimized his expectations.
However, when Anna tried her best to serve chicken, duck and fish, the boy shouted delicious food and was full of praise. "I didn't expect you to have such a stunt. I really feel that I know you again! " The gap caused by this satisfaction rate makes it easier for the other party to shine at the moment and have more interest and curiosity about you. So, we are trying to create romance for girls. Only a magical and beautiful book can arouse each other's exploration and impulse. But many girls are like a book with more than three pages. How can this make him fall in love with you again?