We often base our joys and sorrows on how lovers look at ourselves, gradually losing ourselves and just catering to each other blindly.

If you want others to be good to you, you must first learn to be good to others; If you want others to love you, you must learn to love others first.

Everything is like this.

Love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. Throughout the ages, touching love stories have made many people cry.

Precious feelings should be equal, not humble.

When you love others, don't ignore your feelings, and don't hurt yourself or force yourself for that love.

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Xiao Fang likes cooking very much, but it's not delicious.

She has no talent for cooking, but she always watches news about food safety, worrying that her husband is eating unhealthy outside. So I bought pots and pans and cooked lunch for my husband every day.

Every time my husband won't dislike her poor cooking, even if she fails again, she will watch her finish eating with a smile and loudly praise her for her good cooking.

It was her husband's encouragement that made her more motivated to cook and work harder. I used to do it once every few days, but now I do it every day and every meal. My husband's three meals a day are contracted by Xiao Fang.

Slowly, he found that her husband didn't eat much. He often leaves a lot of unfinished lunch boxes to bring back every day. He often advises her to go out for dinner with her children.

She felt a little confused. She thinks she can cook, so why waste money eating out.

The rest of the money, accumulated over time is not a decimal. Besides, cooking outside is not as healthy and secure as cooking at home.

On one occasion, the couple quarreled over whether to eat at home or go out.

In desperation, her husband told her the truth: "The food you cooked is so bad, can't you taste it?" I ate it because I saw you so hard. As a result, I didn't expect you to pour it out and start cooking every day. Do you mean to torture me to death by cooking such terrible things every day? Actually, to be honest, I don't mind that you can't cook at all. Everyone has something he is not good at, but we can do less bad things. What's wrong with going out to eat occasionally to improve our food? We don't need the money. If you really want to cook every day, go to the bookstore to buy more cookbooks, study recipes, or sign up for a cooking class and learn to eat well. "

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After listening to her husband's words, she suddenly felt very wronged. She spent so much time preparing, but her husband still doesn't like herself. But I also feel sorry for my husband. In order to take care of her feelings, I force myself to eat bad food every day.

So she said, "Well, well, you don't have to worry so much. Just eat by yourself. If you feel uncomfortable, don't eat it. Let's go out for dinner. When I learn to cook, I can cook a delicious meal and then cook it for you. "

When the husband heard this, his anger slowly subsided and the two of them got back together.

For this woman who can't cook, cooking may be a challenge every time.

She may think in her heart that if she cooks for her husband so hard, he will always read his own good.

But she ignored a question, does her husband really want her to make such sacrifices and pay?

Who says not?

Those unnecessary efforts can actually be done less or not.

You let yourself be wronged and do things that look good to each other. He may benefit from it, but you reap deeper sorrow. Is this good for your relationship? number

If you don't do it, although the other party doesn't benefit from it, he won't have any complaints, and you won't feel unwilling because of grievances.

This will not have any bad influence on your relationship. It is better to do more than one thing, and it is also suitable here.

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Seeing a woman's view of her husband on Zhihu makes people reflect.

She used to quarrel with her husband, who said to her, "Don't be self-righteous. You will feel wronged if you do something you don't want or like for me." . If you suffer any more grievances because of those things, and take it out on me again, I will feel bad. This is not what I asked you to do. If you don't feel wronged, do it. If you feel wronged, don't do it. It's early. It's not good for both of us.

Later, she gradually changed and stopped forcing herself to do things she didn't want to do or didn't like to do to cater to her husband. Over time, the relationship with my husband has also become better.

In addition, the stories of Nicholas Tse and Cecilia Cheung also made many fans sigh.

The love-hate entanglement between them makes everyone feel very worried.

As long as I recall their marriage, Cecilia Cheung herself and her fans are constantly talking about how much she has paid for this marriage.

Cecilia Cheung knew that Nicholas Tse liked a plump woman, so she stopped trying to be slim.

Her usual diet has become irregular and the number of exercises has gradually decreased; She knew that Nicholas Tse didn't like dogs and was allergic to dog hair, so she sold her six precious dogs at a low price. Knowing that Nicholas Tse likes playing the guitar, she looks for things with guitar elements everywhere.

And the result? What did she get? What she gets is the indifference of the other party to herself and her children, a figure who has been playing video games, regardless of her indifference to herself and her children.

She often stares at the indifferent figure for hours.

When she divorced, Cecilia Cheung was heartbroken. She doesn't know why she changed for him. He did such a cruel thing to himself.

But from Nicholas Tse's point of view, is it because Cecilia Cheung is tired of becoming more and more humble and less like himself, rather than getting better?

Maybe it is. After all, when he left Cecilia Cheung and returned to Faye Wong, they had a good life.

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Cecilia Cheung once told an artist that he might be wrong. If he could do it again, it might not end like this.

Actually, she did nothing wrong.

There is nothing wrong with her loving her husband and her family. What is wrong is that she puts too much emphasis on giving.

She sacrificed her hobbies to cater to each other's hobbies, and as a result, she gradually lost her own characteristics and became unattractive.

Therefore, in love, both men and women should not lose their own characteristics.

When you become better, you will find that the world is so beautiful. In this way, you will become more and more confident, and more people will start to like you because of your confidence.

What attracts you is the bright spot in you;

No matter what reason you change yourself, it also shows that your attraction to each other is gradually disappearing.

There is nothing wrong with being kind to others. What is wrong is only the object of payment. People who don't trust you to be kind to them are simply not worth paying.