Whether you are a rural mother or an urban mother, please remember that marrying your daughter is not selling your daughter. There is nothing wrong with asking for some betrothal gifts appropriately. However, if the price is high and the lion is opening its mouth, you should ask yourself, is it appropriate?

Since you are reluctant to let your daughter marry far away, don't agree to the marriage, just lock your daughter up at home. Don't get married and stay with you for the rest of your life, wouldn't it be great!

I am also a daughter, and my mother also married three daughters. Although your family only has one daughter, my family has three daughters. However, in rural areas, I know that many families emphasize that no matter how many daughters they have, it is useless without sons. Therefore, when my daughter gets married, I think about asking for more betrothal gifts.

In fact, this kind of thinking is harmful to people.

Isn’t the daughter a human being? A daughter may be more considerate than a son, and can provide you with something to rely on in your old age!

Back then, I almost got married far away. A girl from the south found a boyfriend from the north, thousands of miles away from home.

My mother is reluctant for me to marry far away, and is worried that I will not live well after I get married, and will be bullied by my in-laws.

So, my mother reasoned with me, presented facts, gave examples, and talked about many things about girls who married far away. Later, after careful consideration, I gave up my first love and married a local man.

Looking back now, I am very grateful to my mother for not letting me marry far away. Otherwise, I would not have such a happy life now.

Let’s talk about the bride price. I will share with you my mother’s method. Do you find it inspiring?

My mother didn’t even ask for a bride price from the groom’s family when she married her three daughters.

It’s not that my family’s economic conditions are very good. On the contrary, my family’s economic conditions are not very good. When my eldest sister and second sister got married, I was still in college and my family bought a new house. It was a time when we were heavily in debt.

In this way, my mother insisted on not wanting a cent from the man as a bride price. Instead, she gave her a dowry of 20,000 in cash, ten sets of bedding, symbolizing perfection, and daily necessities such as pots and pans. Buy them all.

Back then, my parents said this to my eldest brother-in-law and second brother-in-law: I don’t want your money, I just hope that you can live a happy life, which is the best comfort to me. When you need us, we will do our best to help you without asking for anything in return. When we get old, if you still remember our kindness, just come back and visit us more often. ?

My eldest sister’s child has been raised by my mother since birth. The eldest brother-in-law lives out of town, and he teaches in our local area. His parents are too far away from us, and there is an elderly man in his nineties who needs care at home. My mother asked my mother-in-law to take care of the elderly with peace of mind, and the children must be taken care of.

My second sister married a local of ours, and her husband’s family is very close to her. Therefore, my mother just served my second sister during her confinement period. The two parents live very close to each other, and the relationship is very harmonious. My second brother-in-law’s parents-in-law had something to do, so my mother took the initiative to take the children to my house, and they took good care of them. The couple's family has never been red-faced in more than ten years. Every year during the Chinese New Year and festivals, we all get together to have a lively meal or something. When it comes to celebrating birthdays between the two parents’ families, our family, the second brother-in-law’s parents, sisters and brothers-in-law all get together to eat, chat, and play cards. Really, this kind of life is very happy in our small county.

I married a local from our country, but because we usually live in other places, we usually go back during the New Year and holidays. When we got married, my husband gave my mother a gift of 20,000 yuan, and my mother gave me 60,000 yuan as a dowry. She also gave me ten sets of bedding, pots and pans, a motorcycle, and the like. Of the two children I gave birth to, my parents helped me take care of the older one, and my parents-in-law helped me bring the younger one to three years old, and I took it back to me by myself.

Because my parents do such a good job, our three sons-in-law all like my parents very much. Let's put it this way, my husband, he wishes my parents could live in my house for a long time. Every time he and I quarrel, my parents will scold me first and protect my husband. Every time something happens to our little family, my parents contribute money and help.

We are also a family with only one daughter. I hope you can get some inspiration from what my parents did.

At the same time, I also hope that your daughter can marry happily and that you can enjoy your old age in peace!