It is easy for us to reject this emotion and try to make it disappear by diverting our attention. Its existence and stubbornness will make us feel weak, and no one wants to admit that we are incompetent and fragile in some aspects, so we often consciously hide this emotion, but it is counterproductive. Then how should we deal with the sadness when we leave?
First of all, what we need to recognize is the meaning of our parting. Some optimists think that parting is only for the next better reunion, while rational people will feel that everything must come to an end and let nature take its course.
And we should have a definition of parting ourselves. Because people encounter different situations, we can't just learn from others' feelings of parting. If we are sad, we can enjoy our sadness, and then we can better experience the heart behind this sadness.
Secondly, it is to feel this sadness, not to suppress it, but to follow it to feel the duration and strength of this sad mood. In this way, we can accurately determine the proportion of sadness in this emotion. Instead of letting sadness increase sadness, this kind of emotion will become more serious because it is too emotional, so we should recognize the weight of emotion.
Finally, instead of emotion, emotion is a subjective response of the subject to the object. We can't change the occurrence of events, but we can change our view of events. At the same time, I also need to feel my own shortcomings in this incident, so that I can gain something in every emotion.
Specific behavior methods, you can try to say goodbye to important people or things, collect some clues related to past memories and record them, or try to write yourself a letter.
For now, we have separated and experienced the current mood. Even if we feel the past and the future, the past and the future are still closely related to us, so we should not reject them, but accept them emotionally. Through this kind of thinking, we can learn to cherish them more.