You are stupid enough. If he asks you to resign, you will resign. If you quit, he will bully you even more, because you depend on him for everything. One more thing, I feel that you are afraid of him. What is there to be afraid of in divorce? Do you like being his slave? If you always do this, others will think that you really can't do anything. You can find a job and get a divorce. The more you treat him, the more he looks down on you. Besides, since he is like this, you can't talk nonsense. He suddenly asked a friend to have dinner. You politely said to your friend, "Sorry, he didn't inform me in advance, so I cooked dinner for two, or I'll buy something to eat now." Then ask him for money, but he won't give it, which shows that he is stingy. He gave it, and you kept some for yourself.
Family disharmony is actually bad for children. Don't think that as long as you keep an empty shell home, children will be happy, children will not be stupid, they will grow up slowly and think. Can you guarantee the child's mental health by then?
You said your husband had no career. What can such a man give you? Will his parents support him for life? I won't. The worst part is that you quit. You know, men will abandon you, but if you work hard, they will not abandon you. It is your source of income and the capital of your confidence.
Women, don't pin everything on men, learn to stand on your own feet.