Why is this happening? I asked many married male netizens, and they all said that most mothers-in-law want to take advantage of their families, so there are not many reasons for their wives and themselves to deal with their mothers-in-law.
The son-in-law thinks like this:
1, going to mother-in-law's house = spending money lavishly.
Nowadays, many sons-in-law go to their mother-in-law's house, whether on their own initiative or forced by their wives, they have to buy a lot of things to honor their mother-in-law. Not only do you have to carry two bags when you go back, but you also have to give your parents money to buy food to show your gratitude. If their wives, family members, brothers and sisters are unlucky, or they are still students, they must buy gifts and flowers for them, and they can go once or twice occasionally, often? The son-in-law must be unwilling.
I'm afraid my mother-in-law will turn my wife into a demon or want to get benefits from his family.
There are still many parents who prefer boys to girls in rural areas. They taught their daughters from an early age to help their sons do everything well. These parents often subsidize their sons with their daughters' wedding money after their daughters get married. At this time, the son-in-law was the one who was severely crushed, so I often heard men say, "Don't marry my brother's helper." These patriarchal parents, if there is an accident at home and need money, want their daughter's son-in-law to pay for it, regardless of whether their daughter marries well or not, and are unwilling to wronged their son. Do you think the son-in-law wants to go?
My mother-in-law's enthusiasm for him and kindness to him only depend on benefiting from him.
The son-in-law thinks that "mother-in-law is very kind to her son-in-law" is just cooking and asking questions, and will not help the couple buy a house and a car like their parents. Compared with the son-in-law who just asks questions and cooks good food when he comes home, the things he buys and the money he gives to his mother-in-law are probably worthy of such warm hospitality.
4. There are indeed unscrupulous sons-in-law who have bad ideas.
Some mothers-in-law are really good to their sons-in-law, and they will not embarrass their daughters and sons-in-law. They solve their own problems and try not to disturb their children's marriage. But not all son-in-law know that you are good to me and I am good to you. Some son-in-law think that women are my family when they get married, and they must put my family first instead of running away from home often. These people have a wrong idea. After all, your mother-in-law also worked hard to raise your wife, and your wife should be filial, provided that this mother-in-law is also a righteous mother-in-law, not the kind of scum mother-in-law who gives good things to her son and only lets her daughter support her.