Wen: I'm Su Yan.

Friends and friends get together for a reunion dinner. After dinner, they want to go to another friend's house to play mahjong. They don't want to join in the fun. There are thousands of thoughts in my heart, and I have been thinking about it. They still want to be alone, sort out their ideas and write a complete text.

Coincidentally, during this time, three big nephews lived with me and saw all kinds of problems in them. Like my son and many other children we all know, they often lament the problems in their education. We failed so badly.

202 1 March 3, 20081day concept mutation, children have many advantages. However, when I pay attention to their growth, I have cognitive bias, only seeing shortcomings, hating iron and not turning into steel, blindly picking words and blaming, and forgetting to appreciate education and encourage refueling, which is somewhat biased.

I think the best children are children from other families, and these children from my own family are worthless. I forgot that good children are encouraged, not suppressed. All children have advantages, but I only see their shortcomings. I'm always angry with them, I hate iron and I keep picking holes.

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Let's start with our son.

My son's business is light in winter, so he began to shoot short videos and tell himself some financial knowledge. His speech was not very refreshing, but it was a bit chewy. This is what he summed up from his reading and thinking over the past N years, and all the copywriting was written by himself. There is some truth in the summary.

He has all kinds of minor faults. I criticize him and criticize him to his face. He is used to my harsh criticism and won't talk back to me and laugh it off.

It is true that our close friends all praise our son for his good temper. In fact, his temper also follows us, and he is irritable, but he can tolerate me and rarely turns his face.

My son's education is not high, but he loves learning and thinking, and his mind is not empty. He also loves reading books on finance and has a set of ideas. Coupled with years of successful practical experience, he really has to work hard and persevere, and he can also break into a world.

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Let's talk about the niece of senior one. A big niece can't get along with her mother. Adults have their views, children have their opinions, and fighting is indispensable. A word is inconsistent, and the flustered mother has no good strategy and often starts work. Where the big girl who grew up can't stand this kind of repression, it is natural to resist.

Mother and daughter couldn't get along, so I took them in. All kinds of children's problems also make me angry, because after all, they are not my own, so I can only endure and complain behind my back.

During the Spring Festival, I saw the photos she sent to the students, whether it was a selfie video or a group photo. She is a tall and burly person, standing in position C, and she can't help feeling happy.

We adults have problems in our eyes and need to constantly put forward rectification opinions. Among the forty or fifty children in the class, we are still a central figure, acting as organizers and commanders, with her responsibilities and responsibilities. On weekdays, I really underestimate her, just thinking that she is a kid who knows nothing. I want to remind her of big and small things. It turns out that she is much more capable than adults think.

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And a niece who came all the way.

My niece studied abroad and is very talented in language and music. She can speak many languages, especially playing musical instruments and singing foreign songs.

Her mother is the kind of person who "turns a blind eye to things outside the window and reads only sage books". She is thirsty for knowledge at school and reads monographs until guests come and go and can turn a blind eye. After work, I only concentrate on my work and will not communicate with others. There are many obstacles in interpersonal communication. I am an imbecile in real life.

Mother doesn't know how to teach, niece is not good at communication and doesn't know the world. It is a flower cultivated in a greenhouse and has not experienced the ups and downs of the outside world. I can only treat her like a child.

During the meal, she couldn't get used to my home cooking. She bought ingredients online, followed the mobile phone menu and cooked the food in an orderly way, not to mention, it was delicious.

Have dinner with friends and let her cook something delicious. We chatted, and she was busy in the kitchen, and several dishes she cooked were praised by everyone. Even the homemade milk tea I just learned stole art from her.

Children can talk, sing and cook, and the movies recommended to us are suitable for all ages, so we can enjoy them. She has many excellent qualities.

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Another fat and lazy nephew, lazy and lazy, loves animals very much. He must be able to see a little hurt and pain in animals that others can't. Spare no effort to bathe and dry the big dog in winter. I love my car when I drive, and my maintenance is spotless.

It is my paranoia to think about it and criticize those children who have problems in their eyes and have their own shortcomings and advantages.

At the beginning of the new year, everything starts from scratch, and cognition will change. I wrote myself four requirements:

First of all, stand in the right position

Know who you are, why you are alive, what you should do, what you should do, set a good position for yourself, and do what you should do.

Second, I want to understand things.

What is yours is yours, and what is not yours is not yours. You are lucky, not your luck, don't force it. Nothing is difficult. Live one day, be comfortable one day, let go, let go, and have fun all your life.

Third, always reflect on the past.

Save yourself three times a day. When you encounter something sad, look for the internal cause from yourself. Don't force others to do anything, just ask yourself how.

Fourth, complain less about others.

Others have other people's views and opinions. We can't ask others to have the same cognition as us. Just do your own thing and let others do what they want. Don't be picky, don't blame, do your job well and be yourself.

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This is the first article on the first day starting in 2022, with a new WeChat avatar and a new signature. Write down your New Year's resolutions, too.

Goals and tasks for the 2020 New Year:

First, read a hundred books.

Second, a chapter every day, one to two thousand words.

Third, exercise every day.

Fourth, interview thirty to fifty people with stories.

Fifth, shoot video Tik Tok every day, and be a person who loves life.

Sixth, earn income through writing and support yourself.

Seven, sit still and think about your mistakes, be kind to all people and things, and be less obsessed.

Eight, live with goals and plans.