1. compound premise

What is loss aversion? How to use the emotion of roller coaster to push and pull? Learn to let feelings leave no regrets!

In fact, objectively speaking, no matter what kind of breakup, it can actually be reconciled, just depending on the difficulty and the length of time. But there is a premise, that is, the method should be right and the execution should be strong.

Lose attraction

First of all, you should understand that there is something wrong with your relationship. At least from the other person's point of view, your problem is beyond doubt, and it is too big to stay with you, you have lost your attraction, or you can't see the future.

So after the real breakup, we must grasp every detail.

3. The order of breaking up

I don't love you anymore, because your relationship is contradictory; You can't see the ending because of your shortcomings.

I don't believe in your future change. To put it bluntly, I still don't pay enough attention to it. I felt bad, so I broke up. This is because you made a mistake. You should define the order of breaking up.

He is not caused by some problems between you: he doesn't love you, not because he doesn't love you. There must be a reason why you broke up and didn't love each other, and this reason is the main reason why you broke up, so he'd better break up because of problems. So now he is indifferent, indifferent, unfeeling, firm in language and won't give you a chance.

4. roller coaster mood

Or blackmail, delete your contact information, or even find a new lover, which will not make your relationship unable to get back together.

As long as you prove to him that you have the ability to solve the problems between you and make him look forward to the beautiful picture and bright future with you, he has a great chance to turn back.

Do you have the feeling that you have fallen in love with something you haven't used for a long time? For example, clothes, pens or bags ... but suddenly found that they can't be found, or broken, there will be a very regrettable feeling, and even a very useful feeling. This is psychological loss aversion. Based on this psychology, this psychology is called roller coaster emotion.

5. Loss aversion

This is different from those methods circulating on the Internet. Many experts and masters on the Internet are emphasizing disconnection. Most consultants have actually struggled for a long time. And this strategy, just suitable for him, has been proved to be effective through a lot of practice. Therefore, this roller coaster strategy is effective, mainly in the aversion to loss.

Even if he really doesn't love you, it suddenly makes him feel that he has lost someone who loves him very much, and he will be very depressed and painful, thus stimulating a sense of loss. There is also his sense of crisis, and he will become uneasy and anxious. This is a kind of composite foundation. The worse, the greater the chance of ending the other person's negative emotions.

Win self-esteem

You may have been struggling for some time, and the other party has obviously shown dislike for you. At this time, use the principle of roller coaster emotions to stop the negative emotions of the other party in time.

Win self-esteem and pull back to your position. Only when you are in relatively equal, can you attract, and what you can't get is always the best, not just summing up.

Reduce each other's rebellious and defensive psychology. When you have been struggling, he will have a rebellious mentality. The more you struggle to get back together, the less he wants to get back together with you. Because every contact will produce pressure, which will produce a sense of alertness. Think about it. When a person defends you like an enemy, how can he make the other person like you again?

7. Conclusion

When the other party proposes to break up, the previous stage implements the flattering strategy, and then indicates withdrawal; Then stimulate each other's weariness of learning, change from passive to active, from low to high, but then you must show some high-value information to each other.

To put it bluntly, it means the apology, reluctance, begging and infatuation when we just broke up, and then later, it will make him feel that you have given up and given up. Therefore, it is not difficult for you to get back together as long as you make good use of the roller coaster mood.

Finally, romantic moments are accidental, and love needs to be experienced and managed by itself. Loving yourself is the beginning of a romantic life.