On the third day of New Year's Eve, it is also Valentine's Day in the West. I can't help but see all kinds of couples shows, red envelopes, love, food and beautiful scenery. Just like a Valentine's Day comment explained in a circle of friends, our Valentine's Day has become a couple's day, which is more plain and real.

Spending Valentine's Day affectionately can be a visit and companionship to parents, a memorial to ancestors, or a cup of warm tea in the sun, reading quietly, elegant and intoxicated. That day is that day. As for how you use it, what kind of alias you take and how to call it, it's just a gimmick. The essence is to live, and the days are the same. How to live is everyone's homework.

You can choose to go with the flow, follow the public consciousness, follow the collective cognition of society, and live a life defined by many people. You can also choose to follow your heart and live a life that you think is worth it. When we choose, we are actually choosing a lifestyle, habit and attitude towards life.

For example, many people live under the specified rules all their lives. When to go to school, when to go to work, when to get married, when to have children ..., and these patterns have been deeply rooted in my own thoughts and become the standards that must be achieved.

For those unusual lifestyles, especially those that are contrary to the ordinary lifestyle, they are often not accepted by the public or people around them. For example, people don't get married when they think it's time to get married, or the generally accepted heterosexual relationship is impacted and challenged.

Of course, there are also many thoughts and feelings beyond the level of public cognition and understanding. What is unacceptable is beyond personal cognitive understanding. And all this, in fact, is very simple in nature, just living. All other personnel and troubles are just the meaning given to it by thought. What you add to a day will make you see something in a day. The truth is: everything is an illusion created by the mind. People are moved by the world they created and write, direct and perform in it with mixed feelings of sadness and joy.

I want to share a Zen story with you: It is said that a young monk worships Zen master Haiyun and wants to worship him as a teacher. He also said that he must become a Buddha and establish his ancestors. Zen master Haiyun admired his confidence, but decided to test him, so he said to him, "There are many disciples under my seat. I don't need you to be so rude. Go! "

The monk not only refused to leave, but also knelt outside the temple for three days and nights. Zen master Haiyun saw his firmness and took him in. Although the monk has a big tone, he studies Buddhism with great care and never slackens. Zen master Haiyun decided to embarrass him. Other disciples patiently asked Master Haiyun, but this monk, Master Haiyun, often blamed him. But the monk didn't complain and still studied hard.

Later, Zen master Haiyun arranged it in the kitchen to be responsible for the diet of people in the temple. Monks still work hard and do well. A few years later, Zen master Haiyun wrote to recommend two Taoist priests to him, and told the monks to practice with them, and he would certainly gain something after ten years. Back at the temple, he will teach him the cloak.

So the monk came out silently with two letters. Ten years later, he returned to the temple as promised and he really made great progress. Zen master Haiyun is also old, so he follows the agreement and teaches him the mantle. This monk is the famous unbounded Zen master.

So after reading this story for more than ten years, I will feel that life is not like this. How do you know that the criticism and harshness of the past is not to see if you can bear the heavy responsibility? Only when the mind is trained to be motionless can all external illusions hinder the self-mind. Know your true direction and goal in your heart, and all the experiences must be necessary for you to achieve what you want.

After all this, I realized that my heart was unmoved and the outside world had nothing to do with me. Knowing what you want and doing it wholeheartedly is the practice of this life.

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