The word "ritual sense" has different interpretations in different environments and times.
Used in families and children can be interpreted as:
A sense of ceremony means spending time and energy to make someone make an ordinary thing different and give it new meaning.
For example, if the baby enters the complementary food period, will it be specially prepared for the baby? Carnivorous ceremony? How to prepare? The whole family cooks a big table of dishes together, then holds the baby and pretends to eat them one by one. Then when eating a dish, they will say something that suggests the baby's good luck. The whole family wishes and expects the baby's future in this way, which is a sense of ceremony.
Although the baby can't deeply feel the sense of ceremony given by the family when he is young, this sense of ceremony will become an indispensable part of his heart as the baby grows up.
Through this sense of ritual, the baby can get happiness and enhance the affection between parents and children in the family. Through this behavior, the baby will know the meaning behind it and know more about respect and love.
When people's behavior is praised or affirmed by others, this result will trigger a reaction and become a force to urge people to repeat this behavior.
Give children respect and let them know the meaning of respect.
All the initial education of children's character and quality in childhood comes from the guidance of the family. In a family, parents know how to respect their children, let them know what respect is, and then children will know how to respect others when they grow up.
An essential step for children to understand the meaning of respect is to give them a sense of ritual in life.
For example, every time an adult has a birthday, a family ceremony will be held. Parents usually buy a cake or a small gift for their children on their birthdays, because the children are still young. Although the child does not say anything, he will more or less feel that he is not valued and respected by his family.
If parents invite many children to celebrate their children's birthdays and prepare their children for a sense of ceremony, parents will find that as long as they observe carefully, their children will feel the full attention and respect of their families on the same day. Children will deliberately dress themselves up and treat guests with courtesy and enthusiasm. This sense of ceremony will enable children to gain respect and understand the meaning of respect.
Give children love and let them know how to love others.
Giving a child a sense of ceremony is equivalent to giving the child the deepest love in the family. Children will be moved, loved and how to love others from the little sense of ceremony given by their families.
Any subtle ritual action, after time precipitation, will form an emotional gene in children.
Let the children love everyone in this family deeply, make themselves work harder, and don't let the people they care about down.
Help children form important life values.
In daily life, often a small action will give children positive guidance.
. For example, if a child does a good thing, does it right and corrects a bad behavior, parents will encourage and affirm it, which will have a positive impact on the child. Through this little sense of ceremony, children can get the correct direction of life values.
When creating a sense of ceremony for children, we often hear some negative voices, such as? So small, what's the use of all this? 、? Is it useful to spend so much money on such a small child? Will there be more places to spend money in the future Something like that. However, what parents who say these words don't know is that it seems to be these? No need? The sense of ceremony makes children feel full of love and confidence.
Sense of birthday ceremony
No matter how busy family members are, gifts should be given on birthdays or major festivals to express ceremonial words and actions, so that everyone in the family can feel the happiness and joy brought by the sense of ceremony.
Children's sense of ceremony on important occasions
Children often have some small activities or programs after going to kindergarten. In their minds, their performances are not for others to see. They hope that their parents can come to cheer them on and give them encouragement and praise. On this occasion, parents must attend no matter how busy they are, because this sense of ceremony will give children motivation and confidence.
Respect children's opinions at family meetings.
The most important condition for giving children respect and making them realize that they are part of the family is to let them participate in any family decision, regardless of whether their opinions are adopted in the end, but this sense of ritual is the best way to gradually cultivate their independence.
Take an unforgettable photo with your child every year.
When children are young, family is everything to them. Children will feel very angry if they find that adults always ignore him and do something meaningful. For example, children will cry and ask why they don't have their own wedding photos. This is a manifestation of children's lack of family security and sense of belonging.
Therefore, parents can take a family photo with their children every year, and through this small ceremony, children can feel the sense of belonging and security of the family.