1. Unique Wedding
Shiken Township in Shunde County and its nearby Nanhai County belong to Qibao area. By the early 193s, there was such a unique wedding, which was not only different from other counties, but also different from other places in the county.
One is that Caiyu will return every other day. If the first day of a month is set as the wedding date, the real marriage should be the second day. According to local regulations, Cai Yu, the man's wedding ceremony, must go to the woman's house after sunset on the first day of the lunar new year, and only after Cai Yu arrives can she dress up the married woman. However, not only parents can't do it, but even maids and maids can't do it for them. They can only be dressed by group companions in the boudoir, and the group companions are not carried out that night. They will slowly start to work until dawn the next day. Therefore, when Caiyu returned to the man's house, it was already noon on the second day of the second day. This practice really prevents the bride and groom from consummating their marriage on the date of marriage.
secondly, there is no drum music when welcoming the bride. This is true not only for poor families, but also for rich children. This practice has its historical roots. It is said that during the Zhengde period of the Ming Dynasty, Liang Sandian, the third son of Liang Chu, a university student and a prince master, was a native of Shiken, who used his father's influence to run amok and seize the women. As soon as I heard the sound of drum music, I visited a neighbor's family to get married, led a pawn with him, and suddenly went to the "wedding reception" to occupy the position of guest at the wedding. If the bride is slightly attractive, the groom will be imprisoned, or driven out and then occupy the bride. If you meet a fierce woman and resist, you are often killed by her, so I don't know how many people died tragically under her violence. Those who are afraid of their power endure humiliation, those who refuse to accept it sue the official, and officials are afraid of their power, but they accuse them of false accusations. Therefore, in hundreds of townships nearby, drums and music are not allowed when celebrating the wedding, and they have been handed down from generation to generation.
2. Self-grooming and staying at home
In the old society, unmarried girls in Shunde County wore pigtails and tied them in a bun after marriage. Braid and bun are used as signs of unmarried and married. However, there are still many women who comb themselves and stay at home, including Panyu, Zhongshan and Nanhai counties, and similar situations have occurred.
The so-called "self-grooming girl" is a self-grooming girl who easily braids her hair through a specific ceremony to show her determination not to get married and die for life, which is called "self-grooming" or "grooming", that is, self-grooming girl.
Shunde self-grooming girl
The so-called staying at home is another kind of girl, or forced by her parents' orders, she can't get up, so she has to return to her parents' home after the wedding ceremony to avoid cohabitation with her husband. Or, if you don't marry yourself first, you will visit a reliable man when you are half old, and invest in setting up a concubine for him, and you will be a nominal husband and wife to show that you are not unmarried; Or, although they are married, their parents pay a dollar a day for their women's reeling, which does not urge them to leave home, even if they go back to their husbands' homes, it is only once or twice a year. Some even contribute to the establishment of concubines for their husbands, saying that they are married, but they are also alone. These are called women who don't leave home.
however, this kind of staying at home has also been broken. According to the newspaper at that time, there was such a story. Luo Jinxiu, a woman from Banjiang Village, Shunde, lives on reeling silk and has considerable savings. His father married Deng, a native of Xiqiao, Nanhai, as his wife. After his own wedding, he never lived in a man's house after two years of marriage. Deng was doing business in Guangzhou, and whenever he returned to his hometown in the season, his mother would be invited to meet Jinxiu, but they were all turned away, or avoided meeting him. Deng had no choice but to tell his brothers. When Tomb-Sweeping Day was about to arrive, Deng wanted to go back to his hometown to visit the grave, and his brother A made a plan for him to lure his wife out of the province. Deng was asked to cheat to death in the crossing between Shun and Sheng provinces, and was covered with rotten seats. A sent his mother to send a funeral procession to Deng's wife, saying that Deng died of phlegm in the crossing on his way back to the provincial capital. After listening to it, her mother-in-law believed it, and even sent Jinxiu to cross to mourn. Jinxiu wept bitterly and saw her husband covered with a rotten mat, so she sang a sad song and hanged him: "Sister stepped on the bow to see you!" See you, young man, alas! " At this time, the ferry had already started, and Deng immediately pushed the rotten seat and sat up, scaring his wife to disgrace. Knowing the trick, but the ship had already sailed and could not escape, so she had to live with her husband in Guangzhou.
The appearance of self-combing women in Shunde is directly related to the relatively developed silk reeling industry in Shunde before the 193s. Shunde women are silk reeling women and sericulture women, and they are quite self-sufficient economically, so many girls are satisfied with "self-combing". They are richer. Pay more attention to eating, can cook good dishes and cook. In the 193s, the silk industry in Guangdong was hit by foreign silk, and plummeted. These self-combed women or women who stayed at home lost their jobs because of the closure of silk factories, and they went to Guangzhou and Hong Kong to work as "housekeepers". Because of their gentleness and ability to cook, they were very popular with their owners. At that time, 9% of the maids in Hong Kong were Cantonese, and Shunde was the most popular.
However, the custom of staying at home is not desirable, and "immorality" will always occur from time to time. According to the "Yue Hua Bao" reported on April 17, 193, "Yesterday, there was Feng Mou in Pengjia Lane, Rongqi, who made a living selling medicine in Xiaolandu. His daughter had an affair with beef, and she was pregnant with cardamom. When neighbors complain, they will have a baby in private. He died of an overdose. The beef boy listened and went to the daughter's house to attend the funeral, and performed a strange drama of Chencun Jindan's buying water, frequently wiping his tears with a towel along the way. Those who know about it become the true feelings of the private performance. "
Third, drinking the wedding banquet
In Chencun area, Shunde, there is a common example of a wedding banquet, that is, on the wedding day, the big uncle should take the lead. After my uncle is seated, all relatives and friends can sit down. If my uncle leaves, all relatives and friends must also leave.
According to the newspaper, on May 18th, 193, Li, the old tea lane in Chencun, married the Long family. On the same day, he married the family and held a banquet to celebrate his memory. His great uncle entered the banquet first according to the custom, and soon, he suddenly suffered from dysentery and was anxious to leave his seat to go to the toilet. However, as soon as I was seated, if I left, as a rule, all my relatives and friends had to leave with me, and I was forced to hold back. However, as the common saying goes, "A lawsuit is not as tight as excrement and urine", although I tried hard, I was really embarrassed, anxious, tasteless, and inconvenient to speak out. As a result, I was in trouble, and my pants were full of stench and embarrassment. Friends and relatives are also very disappointed. My uncle's face was red and his ears were hot, so he had to rush home to cook. All relatives and friends in the audience think that this custom should be abolished.
Fourth, Qixi Festival
On the evening of July 7th, it is said that the double stars meet once a year, which is called Double Stars Festival. Through the ages, it is passed down as a myth. Generally speaking, women with little knowledge do not hesitate to spend money on large-scale exhibitions, prepare for great reverence and worship. This bad habit should also be abolished. However, Shunde women are enthusiastic about this move, especially the reeling women. At that time, more than 1 people or dozens of people will be gathered to organize the so-called Qixi Festival. Some gather in advance, distribute money on a monthly basis, and reserve them for future use, which is for the long-term meeting. Some temporary assemblies, session organizations. The money is paid in full at one time for short-term meetings. No matter whether it is a long-term meeting or a short-term meeting, it is a few days before the festival, and everything is done in different disciplines. After several days of preparation, it was completed. Such as flowers, clothes, chairs, tables and bedding, and other small utensils, which are made of paper, wood, sesame and colored beans, are all kinds of bizarre. Cover the sunflower shed, arrange the table for display, line it with antiques, and help it with lights. It is said that it is to invite immortals to appreciate it and let people watch it. Its large scale costs hundreds of gold. The simplest one also costs hundreds of gold, or one or two hundred gold.