Death is not the end and result of life, but the continuation and inheritance of life. If you can accept death calmly, you can also die calmly. ——"The Best Farewell"

A few days ago, I watched a video that made me cry for a long time: a woman chased a slowly leaving funeral car and cried heartbrokenly. The sadness contained in those cries easily passed through the screen and struck the hearts of each of us.

Sleeping forever in the car is Liu Zhiming, director of Wuchang Hospital, and outside the car is his wife, Cai Liping, head nurse of the ICU of the Optics Valley Campus of Wuhan Third Hospital.

Dean Liu Zhiming, who was only 51 years old, died in the line of duty on February 18, 2020 after he was infected with COVID-19 and failed to receive treatment.

Since then, the wife has lost her lover.

When the epidemic hit, Cai Liping was a head nurse. Although her sick leave was still a month away, she went to the front line without hesitation.

After the husband was diagnosed, the couple's daily communication has always revolved around the husband's condition.

When the illness became serious, the wife wanted to take care of her, but her husband kept refusing. He knows that this is the most dangerous place for the epidemic, and he does not want and cannot bear to let his wife appear here.

On February 3, Liu Zhiming was put on a ventilator because his condition worsened. His wife cried and said, "Let me stay with you."

What is love, what is it not? The words "I love you" that come out of my mouth mean that even if it is a dragon's pool and a tiger's den, I want to go through it with you.

Liu Zhiming was speechless. Although he missed his wife very much, he still shook his head on the other side of the screen.

Before he fell into coma, he left a medical note: "If necessary, do not intubate for rescue." In the face of life and death, everyone thought that they would not give up as long as there was a chance, but he was afraid of intubation. The virus can be transmitted to colleagues through aerosol transmission while in charge.

Cai Liping did not expect that after this meeting, it would be goodbye forever.

This man who called his wife "Little Dujichang Husband" on WeChat, this man who always cared about the patient even though he was in critical condition, this man who was still worried about his colleagues at the last moment of his life, put his "stingy" "Leave it to your lover.

When the country was in trouble, you and I went to the front line together, but you didn't let me accompany you on your last journey. You didn't even let me see you, so you left decisively.

How sad and torturous it will be for the living to face these.

There are always some people who, no matter how hard you try to keep them, are helpless when faced with the behemoth of death.

"The Biography of Lin Huiyin" says: A person has to experience too many separations of life and death in his life, and those sudden separations often catch people off guard.

Death, like love, is very overbearing.

But love is more powerful than death. Although they have left this world, as long as we never forget, the ones we love will never disappear.

In ancient times, emperors and queens generally had political marriages, and there was no relationship at all. But sometimes, feelings are a wonderful thing.

There is a palace building in the Forbidden City that is "kept in a boudoir and unknown to people" and has never been open to the public. When he was young, Hongli (later Emperor Qianlong) married his beloved Fucha here.

From the "Exploring the Chonghua Palace" in the series "I Want to Go to the Forbidden City", we can learn that this is the residence of Qianlong when he was the prince. It is hidden in the Chonghua Palace to the north of the West Sixth Palace of the Inner Palace.

Every plant, tree, brick and tile here has witnessed the lush years before Emperor Qianlong came to the throne. These beautiful things in the past were all kept in his heart.

Chonghua Palace was originally the first, second and third of the five Qianxi palaces in the Forbidden City. The Five Qianxi Institutes have been the place where princes lived since the Ming Dynasty. In 1727, Hongli, who was the prince, moved into the second of the Five Qianxi Institutes. After he ascended the throne, he changed the place where he once lived into Chonghua Palace.

Like ordinary couples, the emperor also wanted to grow old together with his beloved wife.

His wife, Fucha, was not only from a well-known family, but also dignified, virtuous, gentle, kind and extremely intelligent. She was not only the emperor's wife but also his confidant, and the emperor was also very fond of her. Very loving and affectionate.

This was rare in ancient times, especially among the royal family. Qianlong was undoubtedly lucky, and he managed this happiness seriously.

Qianlong’s name was Changchun layman. The place where the queen lived was called Changchun Palace in the Forbidden City and Changchun Fairy Hall in Old Summer Palace. “The place where you live is named after me”, what a romantic expression of love.

Unfortunately, the good times did not last long. Due to the death of two children in succession, Empress Fucha's health deteriorated. In order to comfort her after losing her beloved son, Qianlong took her on a tour with him to relax her mood.

Unexpectedly, when she was about to return, Queen Fucha contracted a cold and finally died of the disease on her way home at the age of only 37.

Faced with the sudden illness, even as noble as the emperor was unable to do anything, Qianlong and his wife's wish to grow old together was irreparably shattered.

When his lover passed away, in the years to come, the real grief struck him more and more violently, and his longing lasted for his whole life.

In his old age, Emperor Qianlong even built Chonghua Palace into a "museum of love" for him and Empress Fucha.

David Eagleman wrote in "The List of Life":

There is a kind of love that can transcend life and death even if the road to reunion is bumpy and tortuous; some people, even us We can't see each other again in this life, but we have never really left.

Haruki Murakami said: "Death is not the opposite of life, but a part of life that lasts forever, and human memory is the continuation of the soul."

Malaysia Airlines M370 lost contact It’s been six years.

From March 8, 2014 to now, time has passed in the blink of an eye. 154 compatriots walked out of their homes that day and never came back.

This sudden disaster took away the most important people in the lives of hundreds of families.

During these 2193 days, netizen Wandering Fish began to wait endlessly, because her husband was on that plane.

She regarded Weibo as her own memorial hall, where she poured out her longings and recorded her deteriorating health due to longing. She seemed to have "died" countless times, but she continued to die again and again. After despair, he continued to survive.

She said:

"Before I went out in the morning, I mustered up the courage to check my weight again, 36.6KG.

So, don't worry, don't be angry, I have started to take Chinese medicine, but where are you?”

“I can eat three meals a day on time, I can make money while working part-time, and I can cry on the Internet at the same time. The person on the other end said free shipping.

I learned to pay utility bills, and I was used to walking that way home alone, but my pretense of strength fell apart every day.

When will you come back? Come back soon!”

Her last post on Weibo was written on December 5, 2019.

She said: "The person who told me, 'I will keep this promise for the rest of my life,' may, really, not come back..."

Although she has never given up. Hope, but she actually knew that the hope of her lover coming back was almost zero. But she knew that even if her husband left, he wanted her to be well more than anyone else.

So, she gritted her teeth and persisted, working hard to survive, but at the same time, she also integrated love into her own flesh and blood.

In the face of disaster and death, each of us is just a small and powerless ant.

They won’t say hello in advance when they come, and they won’t wait for you to be fully prepared when they take your loved one away.

We can only accept it.

I will remember you and all the good things we once had, and then work hard to start the next journey of life with your share.

When we meet again in the future, I hope I can tell you with a smile that my life is safe and smooth.

The ten years of life and death are so vast that they cannot be forgotten without thinking about them.

Even if life makes things difficult for the living, they have never forgotten their lover. Time moves forward ruthlessly. Although you and I are far apart, it doesn’t matter. Your actions have long been engraved in my heart. in life.

Although those who leave cannot come back, those who are alive must try their best to survive.

Although the person you love suddenly disappears from your life, "love" never does. In every day that never appeared, they will quietly accompany you with those good things in the past.

Liang Jizhang, a famous Hong Kong host, said, "We only have one fate in this life. We must cherish the time when we get together. No matter we love it or not, we will never see each other again in the next life."

So, hug when you can, the years are not as long as we think, live for every moment wholeheartedly, and cherish every minute and second of the time with the one you love. , let’s discover the little bits and pieces of beauty in life together.

Live well, love well, and leave no regrets.

When it comes time to separate, we should not be afraid. Although we are ultimately alone, we live warmly in our hearts because of love.

Death is not the end. Our souls will continue in the memories of the living and be eternal in love.

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