The marriage customs of Malays are very distinctive. The wedding was held in the woman's house for a week, including the man taking dowry to the woman's house to receive the bride's relatives, the imam chanting prayers for the couple, bathing ceremony and wedding ceremony for the couple, etc. The main ceremonies are held in the evening. After seven days, the groom can go back to his home with his new wife and dowry.
When marrying a bride, the man walks halfway and the woman walks halfway; The man should dress up as a senior official and greet the bride happily with an umbrella; The woman should look sad because she is in a bad mood and wants to stay away from relatives and friends.
The climax of Malay wedding is "sitting together", and two or three days before "sitting together", there are ceremonies to decorate hair and dye hands. The bride and groom each have a barber to decorate their hair and make up. Things are slightly different now. They don't like hairdressers very much, but go to the beauty salon and ask the beautician to dress them up. The bride must take a bath after decorating her hair, which is said to have the effect of exorcising evil spirits and avoiding disasters.
Palm dyeing can be divided into three processes: private dyeing, small dyeing and large dyeing. Although dyeing palms is divided into three processes, in fact, each ceremony is the same. The bride should attend all the ceremonies, and the groom should attend the ceremony of private dyeing in his own home, and then go to the woman's home to attend the etiquette of big dyeing. In recent years, Malays seem to have a tendency to gradually give up private dyeing and small dyeing etiquette, and only favor heavy dyeing etiquette.
Please sit down on the platform when the groom arrives at the woman's house. There is a copper plate with feet in front of the desk. There is a beautiful henna paste in the middle of the plate. There are three plates around it. There are yellow rice, roasted rice and water mixed with mashed galangal leaves on the plate. There is also a sprinkler made of fragrant leaves in this small plate.
At the beginning of the ceremony, the male guests presided over first. I saw an elderly guest standing in front of the material, sitting on the stage, taking a little yellow rice and sprinkling it on the groom's right shoulder, and then sprinkling some on his left shoulder. Then take some roasted rice and sprinkle it again like yellow rice. Then, he dipped some Jiang Shui in a fragrant leaf sprayer and sprayed it on the back of the groom's hand. Finally, he painted a little henna on the groom's palm, but the groom's palm wouldn't get dirty, because his mother-in-law's agent immediately put two leaves on his palm before dyeing it. After dyeing the palm, the groom put his hands together and raised them to his chest to pay tribute to his master.
All guests, regardless of gender and age, can take turns to be hosts. According to Malay custom, male guests should preside over the ceremony before female guests, and the number of hosts must be odd, because Malays think even numbers are not good. Although Malays invite friends to attend all stages of the wedding ceremony, non-circular believers are only allowed to watch the ceremony and cannot preside over the ceremony.
After the groom's ceremony, he will go home with his relatives and friends, and then the bride will attend the ceremony. The process of the ceremony is exactly the same as that of the groom. From the afternoon until midnight, the bride's house was full of guests, singing everywhere, and the noisy and happy atmosphere left a deep impression on people.
The ceremony of husband and wife sitting side by side is the climax of Malay wedding custom, which is usually held in the afternoon of the last day of marriage. The ceremony of "sitting side by side" was not a part of Muslim marriage ceremony at first, but gradually evolved under the influence of Hinduism.
The style of "sitting side by side" is very similar to the throne of Malay Sultan. The platform is divided into three layers, the lowest layer is about half a foot high and the highest layer is about two feet high. Taiwan Province 1 Embroidered silk all around, and then fitted with holiday lights, one bright and one dark, colorful J really looks good. The top floor is a place where a couple sit side by side, with cushions, colorful coats and matching backrest. Standing on it, overlooking the guests, like the style of the first dynasty of the king. No wonder Malay friends say that couples who sit side by side are getting nobler every day.
The "Seating Ceremony" was held in the woman's home. The relatives and friends invited to the ceremony went to the appointment early and brought gifts: rice, oil, eggs, noodles, cups, plates, cloth or cash. A careful host must entrust a loyal relative, register the names of relatives and friends who gave gifts, and the gifts he gave. In this way, in the future, when a guest's daughter marries for a banquet, the gift he sends back will be more generous than the gift he accepts, so as not to be rude.
The bride, dressed in a Malay bridal gown and gold and silver jewelry, led by an elderly relative, walked out of the new house lightly and slowly. She closed her eyes and hung her hair, showing infinite shyness. The bridesmaid helped her get on the stage and sat on the left side of the stage. The bride still hung her head, closed her eyes and was shy. In the Malay concept, this is the performance of chastity and the most precious sentiment of women.
Basically, most of their young people's weddings are arranged weddings. In rural areas, they may just set up their own stage at home, but this kind of "sitting side by side" is more distinctive. Brunei is also an Islamic country, and most of them are similar to Malays, so the princess and Xu sit side by side!
Second, the wedding customs of Malay Chinese
Most Chinese in Malaysia come from Guangdong, Fujian, Hakka and Chaozhou, and they also have some different wedding customs. China wedding day:
In the morning, the bride will meet her at the bride's house accompanied by the man's relatives and friends (choose the auspicious time of the day). The couple offered tea to the bride's parents and elders. After that, take the bride to the new house. The couple offered tea to the groom's parents and elders. Some places have to go to worship. Usually, people in China give out red envelopes to show good luck at their weddings. There is no specific standard for gift money. Usually a person can participate by sending RM 100. If a good friend has RM 200- 1000, it depends on his own mind. "There are few like domestic thousands of oh!
These are the common marriage patterns of Malay Chinese. The following is the personal experience of a daughter-in-law who has just become a Malay Chinese:
In the morning, the groom was chosen to meet the bride at the woman's house on an auspicious day.
Sending tea to the bride's parents is the same as that in Shanghai now, but the next one is different.
After receiving the groom's home, you should worship your ancestors first. Generally, China's eldest son has ancestral tablets at home, so you should worship the man's ancestors first, and your husband will visit his uncle's house.
After the ancestor worship, the groom's family arranged two special chairs, and then a round of tea worship. Their families want to respect all their relatives and elders, even their sisters. For example, grandparents should sit down first, and we will provide them with tea. Uncle, aunt, sister and brother-in-law will wait in the back in turn according to their age. Of course, there will also be red envelopes for tea. I used to give more gold utensils, but now the older generation still gives them, and the younger ones are all cash. In the past, older people were like this! Those who want to worship tea on their knees, dear ~ ~ ~ All those who are taller than me should be respected. Dear ~ ~ to offer tea is to enter their home, and disrespect is no good! It has been said by JMS that eating is not too much, and I don't think it is too much. However, for those gold and silver jewelry and red envelopes, I put up with it.
After a big circle of tea worship, it's basically very late. Go to the hotel and wait for the opening! The China wedding reception in Malaysia usually starts from 6: 30 pm to 7: 30 pm. There will be some celebrations during the dinner. The dishes at a wedding reception are usually 6-8 courses, with only one course at a time, followed by the next course, followed by the main meal, dessert and sugar water. Before drinking the wedding banquet, there is also a signing ceremony. At that time, everyone still has to prepare red envelopes to show the gift of drinking the wedding banquet!
After dinner, they usually disperse separately, but young people's close friends may get together next, and everyone will go out to renew their stalls or something, but they are generally exhausted, and it is too late to go home and count the red envelopes! Basically, the process of Chinese wedding is like this!