1, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along. You must be generous in front of your mother-in-law, because you will get every son that your mother has worked so hard to raise in a few days, and there will be some feelings of being taken away. That is what people often say (husband is the world, son is everything). 2, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with private houses. Speak well of your husband in front of your mother-in-law. Every mother doesn't like to hear others speak ill of her son. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should always stand on her side in front of her mother-in-law. If there is a contradiction between husband and mother-in-law, we must criticize the husband and comfort her. Because many mother-in-law will think that some changes in her son are due to the daughter-in-law, so be sure to let her know that you are on her side, so that she will help you when you are in trouble in the future. It is certain that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should show their love for her husband in front of her mother-in-law. But let your mother-in-law know that you love her like your husband. 5, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with private houses. Sometimes you have to learn to coquetry in front of your mother-in-law. There is no need to be as strong as a shield in front of your mother-in-law. You can't rub a little sand in your eyes, but you should also pay attention to small things, so that your mother-in-law can worry about you because of your paste and admire you because of your opinions. 6. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should fully show her attention to you, which will make her mother-in-law feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfy her love for her son. 7. If the mother-in-law is an unreasonable old lady, tell her that you are all women that her son likes, and your relationship will directly affect her son's happiness. If you want her son to lead a miserable life, bring it on. 8. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along. Don't make out with your husband in front of your mother-in-law, it will make your mother-in-law jealous. Her mother-in-law brought up your husband, but how many times will she kiss her mother-in-law's face when her son grows up? So be careful and close the door if you want to make out. 9. Don't complain about your husband if you have problems with your mother-in-law. This will only increase your husband's distress and may complicate your relationship. Try to communicate with your mother-in-law and tell her husband more about her happiness. He will trust your ability to do things and cherish you more, because you are a rare good wife. 10, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must make her feel that you are her daughter in front of her mother-in-law, and treat her as if you were your own mother. Sometimes you can be a little grumpy in front of your mother, but be moderate with your mother-in-law, because it may cause dissatisfaction and affect your feelings with your husband. Ten secrets of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A daughter-in-law can do the following: 1. Mentality adjustment As a daughter-in-law, you need to adapt and adjust your mentality, and understand that your mother-in-law is over half a year old, and her personality and values are deeply rooted and cannot be changed. Since you love your husband deeply, you should understand how your son feels about his mother, and respect is the first. Being a clever daughter-in-law will always be a child in the mother's heart, so it is normal for her mother-in-law to talk to her daughter-in-law in an elder tone. When listening to the old man's sharing, you should thank her for her contribution to the family; If it doesn't listen to you, it goes in one ear and out the other. In a traditional family, it is unfilial, and the daughter-in-law should pay attention to this. 3. considerate mother-in-law must remember to buy one more for her mother-in-law when she buys something for her mother. Pay more attention to her mother-in-law's daily life; Give her a call at noon or during the holiday, and the little care and care of her daughter-in-law will make the old people remember. 4, generous vs stingy because of different factors such as life background, knowledge, knowledge, values, age distance. It is not easy for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along, and sometimes there will be friction. Being a tolerant daughter-in-law will greatly alleviate your troubles. 5. Don't get angry with your husband or go back to your mother's house and cry that your mother-in-law is unreasonable, or feel troubled. You might as well complain to your girlfriend first, or go for a walk to decompress; Be kind to yourself and do things that make you happy; Don't vent your anger on your husband. In fact, being caught in the middle is the hardest thing for him. Don't expect him to stand by his wife or comfort him. Try not to mention the shortcomings of your mother-in-law. Even if there is, we should talk about things calmly, not people. Besides, avoid complaining to your mother's family. Parents are eager to love their daughters, and may talk to their son-in-law or in-laws privately. That problem will become more complicated. Mother-in-law should also pay attention to the following questions: 1. To be a beloved mother-in-law, to be a mother-in-law, we must also adjust our mentality. When a son grows up and has a family, he must learn to let go, let his son continue to grow up, be a real man, and assume the responsibility as a husband or father. 2. Don't take your son as your husband psychologically. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it is easy to focus on her son, take care of her son as her life goal and rely on her feelings. When a son gets married, he will feel that he is no longer needed, and he can't get along with his son often. It is naturally uncomfortable to experience the pain of "loss" in his heart. Therefore, it is suggested that the mother-in-law should take precautions for herself in advance and prepare her son not to rely on herself, such as making more friends, establishing her favorite hobbies, doing more sports, participating in more community activities and distracting her eyes and concentration in different fields. As a mother-in-law, if you don't force your son to have children, you should respect the decision of your son and daughter-in-law, and don't give them pressure whether you have the opportunity to have grandchildren or not. In fact, there may be more benefits if you don't take the initiative to bring your grandchildren. For example, you can live more freely in your later years and avoid friction with your daughter-in-law because the two generations have different ways of educating their children. Occasionally I get together to play with my grandson, but I am very happy and relaxed. 4. Accept that grandchildren like their daughter-in-law more than themselves. "I love my mother!" It is natural that a grandson likes his daughter-in-law more than himself. Even if he likes his grandson again, don't take away his daughter-in-law's position in his grandson's mind by means. Don't buy candy and toys. What does it feel like to hear a sentence from Sun Tzu: "My favorite person is grandma" coming into my daughter-in-law's ear? If the daughter-in-law doesn't want her children to be close to her mother-in-law in the future, it will only increase her distress. Being an interesting mother-in-law will be more popular. 5, don't provoke the relationship between son and daughter-in-law. After the son got married, he became one with his daughter-in-law. A mother-in-law should not sow discord between her son and daughter-in-law. Grandma, think about it. She will be old one day. It is the daughter-in-law who can accompany her son. Don't embarrass him. Nowadays, most women pay attention to family and career, and they can't use the previous standard of "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside". Don't let your daughter-in-law take on all the housework after work and wait on her husband like a servant. Mother-in-law must keep pace with the times, or she will lose more than she gains because of the unhappy relationship caused by housework. Ten secrets of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along 3 1. The way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along: don't expect mother-in-law to be a mother. I must keep a relaxed posture and a pleasant attitude. I don't compare my mother-in-law with my mother, and I don't ask her according to my mother's standards. In this way, there will be no complaints. Two unrelated women have an intimate relationship for a man, and sometimes they have to live under the same roof. Naturally, they should be more tolerant and considerate. I remember when I was dating my husband, his home was in a county town dozens of miles away. Sometimes I live in his house and have to catch an early bus to go back to work the next morning. Who knows that my mother-in-law has the habit of sleeping late and never gets up to prepare breakfast for us? I often stand at the station with my boyfriend hungry and complain to him that I am not taken seriously. But after many years of marriage, now that I think about it, that grievance is really nothing, because now no matter how early we get up and go back to the city, no matter how much we persuade, my mother-in-law will always get up early to cook. 2. The way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along: Always be grateful for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, just like husband and wife, learn to let unhappiness and troubles drift with the wind, and let the things recited in your heart be full of beauty. My mother-in-law has four daughters-in-law. When giving birth, my mother-in-law also prepared more than a dozen big quilts, small quilts and small clothes for us. I was quite surprised and said, "You have so many children to take care of. Just prepare one or two expressions of your ideas. There are some things we can buy at any time in the city. " My mother-in-law said disapprovingly, "I do have several grandchildren, but for your daughter-in-law, each of you may have a child in your life." How can you be wronged? " How can you not be moved after listening to your mother-in-law? Every time my mother-in-law comes to my home in town, in addition to bringing a lot of rural specialties, she will spend a day packing a refrigerator to quickly freeze jiaozi for breakfast. Every time she left, she even quietly put hundreds of dollars under the flowerpot, under the bed and in the drawer. These little things always make me feel grateful. So if we don't get along well occasionally, our emotions will only pass by like trees on both sides of a speeding train, and no one will take it to heart. Of course, there must be a sense of distance. If conditions permit, you must keep your distance from your mother-in-law. Imagine that both biological parents will inevitably have differences and contradictions, not to mention people who are not related by blood. But because most families often live together, it is inevitable that there will be some things they don't like, and some bumps will happen. If you have a knot in your heart, it's hard to untie it again. I suggest not seeing each other often and giving more gifts. If you really have to, don't face up to the contradiction and don't fight. Because this will only make her husband in a dilemma and hurt others. 3, the way to get along with mother-in-law: sweet words are very important. Does "my mother" sound much more comfortable than "your mother"? "Mom is tired", "Mom's cooking is delicious", "Mom has recovered from her cold" and "Mom has a rest" ... How can such a language not warm people's hearts? In addition, spend money on clothes and try to keep a low profile in front of your mother-in-law. They may never understand the price of some goods to save money. We don't need to dress up too coquettish in front of her, let alone let her know that we have other friends of the opposite sex. These are unacceptable to their old ideas. In front of your mother-in-law, especially don't boss your husband around. Look at your heart, you will be a mother-in-law in the future. How do you feel when a girl treats your son like this? Smart women understand this "Zen", and most families are sunny.