Recently, the 4th world internet conference opened in Wuzhen, and Internet leaders at home and abroad gathered together. Ding Lei, CEO of Netease, organized a workplace dinner, which was attended by the most famous Internet bosses in China. This workplace dinner is also the strongest Internet workplace dinner!
In fact, the workplace dinner is an eternal topic, and some people are disgusted. They think that workplace dinners are full of hypocrisy and deliberate flattery; Others are very active. They think this is a good opportunity to enhance their feelings and develop their abilities with the leaders.
Is the workplace dinner really for eating? Of course not. If you want to eat ABCDEFG, find yourself a place to eat at the weekend.
Workplace dinners are just a means to connect feelings and bring relationships closer. It really doesn't matter where you eat, what matters is who you eat and what you talk about. Therefore, some brothers and sisters are particularly entangled in what to eat at the workplace. I think, as long as it is not eating shit, as long as it is not eating, it is allergic or can't eat spicy food. It really doesn't matter what you eat. Try to pay more attention to the people who eat, not the dishes. Pay as much attention as possible to what everyone is talking about, what you should say and do.
The purpose of the workplace dinner is very important, predicting the purpose of the other party's treat. The purpose of the workplace dinner must be clear, there is no way, life is full of pits.
For example, sometimes someone invites the author to dinner, I misjudge or the other party hides the purpose of the workplace dinner. As a result, after eating, all kinds of administrative orders ask you to do this and that, and the tone is like red tape. People who eat short mouths are too much trouble.
At the same time, when you entertain others, try to simply convey to each other the participants of the workplace dinner and the purpose of this workplace dinner. This is the most basic respect.
The place for the workplace dinner-generally, if it is the place suggested or designated by the customer, then it's settled.
If it is a workplace dinner in other scenes, as a participant, you can propose a compromise plan. As the organizer of the workplace dinner, try to avoid traffic jams, parking is convenient, and try to choose places with developed traffic such as subway stations. If you have a car, you should consider not having a car. If you don't have a car, you should also consider having a car. And don't selfishly set the workplace dinner near your home, which has no future. Unless you are a local tyrant.
There is also a very important thing about the choice of location, that is, whether eating with customers, colleagues or peers, try to choose restaurants with fewer colleagues and peers. If it really doesn't work, try to choose a private room. It's not just an idiom that walls have ears.
The time setting of the workplace dinner should avoid the overtime hours, rush hours and recognized time periods of the participants.
In China culture, sitting east facing west and sitting north facing south is generally respected, so when guests and friends take their seats in turn, they should take the initiative to give up the position of the host. If there is no east position, give up the north position. At a team or workplace dinner, the second person sits face to face with the boss.
The grade of the workplace dinner can be arranged according to different banquets by sorting out a map of local specialties. If the boss and important customers are invited, the grade should be high, but as long as it is higher than sincerity, it can't be too high, with 300 places per capita. If it is too high, the other party will have pressure.
If it's a bribe banquet, please invite the most famous and expensive one in the area.
Various forms of grading among colleagues are random, and the general team boss comes to listen to everyone's suggestions and finally comes to democratic centralism.
Sometimes the relationship with each other is good to a certain extent, and the delicacy and characteristics of the food are better than the so-called grade.
The words and deeds of the workplace dinner try not to play mobile phones when eating, except for important calls and information.
Especially when eating with customers, peers and bosses, try not to play with mobile phones.
At the same time, talk more, but don't talk too much, don't persuade too much, enough is enough.
If you are a boss or leader, you should pay more attention to whether your subordinates are full and like too much food or drink.
If you are a subordinate, you should pay more attention to leaders and customers, pour wine and tea frequently, hand in paper towels at critical moments, and do a good job of blinking. If you can't even reach this basic quality, just play with your mobile phone and eat by yourself. It's really free to eat.
Finally, don't really. Too much to drink. The so-called wine is a thing that doesn't exist at all. Don't rigidly associate it with personality. In other words, there is no need to pay attention to authenticity when you drink too much. Just drink it. In fact, everyone hates people who drink too much whenever there is a workplace meal, especially those who drink too much and do a lot of things. In addition to leadership.
Don't trust other people's promises on the wine table, and don't make promises when you are excited.
Ordering dinner in the workplace is a great philosophy. There are two kinds of dictatorship and democracy. If it is an important goal, it can be dictatorship. If it is a relatively relaxed scene, it can make everyone feel very free.
If you know clearly that it is the autocratic mode of the host, he will ask you politely, your best choice is casual, and then tell the other party that I don't eat anything. Otherwise, it is not to charge more, but to charge less and lose face.
As a host, to give everyone a chance to eat on the surface, at least ask what they are eating. It is necessary to know roughly where the people at the dinner table are from, what they taste, whether they are spicy or not, and what dishes are basically embryos.
If it is a random democratic model. As a orderer, you can't patronize what I want to eat. A group of people order food, which is the greatest common denominator that they and everyone like, and should mainly miss everyone. Generally speaking, this dish with the greatest common divisor is served faster. Order a side dish, eat a few mouthfuls by yourself, and no one touches it, leaving a big lump, but the operator will feel pity.
The main course, the last course, should be ordered by the operator.
The boss and the boss haven't toasted yet, and it's not your turn. Unless you are the protagonist of the workplace dinner.
When toasting, don't try to drink it all at once. You're cool. Where are the others? It depends on the boss, customers or key people. If they can drink and are still drinking, then you can finish your toast in one gulp. If they can't drink, take a sip, so everyone can come to Taiwan Province. If your boss or client explicitly points out or implies abstinence, you can quit drinking, otherwise don't volunteer.
It's annoying to persuade people to drink at the workplace dinner, at least don't persuade the wrong people. Don't force girls who can't drink and people who are allergic to alcohol to drink.
There is always a reason why the other person doesn't want to drink, either driving, allergic or not feeling in place. Whatever the reason, it is objective and legitimate and cannot be forced.
Clearly understand whether the relationship between yourself and the other party is familiar enough to make jokes by persuading people to drink, clearly understand the objects that should not be persuaded, and clearly understand the frequency and methods of persuading people to drink. Summary: This article is very simple, but few people can do it. The simpler it is, the harder it is to do it well.
The social ability of workplace dinners does not come entirely from talent and personality. The dinner star we thought may have started to experience it a few years earlier than you. In fact, as long as you understand the doorway and make the best preparations, you can also successfully host a good workplace dinner.