In marriage, we often say four words, stop loss in time.

When you find that the person in front of you will not change and can't give you happiness, the wisest thing to do is to leave quickly, because if you stay, you will be stuck in this predicament forever, and the longer you stay, the harder it will be to get out.

But in life, there is a situation that often exists: healing the scar and forgetting the pain.

When Lin Ya was picked up by her husband, her mother hated iron and said that her daughter had lived for 30 years, and the more she lived, the more timid she went back. What she said these days is all for nothing.

Half a month ago, she returned to her family in tears. Lin Ya's mother was distressed and angry. Looking at her daughter's swollen face, she couldn't tell what she had scolded, so she had to take a good rest at home regardless of other things.

Neighbors have heard about Lin Ya. From time to time, some people are indignant: "If my daughter is beaten like this, I will fight with him desperately."

As a mother, she must feel sorry for her daughter, but she also has her own ideas: "There is still a home to live, and it is not good to worry about those boring people."

Her son-in-law, with a bad temper, is reckless, that is, he fights with his own biological parents when he is in a hurry. Of course, so are her parents.

One year during the Spring Festival, my daughter went home for the Spring Festival because her husband and mother-in-law quarreled. Her father-in-law has been playing, and somehow he was angered. The three of them got into a fight. She was so scared that she called the police.

Then, the daughter called her and she asked her wife to take her daughter back. Of course, I made an excuse that someone in my family was ill and needed Linya to go back and take care of him.

Lin Ya married her husband at the age of 23. It has been seven years now and she has given birth to a son. The marriage in recent years can be described as a chicken flying a dog jumping, and there is no happiness at all.

Because everything in the family depends on her alone, in short, she takes care of the children and does housework, and even the children's tuition fees are earned by her.

Her husband is a hedonist, and his salary is only enough for himself.

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In-laws are the same, no matter what they do, they only think about themselves. Even though Lin Ya went to the hospital and gave birth to a baby, she still got the money from her parents. My in-laws said that she had no money, and her husband didn't want to do anything, because she knew her parents wouldn't care.

In fact, her in-laws are in good condition. They have two suites, two shops and savings in their hands. They usually collect rent and start their own small business, but they just don't want to give them money.

Mother-in-law said that just giving them a house to live in is worthy of a daughter-in-law's filial piety for a lifetime. Speaking of this, Lin Ya's mother was very angry because there was no daughter's name in that house.

It stands to reason that it is definitely a matter of time before you get married into such a family and get divorced.

But Lin Ya is a good-natured, timid and big-hearted person. This is what her mother said. Lin Ya is the eldest of her two daughters, and she has been a careless person since she was a child. No matter what you say about her, she doesn't hold a grudge at all. She smiles.

And when she insisted on marrying her husband, she also struggled with her family for a long time. Because as an experienced person, when I saw this son-in-law, I knew it was unreliable.

Besides, parents are not good, especially his mother. When the two families meet for the first time, the other side thinks highly of themselves and never says a word, which is a gesture of "whether you love to marry or not".

But Lin Ya didn't listen at that time and was fooled by her husband's rhetoric. She thought she had found the true love of her life, and her parents ignored her no matter how hard she tried.

Finally, if you get pregnant before marriage, your parents have to agree.

Her marriage got off to a bad start, so it's hard to have a satisfactory result.

Although Lin Ya's married life is not as good as living alone in the eyes of her parents, she was in a state of "one willing to fight and one willing to suffer" in the early stage, and Lin Ya refused to divorce.

She said it was for her son, and there were indeed many obstacles in marriage. Lin Ya is a hesitant person, so she keeps dragging her feet.

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Later, life became more and more unsatisfactory, and she began to tell her mother that she wanted a divorce. Her mother naturally supports her, saying that she is not yet 30 years old, and it is not difficult to find another one.

Her mother sees it this way: "Even if you go out on the street and grab anyone to get married, it's better than him. What advantages does he have? They are all shortcomings, just treat him as a treasure. "

However, Lin Ya always says so verbally. Every time she mentions divorce, she must have a problem with her husband, or her husband loses his temper at home for no reason.

Two days later, when her daughter appeared with a smile again, she never mentioned the divorce again. As a mother, she will not always persuade her daughter to divorce, but will only express her support when her daughter puts forward it.

This is not the first time that Lin Ya's husband has done it. They have been married for seven years and have done it several times, but they used to push or kick. Lin Ya did not tell her family many times, and her husband was coaxed.

For the last time, her husband is the kind of person who looks sincere when he realizes that something is wrong.

Just say that once, Lin Ya said that she was divorced and began to pack up and go back to her family.

Seeing this, her husband quickly knelt down and said that if she was unhappy, she could slap him a few times to vent her anger, and she was in tears, saying that she also cared about hitting her, and promised that there would be no next time.

Lin Ya fell into a soft heart. At first glance, he thought that the other party really realized that he was wrong and gave him another chance.

However, opportunities have been given one after another, but the situation is getting worse and worse.

This time, I slapped her directly and swollen half of her face. Nothing more than that she came home late and didn't cook for her husband on time. Her husband was hungry until nine o'clock in the evening, and Lin Ya replied to him.

He said he was in a bad mood today, went home to suffer indignities, and then hit her. Lin Ya returned to her mother's house and said that she was divorced. Her mother repeatedly told her that only after divorce can she live a quiet life.

However, an accident happened.

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In life, we often say that eating a mat makes you smarter, which tells us that one should learn from experience and then make sure that he won't make mistakes again.

In fact, the same is true in marriage. You can't fall into the same pit three times and four times, which is irresponsible to yourself.

Lin Ya is not divorced.

After living in my parents' house for half a month, my husband finally came to see someone. Of course, when he came, he was smiling. The "wife" is very affectionate, or he said that he knew it was wrong. To show his sincerity, he bought her a dress, saying it cost him half a month's salary.

Lin Ya was released on the spot. When she tried on the clothes happily, her mother knew the result. Half an hour later, she followed her back, and Lin Ya's mother shook her head: "What a suck. A slap in the face can lick a dress. "

This divorce farce has come to an end temporarily.

In most people's marriages, they can't escape the quarrel of daily necessities, but the quarreling marriage must be due to the common understanding and tolerance of both sides, not the unconditional connivance of one side.

This connivance keeps the marriage going. In fact, there is always a hidden danger buried. I don't know when it was ignited again, and I was injured again. It will be endless.

That indulgent man is actually a catalyst for his misfortune.

In marriage, no matter how hard you are, you can't be soft-hearted One of your ideas may affect your life. Life is short, and women should learn to be better to themselves.