There is no panoramic view from the perspective. Room 100 square meter, generally decorated, kitchenette, warm yellow lights. As usual, the family is preparing dinner. However, before that, each of them had experienced an almost disappointing emotional twist.
This is not so much a sci-fi movie as a drama wrapped in a sci-fi movie to dialysis love and marriage. The story of the film unfolds among ordinary people, including the love of young people, the betrayal of young couples, the metaphor of same-sex love, and the crisis of middle-aged couples. From beginning to end, what we see is only the real and sad plot in plain life.
On that day, a light captured a group of people; People fall into panic; Later, scientists speculated that the people who were taken away by the light were those who had true love, so the people who didn't have true love, of course, lived in a real three-dimensional space and lived a normal life like the other half; However, behind the quiet smile is speculation, speculation, distrust and deep doubt about the current relationship.
Everyone began to question my love life, my lover and what is true love? However, no one has set a standard for true love. It seems that the emergence of that light has given "true love" a norm.
Middle-aged crisis in Wu Wenxue, whether men or women, people will encounter great crisis when they reach middle age. Many people will wonder: isn't forty not confused? How do people get more and more confused when they reach middle age? Take Wu Wenxue in the story as an example. He is a young man, teaching in a school, and constantly wants to be rated as a senior teacher, but he is disturbed by a light.
If the selection fails, the marriage life with his wife will become more monotonous. In order to prove that he and his wife are true love, they will not hesitate to defend themselves with PS photos at the class reunion; Later, I found the WeChat sent by my wife "lover" on a sleepless night. In a rage, I almost got into a fight with my wife "lover" at school. Fortunately, the other party said a word: when the child comes out and sees it, it will be difficult to be a man in the future.
Wu Wenxue gradually put down his hands holding each other's neckline, with resentment in his eyes; At this time, my daughter just came to him after school and asked: What's the matter? Wu Wenxue had to swallow this resentment, and gradually, a smile appeared on his face: Nothing.
This scene is a scene that I still remember deeply. Because the middle-aged man's heart is sour, just like the resentment in Wu Wen's stomach, his face turns to smile. I think of Zhang Ailing's words: "When a person reaches middle age, he often feels lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there is no one to rely on."
"Loneliness" is the normal state of middle-aged men. Questioning his wife plunged his marriage into a cold war state, and his career was not smooth, which made him feel desperate. No, the old mother often nags in his ear: Are you two true love? If it is true love, how can it not be taken away by light? There are also relatives and friends around me who have the same question. Trapped in this predicament, he deeply felt that life was not only lonely, but also disappointing. Fortunately, a female colleague who admires him (Han Xiao) often cooks and sends it to his office. There was a little ambiguity between them, but before that light appeared, Wu Wenxue kept a peaceful distance from each other until all the above troubles came head-on-he wanted to cheat.
All kinds of data show that men are between 35 and 40 years old, which is the peak of derailment. But they cheated for different purposes. Some people seek novelty, some seek to make up for the lack of "passion" with their wives, some seek the presence and majesty of being worshipped by the opposite sex, and some seek revenge for the wife who betrayed her marriage.
This is the case with Wu Wenxue in the movie. He firmly believes that his wife betrayed him, and he happened to be warmed by Han provided at the bottom of his life. This time, he didn't insist on the interval, but took the initiative to cater to each other's temptation. They met in a hotel, but finally ended this exciting relationship with Wu Wenxue's initiative to give up. In the process of waiting for Han provided, Wu Wenxue's fear, anxiety, trying to break the bottom line and being entangled in moral constraints are beyond words. He still told Han that sleeping with her was just to get back at his wife.
Middle-aged men have a half-joking mantra, that is, "don't bring work and sex home", which can be said to be a true portrayal of this state. Even in the movie, when Wu Wenxue and his wife make love, they don't feel anything, just like going to the toilet every morning.
No love, no sex, this is simply the life state of all middle-aged couples; However, this state of life does not mean that their marriage has broken down. On the contrary, when the parents we saw in the film were taken away by light on the rooftop, we began to doubt the norms of true love.
Marriage is not the crystallization of love, and the marriage between them cannot be measured by "love or not". My father raised three children, four children, five children and six children outside, and my mother was not idle because of this. Two people just because of the same interests, the same career, the same care for children, everything is not divorced. But they still live under the same roof, often quarrel and refuse to admit defeat, but their filial piety to the elderly and care for their children have never slackened.
When Liu Jiayi fell in love with the boy and secretly took the household registration book to the Civil Affairs Bureau and the boy to get the certificate, his parents found out and stopped him. Later, that light appeared, bringing parents; Meanwhile, Liu Jia gave up the boy overnight. In her opinion, they have no future unless they are taken away by the light, because the light has questioned that there is no true love between them.
Until that boy broke into his house, forced sex with him and committed suicide by jumping off a building. Later, after waking up in the intensive care unit, Liu Jiayi put up with him in tears. In fact, we can see two problems from it: First, Liu Jiayi has an unhealthy view of marriage and love. Because of the unhealthy relationship between her family and her parents, her understanding of love is constantly distorted, and she even thinks that "the other person dares to die for himself" is true love; Second, the boy is a person who is not good at expressing, and the lack of expression leads him to do extreme things to prove his sincerity.
Even if two people finally get married, the man may be disabled. We don't know what kind of life this marriage will face, but what is certain is that in the future, this marriage will be happier than before the boy jumped off the building.
Let's talk about Liu Jiayi's parents. Their marriage is trivial, but inseparable. Because marriage is not love, you can just say "I don't like it" and turn around and leave. The marriage between Liu Jiayi's parents is like Wu Wenxue's wife's "lover" and his wife's marital status.
When they got married, they were also in love; But after years of baptism, the two did not escape the fact that there was no love; It was not until both of them began to admit this and found a new way to get along with each other that they began to re-establish a new marriage relationship and get along in the war. Before that, they tortured and hurt each other in order to find that "true love" again; But until you dare to face the fact that you don't love, your life will be better.
A long time ago, Xú Zhēng revealed that his wife, Hong Tao, was an "open marriage", insisting only on physical loyalty, but not restricting physical freedom. Such a move has been criticized by the outside world, but today, Xu zhēng has been singing all the way in the film industry, and Hong Tao has lived a free and unrestrained life in front of the media, showing the happy posture of the current married life.
So it is basically difficult for us to determine what true love is; Just like we can't capture a person's heart. It's like what happened to Li Nan when she was looking for her "missing husband".
Love is a mysterious thing. Li Nan and her husband Hu Jianping should have been itching for seven years, but after all, they refused to have it. Both of them are constantly planning to divorce, but they have never found the right time. In fact, Li Nan doesn't want a divorce. She still loves Hu, but Hu, a man who has never appeared in the whole movie, has been mentioned by many women. He has many lovers, everyone thinks he is the only one in Hu Jianping, but Hu Jianping loves no one; Perhaps, Li Nan is his only favorite person.
However, after entering the marriage hall with a beautiful vision of love, we know that we will encounter these problems-the life of husband and wife is becoming more and more monotonous, complaining more and more, feeling less and less, and even going home from work requires great courage. We used to love each other, but the comfortable air became more and more suffocating. It turns out that marriage is really the grave of love.
This is why Hu Jianping seeks marriage, the lost love in his wife; He looks for substitutes from time to time to create comfort and relaxation in love, but once the other person loves deeply, the sense of suffocation that wants to control himself comes again. So, he wants to change people again.
Cycling, men fall into a strange circle, want to escape but enjoy it; Freud said: Men are animals that think with their lower bodies. But many times, men also need to care. They are rich in emotions, but they are not good at expressing and the outside world's remarks do not allow them to expose their inner fragility and will be looked down upon by others.
Like chopsticks, and his girlfriend after making love, in the face of his girlfriend's ridicule: Do you like Qinshan? He refused: you and others like Qinshan.
But he really likes his hometown "Qinshan" in his heart, but the outside world can't bear this "same-sex love", so he can't tell outsiders his inner feelings.
Just like when he was detained at the police station, he took the initiative to flirt with the "empress" of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences. Actually, I just have a good impression on him and want to take the opportunity to speak. I didn't expect the other party to admit that I just killed my wife. The reason is-"Of course she doesn't love me. What's the point of living without love? She gave me onions, but I didn't eat them. I strangled her. "
Ironically, he killed his wife for a handful of onions; In fact, in ideal life, many couples are entangled and even divorced because of "whether to open the window when sleeping at night", "decoration style" and "whether to eat or wash first when getting up in the morning". These seemingly trivial things actually permeate whether the other party can respect and love you.
Love itself is a mysterious thing, until Hu Jianhua fell into a pool of blood after driving into the river and killing people with chopsticks. Maybe they don't know what love is. As Li Nan said of Hu Jianhua: He loves everyone, but he doesn't love anyone. But they are constantly looking for love and are afraid of death.
05 "Love is an objective feeling in people's hearts and only exists in themselves." At the end of the movie, Wu Wenxue finally understood this truth. Everyone has different definitions of love and different hopes for happiness. It is precisely because of this that we define what is "happiness" in our own norms.
From love to marriage, it inevitably means step by step from intense to dull, from dream to ideal. The person you once regarded as the apple of your eye will become another person who has been "killed" countless times in your heart. As we often hear a passage: the real marriage is like this. Sometimes you love him very much, and sometimes you really want to film him. Many times, you met his favorite food on the way to buy a gun, but forgot to buy a gun after buying the food. Then a few days later, I thought, no, I still have to buy a gun.
Marriage is like this, it is the ideal of daily necessities, and it is to find benefits from chicken feathers in one place; Marriage is a part of life, and no one's life is full of joys and sorrows. Even with tears in his eyes, he should learn to greet his family with a smile.
There are thousands of definitions of love and thousands of faces. If love cannot be defined by norms, it is difficult for us to prove its existence.
In fact, we don't have to prove what love is. In the long years of marriage, it was once a great luck to have someone walk side by side with you and never give up. It's like when Wu Wenxue comes home and asks his wife: Have you eaten?
Wife: Not yet.
Wu: Come on, let's cook.
Then, as usual, familiar figures stand side by side in the small kitchen. Cut the kitchen knife and hot pot.
Wife: I have nothing to do with Zhao Feng.
Wu Wenxue: I know.
Then, the quiet back began to sob, cutting vegetables and washing dishes in the camera, busy in the east and west, waiting for the children to come out of the room for dinner.
All this, after the storm, is not love?