From the description, your husband should spoil you, and maybe your parents spoil you, so in my heart, or from the habit, it has become a "matter of course" that you have a bad temper. Therefore, if you really want to change, it is important to get through your heart and think about why others are good to you or because others are more attentive to you; Do you always look at things from your own point of view and deal with them more? Am I selfish and don't care much about other people's feelings? See how good they are to you, and try to treat them as they treat you and miss them.
I believe that if you think clearly, the problem will be solved and life will be better. You met a good husband, cherish it, really.