If you meet such a mother-in-law, just go with her. She pushes her luck. If you go against her, you will lose. In this case, simply don't take care of everything at home, try to make money, and cultivate some hobbies such as yoga, tea ceremony and painting to adjust your mood if you have time. Let them know that you didn't marry into this family to be a maid. You have been a daughter-in-law, and the rest is up to the man.
Usually, when the house is cleaned, there is less housework, and the rest of the time is spent doing what you like. If they don't know how to care after cleaning, you don't have to clean again and again. My husband did something wrong, so please make a suggestion euphemistically. If you criticize, your mother-in-law will think that you dislike her son, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good.
A woman who is devoted to her family is appreciated by most people more than an independent woman who knows how to enjoy life. So what we have to do now is not how to change others, but how to make ourselves more stand. Instead of thinking about her mother-in-law's partiality, it is better to think about how to prevent others from looking down on themselves. Get a card and usually save some private money. It is not easy for a woman to get married outside, and some things will be emboldened if she has money in her hand.
The above words are purely personal immature views, I hope I can help you a little.