The first hurdle, the wedding preparation stage, belongs to the first confrontation and infighting stage of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law's family's material commitment and withdrawal to the future daughter-in-law. The couple's expectation of the wedding scene expenses is forced to shrink in the face of unexpected events at the mother-in-law's family, or the bride's excessive expectations for wedding planning exceed her mother-in-law's family's financial ability, or the dowry can't meet her mother-in-law's wishes. All these will Now pregnant women are much more expensive than before, so they are more stingy in their diet. This belongs to Xiao Tong's family. If you are lucky, your parents will take care of you. If you are unlucky, your mother-in-law will definitely say, "We ate radish slices when we gave birth, and the children have grown up. Let me make it for you according to the recipe. How can you be so poor and so particular? " Some mother-in-law said, "Let her mother-in-law wait on you. I am terrible and thankless. " Wait for some ugly words, which will make everyone unbearable. Slowly, the daughter-in-law will have a knot in her mind. The third obstacle is taking care of children. At this stage, as children grow up, they have to start school and work to earn money. Therefore, the family affairs can only be taken care of by the mother-in-law, and the children must also be taken care of by him. Whether it's good or not, after all, it's your grandson. At least it won't hurt him, and it will definitely make him eat and wear well. At this stage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is in a stage of mutual comity and contradiction. Three hurdles in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 2. A clear boundary with mother-in-law means that you know in your heart that mother-in-law is not your mother. Mother-in-law is close to you because of your husband, but mother-in-law may not really get along with you. Of course, if the two sides get along best, but they don't get along well, it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you or your mother-in-law. It's just that the two sides are not suitable for being friends, and less contact is enough. Second, don't expect too much from your mother-in-law. Some people expect too much from their mother-in-law. Many young people hope that their mother-in-law can help young couples take care of their children, do housework or give financial support. But in fact, my mother-in-law also has her own life. I just think you may not want her to tell you how to live your life. My mother-in-law doesn't have to make selfless contributions to your life. So if your mother-in-law doesn't want to help you, you don't need a lot of complaints and accusations. Third, respect your mother-in-law, but don't accommodate her. After all, she is an elder and should be respected. Proper manners are not expensive. This is also a respect for the husband. But maybe the mother-in-law will also have her own emotions and unreasonable demands, so it depends on whether it is within her own principles. If the bottom line is exceeded, she needs her husband to change careers. After all, the relationship between husband and mother-in-law is closer. There is no need to do anything against one's will to show respect and filial piety to the elderly. These grievances are likely to erupt in the end, which may be even more unfavorable to the relationship between husband and wife.