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I first came into contact with the concept of comfort zone when I was a volunteer about five years ago. The two-day Raleigh China Raleigh China Youth Camp was held in the private estate of a good friend in Qingyuan. Your sister invited me to attend. The first time I heard the CEO of Raleigh China mention the concept of jumping out of the comfort zone.
Oh, my God, it was dark and windy that night, and it was drizzling. Miss San really jumped out of the comfort zone. Although it didn't bring any revolutionary changes, that rare experience is also a memory that she will never forget. She plunged into it and made a face at any critical moment to "click" herself.
At three o'clock in the morning, after a long day's struggle, Miss San, who was exhausted to death, was still sleeping and was quarreled by the big speaker. Get dressed quickly and go out and gather. I have to complain that your sister found me a difficult job.
It's been raining. I followed a group of 16-and 17-year-old children from elite families in different cities, followed the team leader and several Li Lei's staff to the wild in the rain, practiced a series of skills such as binding stretchers and rescue, and crawled forward in the rain and mud. . . The children behaved well, but I felt very uncomfortable!
How melodramatic I was then! Once, a group of friends came to your sister's brother-in-law's villa to pick fruits, all kinds of fun and sweaty. Miss San insisted on wearing Xianxianer's lace perspective dress, and the branches really blew me up.
A person's radical change needs opportunities. It was not the right time, but I planted the seeds of change, although I didn't know it at the time.
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The biggest reason why a person is addicted to comfort is the lack of a sense of crisis. Once the environment is turbulent and the comfort zone collapses, people who are content with the status quo will be the first victims.
A true story:
Lisa, a 34-year-old woman, started smoking and drinking at the age of 16, and spent most of her time fighting obesity. She once lived in debt, drank too much every day and was divorced by her husband. For a long time, crying, overeating, insomnia, helplessness, depression and anger filled her life, and she felt humiliated. At the bottom of the valley, she got up in the dark to find a cigarette, and didn't realize that the pen she ordered was Marlboro cigarettes until she smelled the burning plastic.
At some point, she felt that she couldn't live like this any longer. Make up your mind to see the pyramids. Then she will do many things to achieve this goal. Of all the changes to be made, first of all, she must give up smoking.
Four years later, she lost 60 pounds, quit smoking and drinking, ran a marathon, read a master's degree and bought a house. Looks younger than the file 10 years old.
Neither is good, because all talk and no action;
All discomforts have a chance to make you grow.
When you make up your mind to change and put it into practice, the whole world will make way for you!
This is not chicken soup, this is the truth.
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You are your time.
Where you spend your time, you go;
What you spend your time doing will make you what you are.
Those who perfunctory life, life must also perfunctory you.
After all these years of talking about boiling frogs in warm water, you still pretend not to wake up?
The real time killer is not others, but self-control
Self-discipline is a positive thinking, which will certainly bring some inconvenience to individuals. Constantly struggle with your own desires, endure pleasure, and make yourself serious rather than relaxed.
There is a beautiful neighbor, because the child and Miss San have known each other for more than five years. Beautiful neighbors are also northeast sisters. Like Miss San, she is 40+ years old. Middle-aged women are trying to lose weight, go on a diet, have plastic surgery and torture themselves. The reason is that their metabolism is slow, they begin to have a belly, their faces are not tight, their chins are paired, and so on. But in her place, being able to eat and be fat is a false proposition. Why?
We have lived in the garden for more than two and a half years. As long as I get up in the morning, I'm sure I'll see her circle or leg press early. If there is sunshine, I will definitely put on my hat and ice sleeves. After dinner at night, if you go out for a walk, you will definitely see her scurrying and charming.
She is also a hardcore yoga lover for many years.
Even if I stay at home and watch TV after dinner, I will never lie down, but demand myself with yoga postures that are conducive to maintaining my posture. Over the years, strict self-discipline has long been a habit.
Writer yat sen villa said: life is your own, and age is given to you by others.
As long as you are willing, you can live the life you want anytime and anywhere.
There is also a friend in the circle, a big coffee in the marketing group. Because of serious physical problems, he began to seek medical treatment everywhere and was once on the verge of collapse. Under the guidance of experts, I began to be vegetarian after conditioning, and strictly managed my diet health. Originally, the colorful life of "Zhumen wine stinks" has come to a 180 degree turn, and the whole person's state is getting better and better, and the more he lives, the younger he is.
I watched a CCTV program, in which seven grandmothers, with an average age of over 54, danced wildly on the stage, wearing hip-hop clothes, clothes with shorts showing their navel, hot bodies and rock music. The host was surprised and asked, "How did you guys come up with the idea of dancing street dance? It doesn't seem to be your age? " An aunt's answer was surprising: "It's because of cancer." It turns out that seven aunts and eight aunts are all cancer patients. Because I don't want to stay in the intensive care unit and spend the rest of my life on chemotherapy, several aunts who love dancing added: Dead, dance! Go through the last journey of life! So seven people formed a dance troupe, rehearsed every day, and their stage was in the square and the street, and they also participated in various competitions. After a few years, all kinds of trophies filled the whole cabinet. Unexpectedly, I just want to live a happy life in the last few years. "I forgot about cancer later." Jump, jump, skip cancer.
No matter how hard life is, no matter what dangers are outside the comfort zone, people can only rely on themselves in the end.
Strict self-management and self-disciplined lifestyle are the only way for us to live a better life.
American psychologist Martin Garnard said, "If you live happily, cancer will disappear."
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Miss San has always been a sexless person. All kinds of active thinking, all kinds of ideas, take fewer detours when encountering difficulties, and always find reasons for yourself.
Life is realistic and cruel.
Miss San's obvious shortcomings have brought more and more troubles and setbacks to herself. The pace of life was once chaotic and almost stopped shooting. After countless sleepless nights and dark days, Miss San somehow came to her senses. So far, she hasn't figured it out herself. Anyway, I finally waited for that "point"!
All these changes started with Miss San's cooking.
At first, Miss San was forced to walk into a strange and insensitive kitchen, picked up a kitchen knife and was at a loss for potatoes, persimmons and Chinese cabbage. After a series of gnashing of teeth, heartbreaking and having to do it, the plot actually took a gratifying turn: Miss San fell in love with the kitchen! I fell in love with daily food production and sharing, studying recipes, ingredients and utensils, setting dishes, taking photos and retouching pictures, and recording every bit of food. . . Step by step on the road of gourmet, can't stop.
Here I want to introduce you to another psychological concept: flow.
Psychologist Mihaly Zikson Mihaly has found a feeling that a person's personal spirit is completely devoted to some activity, that is, flow, which at the same time produces a high degree of excitement and sense of accomplishment.
What's it like to live a full life? Are you busy doing something now? When Mihaly Zikson Mihaly, an expert on happiness and creativity, studied the way painters work, he noticed a strange thing. When a painting is well done, artists don't care about fatigue, hunger or discomfort, they just go on. But after painting, you will soon lose interest in them. Psychologist Mihaly Zikson Mihaly called it "flow". This is a feeling of putting one's personal spirit into an activity completely.
When you are in a state of flow:
1. An hour passed in the blink of an eye.
I think it is very important to do anything.
3. Unconsciously
4. Unity of knowing and doing
5. I feel completely in control
6. Feeling is beneficial in nature.
Good food and beautiful clothes can help people avoid depression. A person's process of focusing on aesthetics is a process of accepting himself and nourishing his body and mind.
In the whole process of studying recipes, making delicious food, posing and sharing, Miss San was absorbed in it, and an hour passed in the blink of an eye. Miss San has experienced the impact of "flow" and what it feels like to live a full life. Now Miss San cooks every day, studies new recipes every day, and has a heart flow experience every time she cooks, so she has a good time every day.
"I love my dream.
It warms my heart like a spring.
My heart contracted.
Sink like a stone.
My heart swells.
Like a balloon rising into the blue sky.
Let sunshine and moonlight interweave.
Integrate the past with the future.
Fireworks ripped through the night sky like lightning.
Turn it into a strange solar wave.
-"Focus on the city"
Flow brings vitality and happiness to people.
Create and learn to live a full life, infinitely extend the width of life, and experience a richer, more interesting and more vivid life course.
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There is a WeChat group with some friends in the circle. Every day, someone will share the voice about a healthy and active life, full of positive energy. At the beginning of this year, in the first group, the group owner suggested that everyone should make an annual small goal and make it public.
A group friend set a small goal of "copying Chinese and English classics by hand every day".
At the beginning of the formulation, he was very uneasy, afraid to put it into action, fearing that he could not persist, which simply became a burden.
On an ordinary and special day, he finally started copying on the first day, which was encouraged and appreciated by many people. Since then, I have been meditating and copying for ten minutes every day without interruption.
This made him find that the best way is to dare to make a commitment to yourself and do it. From the beginning, the feeling is a burden, and then it gradually becomes a kind of enjoyment. Ten minutes of meditation and copying every day is like a special reward for yourself in a complicated world.
Every moment of our life is a gift from heaven, so why not enjoy life to the fullest?
Miss San has a classmate and friend who is a student. A few days ago, she exposed a few small illustrations of her hand-drawn sketches on WeChat, which surprised all her classmates!
This friend is not a professional at all, nor has he studied it specially. He taught himself by buying books with interest, insisted on painting, and slowly drew a professional standard.
This made Miss San realize how meaningful it is to stick to the lifestyle.
With the deepening of hobbies, you will ignite different passions at different stages, live a happy life every day, and your life will be different.
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During the Dragon Boat Festival holiday, a group of students from my daughter's class went to Liannan Yaozhai to experience poverty alleviation.
You need to cook for lunch in Yao people's homes.
The mother in the same group is a business elite, and it is no exaggeration to say that she is the eldest sister.
Miss San, who has been wandering around the kitchen stove for half a year, is determined to be a chef. However, as soon as she entered the kitchen, Miss San was dumbfounded at once! The original condition of the kitchen is beyond imagination.
When something happened to Miss San, this elite mother kept up with the crisis and immediately played the dual role of commander-in-chief and chief executive. First, ask me to take my two children to clean the living room, clean up the debris, clean the floor, sort out the garbage, do a good job in the hygiene of the dining table, and clean and disinfect the dishes with boiling water. It's not bad to buy food for my little sister, and then she goes into the kitchen and cooks by herself. I quickly washed the vegetables and helped prepare the ingredients. At that time, the oil was already in the pot and everything was in good order.
Four dishes, clear process, well-cooked meat, reasonable collocation, high quality and high efficiency, Miss San was amazed.
When the food was served, she took out the drinks from her bag like a magic trick, one can for each person, and raised the whole meal to a higher level at once, okay? ! You know, she bought this drink from the canteen at the foot of the mountain in advance and took it up the mountain. Oh, my God, Miss San didn't think of it at all! If there is no drink, wouldn't it be dry choking? It's even more unbearable to cook a large pot of steaming vegetable soup on such a hot day.
Look at the lunches of other families in the group. Due to the lack of ingredients, some only have two simple vegetables, not to mention drinks.
Afterwards, she talked about her mother, the growing environment and family education, and Miss San was relieved. Her mother is a real lady. Even though she was later copied from her home, the scenery in the past is no longer there, but her mother's requirements for life are as always. No matter how poor you are, your home will always be spotless, and you will never be satisfied with details.
Paying attention to harmony represents the differences in abilities and values.
If the requirements are too low, you can make do; If you ask too much, you will be disappointed.
Synchronize your own requirements with your own life and live the most exquisite life within your ability.
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Miss San believes that the best love for life is to toss, burn and blossom hard!
There is only one life, and you can't turn an ox into a horse in the next life ~
The philosopher Nietzsche said, "Your life will die sooner or later anyway, so be brave."
Miss San said that no matter how old you are or what kind of life situation you are in, you just have to live and move yourself.
May we all have the ability to live the life we love.
Donor, put down the distance? If you are on shore.
With miss San,
Talking about food
Talk about life
About dreams
About now
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