Circle of influence and attention circle are closely related concepts. Simply put, the attention circle means that everyone will pay attention to certain aspects selectively, and everyone is different, such as health, children, hobbies and so on. Circle of influence is a part that you can master and exert influence in your own circle of concern (life). To give an inappropriate example: If I want to cook, I have collected a lot of recipes (or I have always wanted to learn to cook in my mind) and find it difficult to cook without further action. This is in the circle of attention. Method 2: Collect recipes and try them when you have time. It may fail the first time, or it may just taste bad. Continue to improve next time, pay attention to the control of temperature and the amount of seasoning. I cooked this dish several times. This is within the sphere of influence.
A simpler understanding is that circle of influence is a good aspect of our life, emphasizing that I can handle it well, I can master it well, and I have a better way. For example, I am very careful and experienced in driving. I have a good fitness effect and the method suits me. My husband and I have a good relationship, good interpersonal relationship, and get along well with colleagues, bosses, relatives and friends.
2. How to expand circle of influence?
We should start with self-awareness. We must first make sure that we can do better, solve problems and give full play to people's initiative. The psychological construction of this is very important. Believe in yourself before you act. Psychologically, I can make a plan to achieve my goal in action. For example, if I want to lose weight, I can't just think. The first thing is to make sure that you can reduce it, and then start making plans to practice it. Start with eating less and exercise for half an hour. Slowly, you can share your experiences with friends around you and help people who have the same troubles. Sharing is influence. Our sphere of influence has also expanded. A more intuitive example is that we pay attention to our favorite up owners, watch various short videos, learn new knowledge and new methods from them, and up owners gain more popularity and praise. Their sphere of influence is expanding.
3. The surrounding environment (weather, parents, boss, company, ex-boyfriend, etc.) can. ) take complete control of my life?
My mother attaches great importance to my natural freedom. When I was in junior high school, many things were decided by myself, and I didn't interfere in the college entrance examination. Therefore, there has always been a kind of resignation in character, but sometimes I just pay attention because I don't fully realize people's initiative talent. When I realized the facts of the sphere of influence, my cognition was sublimated and my inner strength was more solid. I think I can change many things.
When I just graduated from college, I was anxious to find a job because I failed in the postgraduate entrance examination in World War II. I didn't consider my major and interest at all. Plunged into a small state-owned enterprise. The system is rigid and lifeless. I commute for three hours every day, because I am not good at or even contradict my work content and very meager income, and I have a very painful life. The pain lasted for a year. My family is still persuading me not to think too much, and the state-owned enterprises are stable. Because the pain of walking dead is too strong, I choose naked resignation. If I have a stronger sense of self, or understand the meaning of initiative earlier, I may leave a job that is not suitable for me within one year, maybe six months or three months. The second company is a design company of my own choice, and the major is right. The learning environment is very good. This is also the result of my active choice. I submitted my resume carefully, carefully screened it, and even took the high-speed train to interview in two cities. The result was good, and I grasped the choice of fate. In the future, I will also insist on my right to choose. Nothing can completely control my life except myself.