There must be witnesses. This is a convention inherited from the Republic of China. As Liang Shiqiu said, the witness "is mostly the head of an organ or something." In addition to punctuation marks, the witness played by the head of the institution read two marriage certificates word for word. This should be to prove that the marriage relationship between husband and wife is approved by the relevant departments.
Wedding gift exchange. The groom carefully took it out of a small box, and the bride carefully took it out of another small box. What did she take out? These are two small metal rings, Huang Chengcheng, or bright white, worn on each other's fingers.
You must drink a glass of wine. The wine is red, which goes well with the festive atmosphere. The cup is as thick as a bowl, as high as the tower held by Li Jing, and his arm is covered with drinks. Some people worry: have you never drunk the bride and groom in these two glasses of wine? Looking intently, the bride and groom just sipped a thin layer and didn't drink it all. There are two lines in the Beijing opera "Flowers as Media": "I have drunk acacia wine and worshipped the goddess of the west." Acacia wine is a toast. Toast has a long history, and it is recorded in the Book of Rites: "Eating together in prison, getting married." This "marriage" refers to a toast. There is a detailed explanation in Wang Dechen's History of Dust in the Song Dynasty: "The ancients married their wives, and now they are also connected by colored silk cups. When couples pass wine, they call it a cup. "
After drinking a glass of wine, it is another bow. Bow three times, once and again, to both parents, to witnesses and references, to all guests.
Every wedding, there must be a master of ceremonies, now called the host. There are two kinds of hosts, simple: one worships heaven and earth, the other worships Gaotang, and the husband and wife worship each other and enter the bridal chamber together. Complex, to host the ceremony, while gagging, humorous ridicule, there are always a lot of rap, embarrassing the couple, making the guests laugh, the bride and groom are like puppets, and the host becomes the protagonist. The host, like the successor of the country, must be carefully selected. Being too serious and stupid will make the scene dull, dull, too comedy and too funny, and it will also make the scene shallow and vulgar, just as Liang Shiqiu said: "Long is long, but heavy is not heavy."
The host's job is really hard to do. "The wedding of a man and a woman begins now." That's not true. The ancient book says, "What is a married person? Salute when you are unconscious, so it is called marriage. " In ancient times, the word "marriage" already included the word "ceremony". This does not prevent the wedding ceremony from still being called a wedding. But when the bride and groom face many guests, the wedding doesn't start. It can be said that in the northeast, the groom picks up the bride at the woman's house, and the wedding starts from the other side of the cornucopia, hanging curtains and sitting on the bed.
Next, the parents of the bride and groom speak. That's not right either. Someone in the audience looked up and looked around. According to the northeast custom, the bride's mother can't attend the wedding.
The wedding of a gentleman and a lady is now over. That's not true. Never eaten pork, never seen pigs walk? The next item of the wedding is that all the guests eat and drink. At this time, the groom was wearing a hot suit, and the bride was wearing a red dress, and her head was broken and she began to propose a toast on the table. This moment is probably the most United time for the bride and groom in their lives. They stood shoulder to shoulder, back to back, as if to deal with the enemies coming from all directions, bowed to Qiansun Zhaoli and toasted Zhou Wuwang, as if they had done something wrong to everyone.
The wedding of the northeast people is the most in line with the world. Having a noisy room is a hobby of many people. It is said that it used to be a riot, but now it has risen to a riot.
And the oldest is that the wedding will last until the third day after the wedding. This is the most humane thing in a wedding. After getting married, I have to return my daughter who has been raised for many years and give it to others at once. My parents' hearts are always empty. Three days later, the daughter led her new son-in-law back to visit, which was also a comfort to the old man.
In the future, they will live by themselves.
Marriage customs in rural areas of Northeast China
In this rapidly developing information society, the traditional customs of all ethnic groups are gradually weakening, and the popularity of foreign customs such as western-style weddings is also constantly impacting the traditional marriage customs, and some clues of traditional customs can be faintly seen in rural areas. Let's learn about the marriage customs in the rural areas of Northeast China!
First, the preparation before departure
1, four bride price: divorced mother meat (2 ribs), 2 fish, 4 green onions and 4 vermicelli.
Cover the big well behind the new building with red paper.
3. The bride-to-be wears guest flowers, and the bride and groom corsage and wedding corsage are not worn for the time being.
4. The bride and groom should have even numbers (generally 8 people, 10, 12).
5. The total number of wedding motorcades (excluding video cars) should be doubled (generally 6,8, 10).
Second, to the bride's family.
1, knocking at the door: the groom knocks at the door to ask his mother to open the door, and his father opens the door (it is difficult for the family to open the door, but it should not take too long).
2. Recognize relatives: the bride's parents stand at the door to meet the man's relatives, and the groom introduces them to his parents-in-law (starting from the elders). After shaking hands, the two sides entered the room and sat down. The bride's parents and her parents' relatives entertain the man's relatives to eat (commonly known as; Not empty talk or sweet talk).
3. Proposal: The groom kneels to propose to the bride and says a few romantic words that can impress the bride. The bride can embarrass the groom, but not for too long.
4. Wear corsage to each other: The bride and groom wear corsage to each other and take a group photo.
5, the groom changed his mouth: the bride's parents were seated, and the bride and groom stood facing their parents. The groom officially changed his mouth and told his parents to call his mother and bow three times. The groom gives his father a cigarette and his mother a piece of candy, and his parents reward him for changing his mouth (one for each parent,/10 10/0 yuan, representing one in a thousand).
Dear son-in-law, parents say a few words of encouragement, entrustment and blessing to the future life of the bride and groom. The groom promised his parents-in-law to treat the bride and honor both parents, and the bride and groom took photos with their parents as a souvenir.
6, eat noodles: a bowl of noodles and two eggs, the bride and groom eat each other.
7. Changing shoes: usually made by the bride's sister (if there is no sister, you can change to other relatives of the same generation or younger generation). The groom carried the bride into the car, and a piece of red cloth was laid under the new shoes. After my sister dressed the bride's shoes, the old shoes were put away. The groom rewarded his sister for changing shoes.
8. Relatives of both parties get on the bus, parents get on the bus first, and relatives of the man get on the bus later. Empty cars are not allowed. Four bride price gifts brought back half of other items except meat from mother.
Third, the new house:
1. Family recognition: The groom's parents stand at the door to greet the guests of the bride's family, and the bride introduces her relatives to her parents-in-law. After shaking hands, the two sides sat down in the house, and the groom's parents and the man's relatives were responsible for entertaining the guests of the bride's house to eat.
2. Bride changed her mouth: the bride and groom sat down and stood facing her parents. The bride officially changed her mouth and called her parents and bowed three times. The bride gave her father a cigarette and her mother a piece of candy, and the parents rewarded the bride for changing her mouth (one for each parent,/10 10/0 yuan, representing one in a thousand).
Dear daughter-in-law, parents say a few words of encouragement, entrustment and blessing to the future life of the bride and groom. The bride assures her parents-in-law that husband and wife live in harmony and honor their parents, and the bride and groom take photos with their parents as a souvenir.
3. Wall clock: generally done by the bride's younger brother (no younger brother is replaced by other peers or younger generations). After hanging the wall clock, the groom rewards his younger brother for hanging the clock, and the younger brother is responsible for taking the clock box back to his mother's house (the clock box cannot be empty, and red envelopes or cigarettes and candy can be put in it).
4. Packaging: It is usually done by the bride's brother (it can be replaced by other brothers of the same age or younger generation), and several coins of one yuan and fifty cents are prepared. How to package them is arranged by the owner.
5. Folding quilts: Generally, two sisters-in-law do it together (no sister-in-law can be replaced by other peers or elders). The man's mouth folds outward and the woman's mouth folds inward. After folding, two sisters-in-law shake hands and take a group photo.
6. Sit on the blessing pad: Prepare to sit on the blessing pad or a piece of red cloth and put it in the middle of the bed. The host will arrange how to sit on the praying platform.
7. Group photo: The bride and groom take a group photo with their relatives in the new house.
Fourth, the wedding ceremony:
1, the host made an opening speech, played the wedding March, and the bride and groom entered.
2 witness to see the marriage certificate (generally arranged by the introducer or unit leader).
3. Worship parents, guests and couples.
4, the man's wedding speech (the groom's father or mother).
5. make a glass of wine.
6. Speech by the VIP representative of the bride's family.
7. Exchange tokens.
8. Speech by guest representative (unit leader).
9. Speech by the representative of the bride and groom.
10, concluding remarks.
Verb (short for verb) Banquet:
1. The bride attends the banquet: the bride and groom first propose a toast to the guests of the bride's family, the bride gives a toast to the relatives of the bride, and the groom gives a toast to the relatives of the bride. After the attendance, the bride's relatives will get a couple's attendance money as a reward, then the groom's parents will toast the guests at the bride's house, and the hotel will toast the bride's house.
Relatives add vegetables.
2 propose a toast to other relatives, the order depends on your own situation.
3. Farewell to relatives in the bride's family: The bride and groom took photos with all the VIPs in the bride's family in front of the hotel. Relatives and friends of both sides shake hands to say goodbye (usually the man prepares a car to send the VIPs at home).
4. Reunion dinner: Parents and relatives each send a few blessings to the bride and groom, the bride pours wine and serves food for parents and relatives, and the whole family raises a glass and takes a group photo (specifically arranged by cameramen and photographers).
Old marriage customs in rural areas of Northeast China
1, the matchmaker matches the introduction object.
2, the appointment time, see the object (usually the woman goes to the man's house, even if the two sides have no opinions, it will be booked).
3, engagement ceremony, small gifts (not necessarily too much money, like throwing money at things), big gifts (called bride price in local dialect).
4. Make an appointment, give a big gift (including money for cigarettes, maids, furniture and household appliances, and how many things to do) and set a wedding date.
5. Both parties prepare for the wedding. The man should be fully prepared to marry his wife, while the woman is relatively simple.
(1) Pick up the mother vehicle first (try to get a good car).
(2) Do it at home and book a chef.
(3) Order the oil pan hand (dish delivery).
(4) Master of ceremonies.
(5) Book the best man and bridesmaid.
(6) If you cook at home, you should book a banquet in the East Room and Westinghouse.
(7) Prepare to change your money (one thousandth).
(8) Prepare whole grains (such as soybeans, rice, sorghum, corn and millet).
(9) Serve guests.
(10) Hardware such as household appliances, stereos and furniture.
6. Wedding
7. Pick up a relative (pay for the car for the child)
8. Ceremony
9, change your mouth (mother-in-law gives money to new wife, one thousandth)
10, enter the bridal chamber
1 1, relax.
12, Sister-in-law makes the bed and quilt.
13, Kang (little boy)
14, wedding night
15, return to China in three or seven days (go back to your mother's house and come back before sunset)
16, a new life has just begun.