During the three months of staying at home during the epidemic, this child, who should have taken the time to study hard, was once addicted to games and online novels to the point of forgetting to eat and sleep, which affected his study. Through this phenomenon, I also found many problems in his habits. I began to reflect on my companionship and habit education in primary school. I was scared when I thought about it, and I felt more and more like a mother who did nothing.
Japan has a super powerful full-time accompanying mother. She has a name familiar to more Japanese families-"Dongda Mama"-Sato Liangzi. She graduated from Tsuda University majoring in English. She used to be an English teacher in a private high school and became a full-time mother after marriage. She accompanied her four children to the Faculty of Medicine of the University of Tokyo, which is famous for its difficulty in taking exams. Various media and counseling institutions invited her to share her experience.
She respects each child's different nature, summarizes many efficient and meticulous original methods, and has written many books to help children learn, such as "90% of the college entrance examination depends on their mothers". Her books are called "Dongda Mom's Positive Accompanying Reading Method", "Super Xueba's Daily Training Manual" and "General Training Strategy × Route Planning Guide".
With anxiety and admiration, I found her recently published "The Best School District Room is Your Home's Study Room" to study. After reading this book, I can't help but sigh that such a mother, such dedication and companionship, the child's character can't be outstanding!
Where your energy and efforts are, your gains are there! A wise and patient mother is the commonality of excellent children. If every mother can accompany her children to study as meticulously, patiently, scientifically and intelligently as Liangzi Sato, every child can become a schoolmaster! Her four children were admitted to the most difficult university of Tokyo. If you can accompany your child to study like her, it is definitely not a dream for your child to be admitted to Peking University Tsinghua! A brief excerpt is as follows:
1, no blame, no comparison, make a backup.
Home is a child's happiest memory. Don't be a mother who keeps her children from feeling warm.
At present, too many families are kidnapped by intense study pressure, and "don't let children lose at the starting line" from the birth of their children, so their lives need constant supervision, discipline and comparison from the beginning. In fact, home should be the happiest memory of each of us. There should be a gentle mother, delicious food, superman's father and a fun family life at home.
Learning is a protracted war, and exams are the fairest arena. How much you pay, how much you get. Children who are not persecuted are happier! Being a strong mother, supporting and encouraging children and becoming the most practical backup force in children's hearts is what every mother should look like!
2, 0-3 years old, to stimulate children's potential.
Modern child psychology research shows that the brain development of children aged 0-3 has a great influence on their life. Liangzi Sato's practice is to read 10,000 picture books and sing 10,000 nursery rhymes for every child before the age of 3, and have fun.
Children with good picture books often need their parents to read them repeatedly. Every time they read one, they count as one, and the same picture book counts as ten times. The advantage of reading the same picture book repeatedly is that children will be familiar with the content of the picture book. In the process of familiarity, children will begin to think and understand the connotation that the picture book wants to express.
The beauty of nursery rhymes lies in the subtlety of language. A mother who hums nursery rhymes to her children at any time will think it is the best and warmest memory of her childhood?
As for playing to the extreme, it is also reasonable. Don't underestimate the role of children. Games are the best way for children to learn. Children who have time to play to the extreme will not only get physical exercise, but also get cognitive and logical thinking. It is a wise parenting idea to let children enjoy themselves early in life.
I did this. I almost feel uneasy at this thought.
3, preschool, let children fall in love with the good habit of learning.
Montessori advocated the cultivation of sensitive period in his view of parenting. On the issue of children's study habits, it is scientific for Liangzi Sato to seize the sensitive period of children and make them fall in love with learning before school.
Don't disturb your child when he is focused on playing. This is the concentration training for your child. When children enter the sensitive period of painting, we should guide them to paint with the most convenient materials, not stick to one pattern, and do not have to paint completely according to the requirements. Children like to start with crayons and use watercolor pens to make them feel the fun of learning. This is the secret weapon to make children fall in love with learning.
Boring oral arithmetic exercises can be marked with markers of different colors, and children's interest will naturally be cultivated by doing oral arithmetic with a color block every day.
Don't give children difficult counseling books from the beginning. "Eight points easy, two points challenge" is the most appropriate. In the process of cultivating children's early study habits, interest is the most important.
Let children do some counseling books within their power, which can greatly increase their self-confidence, and at the same time, the difficulty of two points can make children occasionally experience the joy of success through their own efforts!
Think of the girl in the red vest who recited the multiplication formula in Tik Tok, and say that she is too difficult. Will she love learning? Don't! The mother of science is the operation of Liangzi Sato!
4. In the lower grades of primary school, the basic foundation is the most critical.
Almost all parents know that the foundation of children is very important. In the lower grades of primary school, it is most important to grasp the foundation. What is the basis? Liangzi Sato said: Read, write and count!
"Reading" is the foundation. I don't understand, of course I can't. So "reading" is the foundation of the foundation. The cultivation of "reading" is slowly cultivated from the previous homework. If you don't do this, let your children read the questions carefully now, and read each question three times!
"Text" is the second basis. Writing and rolling paper are already well-known requirements for high marks. In the lower grades of primary school, children should form good habits when they start to learn to write. Pay attention to the posture of holding a pen, sitting posture, hand-eye distance, how to write a pen beautifully, and how to erase it with an eraser when it is wrong.
"Calculation" is the foundation, and all scientific knowledge cannot be separated from calculation. So, what are the "calculations" that need to be mastered in the lower grades of primary schools? Add and subtract within ten, carry addition within ten, multiplication formula! Recite exercises repeatedly and buy different exercise books for children instead of exercises. Every child in Sato Liangzi's family piled up half a meter in basic exercises.
With a solid foundation, successors will be strong. When I think back to my son's junior grade, there is really no solid foundation in these three aspects, so the study habit problem that happened this winter vacation made me extremely painful to recall the wrong stocking of my junior grade. If I can do it all over again, I should master the foundation of children more skillfully!
Don't leave shortcomings and weaknesses before you graduate from primary school.
In the existing education system, the primary school stage is basically the easiest stage for children to learn. With the introduction of national policies, the smoke of "junior high school" gradually dispersed. Whether to select or not, learning is actually their own business. Before the start of middle school study, parents should be clear about their children's learning situation, leaving no shortcomings and weaknesses. This is the experience of Liangzi Sato, a responsible "Dongda mother".
According to the shortcomings and weaknesses that need to be overcome, make a detailed "learning plan"; Weaknesses began to be supplemented from the content three years ago; Reading quantity is not proportional to Chinese reading comprehension ability; Put the back down; News understands the current social situation; You can buy more maps as tools and keep them at hand. Classify the wrong problem book and problem set; Going to the remedial class should also be traced back to the classroom and homework; Check whether you have mastered the knowledge and let the children give lectures. ...
Full of dry goods, it is a problem to look at me carefully and reflect on my son's study habits, but everything else is fine and my requirements are similar.
6. In the middle and high school stage, you can improve your grades quickly by doing problems.
Pay attention to every exam and remedy the bottleneck in time; Learn English sentence patterns first, and remember the problem-solving mode of mathematics; Learn to understand 40% and start to do the questions, and further understand the knowledge points by doing the questions; Conquer a subject in a week and make your brain more active. ...
There are also tips. Problem sets don't need to be done in order, they can be done by leaps and bounds, and then go back and review them when combing.
Notebooks can also choose different colors and styles to change their mood (so detailed! )
7. In the sprint stage, all subjects review the planning and review methods.
Is it useful to brush the questions? It is useful to have a way to brush the questions!
Liangzi Sato mentioned a method in The Best School District Is Your Study: Do a set of exercises three times!
The first time, you can do what you can, but you can't copy the answers in order to save time. The second time, try to do it yourself, and you won't continue to understand. The third time, don't you do it yourself?
This method is similar to the way I brush questions in every exam after I became an adult. I still remember that when I took the exam for psychological counselors that year, I brushed the exam questions for nearly five years four times in a row. At the end of the day, after reading the questions and seeing that the order of the answers has not changed, you can write the answers directly, saving a lot of time. This is also my skill in passing the psychological counselor exam with such a low pass rate.
Don't bury your head in brushing the questions, but it won't work out well until it's dark. If you want to do it, do it wisely, skillfully and usefully!
To sum up:
After reading the book "The best school district is your study", I was deeply touched. There is a way to learn, and being a mother is also a technical job! I consider myself a learning mother and lead an active life, but I really don't take my children's early study habits as seriously as Liangzi Sato.
Looking back at my son's company in the past three months, I didn't do what Liangzi Sato did, that is, "children need to put down what they are doing to accompany them". Although "accompanying students" at home, they are busy with housework and their own affairs, which leads to the phenomenon that children are not conscious but smart enough to make mistakes. Sure enough, reading when people are confused is the best way to relieve boredom. Compared with Liangzi Sato, the mother of Dongda University, I think I still have a long way to go. I am looking forward to my son coming home during the May Day holiday. Let's make the next adjustment!
This is a very detailed accompanying book, suitable for all parents who have "phobia" and want to consciously cultivate their children's good study habits.
A child's intelligence may be related to heredity, but habits must be acquired. If you don't want to be like me, you might as well start changing now!