I don't think this kind of situation is actually what every young person expects. After all, it is the best choice for children to be educated by their parents, but in order to survive and have a better living environment for children, there is some helplessness.
As for the upbringing of children by grandparents, grandmothers play the most important role in many families. We can see our friends and colleagues around us. Are most of their families brought up by grandma?
When I went to the kindergarten to pick up the children that day, I stood at the door and carefully counted the parents of the children in the same class. 70% of the children's grandmothers are responsible for the daily shuttle service. I also thought of my colleagues and friends around me. Children in most families are really brought up by their grandmothers.
Sometimes I think about this myself. Don't grandparents in most families have the ability to raise children? Later, after careful consideration, I discovered the "truth" of why my grandmother took care of her children firmly. When I understood this "truth", I found that the most selfless and precious love in the world is ... I will announce the answer to love at the back of the article.
People in Tianjin often say that there is a strange thing in Tianjin, which was brought by my daughter's children. Since the city where I live and work is Tianjin, I don't know who brought up the children in other areas, and the customs in each area are different.
Then let's talk about whether this phenomenon of grandma taking care of children is a kind of "strange elephant" What is the fundamental reason why most family grandmothers take care of their children?
Start with your own family. Similarly, as the father of a child, I read a cartoon as early as a few years ago, which is still fresh in my memory and is still carefully collected. The name of the cartoon is: There is a kind of love, calling my daughter's grandmother. I think all mothers will cry after reading it.
The content of the cartoon is roughly described as follows (the pictures are all from the Internet):
There is a person who loves to ask grandma to take care of my children. Now there is a popular jingle: mom gives birth, grandma raises it, dad goes online when he gets home, and grandparents enjoy it!
Although what I said was a little one-sided, it did reflect grandma's love.
What are mothers and daughters? One minute you are arguing, and the next you can go shopping arm in arm.
I still remember the night I learned that I was pregnant, and she was so excited that she stayed up all night. She calculated that the due date was in the cold February, and began to worry that I would be confined in winter.
I'm not pregnant. She can't wait to buy a lot of baby clothes and take out old sheets to make a lot of diapers.
In the worst two months of morning sickness, I migrated like a migratory bird and came to my house to take care of my daughter's life.
In those days when I didn't know what to eat and vomit, she always tried to change three meals a day for me. Even if I can't eat much, she won't feel wronged because she is busy for nothing.
She often inadvertently remembers what she wants to eat and buys it silently without saying a word. As long as I can eat more, I will laugh happily.
When giving birth to a child, the palace mouth opened slowly and it hurt for a day and a night. I cried with love, still blaming myself. If I had a son, I wouldn't have to suffer.
At the moment the child was born, when others were more concerned about gender, she was already happy from ear to ear. In her eyes, as long as her daughter has a baby.
During confinement, all kinds of Tang priests were possessed, unable to look at their mobile phones, wash their hair and get out of bed. .......
Every time I think her ideas are out of date, I always put my heart into them. Although I am a mother, you are still a child in my eyes.
Occasionally, she would persuade me to wean. When my face was flushed because of the nutritional problems of breast milk and milk powder, she just said simply, I just hope you don't have to work so hard.
Usually, in order to let me sleep more, I struggle to get up early to wash clothes, mop the floor and take care of the children. I'd rather be hungry than let me finish my meal.
Her love for me naturally extends to the children. She doesn't know what organic food is, but she will queue up early in the morning to buy stupid eggs.
She doesn't know what parent-child reading is, but she will read The White Rabbit with her baby in her arms. ......
The baby's first look up, turn over, crawl and walk. , with her witness. When the child murmured "Mom", she actually smiled more happily than I did.
Gradually, the child grew up and went to kindergarten, and the shuttle in the wind and rain was hers.
When the child grew up and got rid of the trouble of shit and fart, she went home and told her grandpa about the fun of taking care of the child, but she never stopped thinking about the child and called her from time to time to remind her to add clothes.
Every time I go home, the table is as rich as a wedding banquet, urging the baby to eat more and bringing us hot dishes like guests.
Looking back on the process of helping me to take care of my children, I once stood up for her, dressed the children in rustic clothes, and spoiled them too much, but forgot my original intention and simply hoped that my grandchildren would be healthy and happy.
When I start working, I can run around carefree. You can enjoy a sweet time with your husband. When I made an appointment with three or five friends for a relaxing holiday, I sincerely lamented that it was a good thing that she helped look after the children at home.
As parents, we should be grateful, because no old man has the obligation to help you take care of your children. When her hair is sparse and she is willing to help, this is love.
At the same time, we should also teach children to be grateful. There is a saying: the grandson is the "dog" of grandma's house, and he will leave after eating.
I want to say: dear baby, please remember to be filial to your grandmother when you grow up. She loves you more than me. She doesn't want to give you anything, and she is so tired that her back aches just for your healthy growth.
I think all grandmothers in the world are similar. I wish them peace, health, longevity and happiness!
Time is cruel, the only thing we can do is to spend as much time with grandma as possible, love grandma as much as possible, and keep her waiting for too long.
We have finished reading the text in the cartoon. I wonder if everyone touched their soft hearts after reading it? Whether you are a mother or a father, do you find it difficult to be a grandmother?
It is true that grandma is really a difficult person in this big family. Grandma brought up the next generation, the most fundamental reason is actually to love her daughter and reduce the work and life pressure of her daughter and son-in-law. This is a short-lived truth that all reasonable people know.
Just like a mother-in-law loves her son-in-law, the most fundamental reason for loving her son-in-law is actually to make her daughter's life happy.
After all, people's hearts are all flesh, and no one is blind. Just keep it in mind. Those who know how to be grateful will naturally not lose those who have really worked hard for this family. This is a normal and happy family way of doing things.
Perhaps these families do things in a way that young couples can't deeply understand. When your own children have children, then you will be grandparents, and you will truly realize the truth that you don't know your parents well without raising children.
Think back to the people around you. For example, relatives have children, grandma is waiting on her daughter, and grandpa is cooking.
My colleague gave birth to a child. When I visited, my grandmother was busy pouring hot water for her daughter, and my grandfather was doing housework.
Every time I visit someone who likes to be a parent, I can almost see the grandparents of the woman's family carefully serving her daughter's family.
This is the love and care of grandparents for their daughters, which cannot be accurately expressed in words.
Why does grandma take care of her daughter and grandchildren by herself? Only when you become a parent can you gradually understand. Because grandma takes care of her daughter after all, it is her mother's care, and her mother takes care of her daughter the most carefully. Her mother can say anything at ordinary times, and there are not many taboos in what she says. Her mother's words won't make her bear a grudge, just like the so-called foul mouth doesn't stink.
No matter how strong a grandmother is, if she takes care of her daughter-in-law every day, it will be a matter of time before conflicts arise. Of course, it is not absolute, because there is also a reasonable relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is the delicate family relationship in our country.
In fact, whether grandma takes care of the children or grandma takes care of the children, I sincerely hope that your young couple's life is getting better and better. I hope that you can create a perfect learning and living environment for your children in the future, and parents really hope that their children will be smooth sailing, less bumpy and more happy. When our children grow up, we will naturally treat our children with the same love as our parents took care of us! This "glorious virtue" has been handed down from generation to generation.
Therefore, it is not a strange phenomenon that a daughter's children are brought up by her grandmother, but a normal social phenomenon, which is the virtue of traditional families in China!
So what kind of love is the greatest? Almost all parents are selfless and the greatest, and this kind of love is the most unique love in the world.
Finally, I wish all the children a happy home and an omnipotent grandmother. I hope you won't forget her heavy love for you when you grow up. .......