The boss killed us. International Online News: Reader Mr. Wang wrote that I work in a small company with a monthly salary of more than 2,000 yuan, but I have a boss who likes eating and drinking very much. Every time I go out to eat, several of our subordinates pay the bill, ranging from one hundred to two hundred and three hundred. To this end, several colleagues and I have a headache. Once, a colleague turned off his cell phone to avoid having dinner with his boss, and the boss scolded him the next day. Another time, a colleague temporarily canceled the dinner arranged by the boss because of a headache. As a result, the leader said the next day, "Did you really have a headache yesterday, or were you afraid to pay the money and run away?" Now a few of us get scared when the boss says we are going out to eat. Excuse me, expert, what should I do with such a boss? Expert answer: In the workplace, we should grasp the principles, understand the boss's past work performance, and correctly understand and understand his work habits and styles, working methods, thinking habits, psychological state and personality quality. Adapt to different leaders and bosses at work. For a boss who is particularly selfish, you must not blindly obey or contradict. Regarding your question, I suggest that when your boss is in a good mood, you can give him advice in a skillful language and turn eating into other hobbies, such as fitness, swimming, chatting and so on. If your behavior is ineffective, the boss can't change it, and you can't stand it, then I suggest you leave this company. My colleagues like to climb on top of others. Miss Qu wrote: I have a classmate who works in the same company as me after graduation. At school, he was good at sucking up to department leaders and teachers. Now that he has arrived at the company, his style has not changed at all, which has made our boss happy all day. For example, he remembers the birthdays of all the directors of the company, big and small. Whenever the supervisor has a birthday, everyone will be called together a few days ago to discuss what birthday gift to buy for the supervisor. And he also determines the gift specifications according to the position of his boss. Because he can talk to his boss, everyone follows his advice. However, we later learned that every time we buy a gift for our boss, the expenses are shared equally by the rest of us, and he is often penniless. Not only that, he always gave gifts himself, and he never mentioned anything that everyone paid for. Now many executives in the company attach great importance to him, and they also hear that he has become the main candidate for the company's reserve leadership. Excuse me, experts, how should we get along with such colleagues who harm others and benefit themselves and step on others' shoulders at work? Expert answer: There are all kinds of colleagues in the workplace, so we should pay attention to several principles when we are based in a new company: spend more time dealing with difficult work; Don't stir up too much trouble in the company; Avoid talking about right and wrong in the company; Understand the unwritten rules in the company. There are many people in the workplace who are as good at flattering as your colleagues. Since I have worked with such colleagues, I have to find a breakthrough in other aspects in order to be promoted as soon as possible. Let colleagues and bosses know about your talents and get more opportunities; Have the courage to complete more arduous tasks and show your talents. In addition, "One thousand strokes" is certainly good, but "One stroke" is even more impressive. Finally, I want to remind you that the highest level of getting along with colleagues is to always treat others as good people, but always remember that not everyone can be good people. How to get along with rampant colleagues Miss Li wrote: I work as a clerk in a foreign-funded enterprise, and there is a female colleague in the department. With a good relationship with our immediate supervisor, I often ignore the rules and regulations of the company and the department. These rules and regulations are useless to her at all. For example, she is often late for work, and she will get off work early once or twice a week to go shopping or something. At the beginning of this year, in order to strengthen the office discipline, the company decided to impose large penalties on those who were late and left early, but she always went her own way on the grounds that I asked the department boss for leave, and our boss sometimes even defended her, which made other employees feel very disgusted. Naturally, her colleagues also have a lot of complaints about her. Some of her colleagues politely advised her, but she casually said, "Who told me to have a good relationship with my boss?" I don't want you to mind my own business. You just have to ensure that you are not punished and worry less about me. " You see, such people make people angry. The point is that her behavior has affected the department. Sometimes we people want to write a joint letter to poke these things to the big boss. Excuse me, how to get along with such a crazy colleague? Expert answer: In the workplace, every company's environment is different, so let yourself adapt to the environment, because the environment will never adapt to you, even if it is a very painful process. Avoid open opposition (including open opposition, especially fierce opposition) with colleagues in the company. Besides, sometimes telling the truth will get you into trouble. If you have a good relationship with your colleagues and leaders, you can do whatever you want. Where there are gentlemen, there are villains. Therefore, you should suggest that the administrative department of the company should strengthen the implementation of the prescribed discipline, and your colleagues' freewheeling will be constrained. In addition, to strengthen their professional level, excellent work will soon be promoted. A steady salary and personal interest "crash" reader Miss Chang wrote: I studied art design, and now I work as a secretary in a real estate company. I just do some sorting and collecting data every day, and my monthly salary is not bad. Recently, one of my former classmates opened a creative studio. He is the only one who wants me to join him and do our old job-art design. This makes me very excited. After all, it is my major and interest. I discussed it with my parents, but I met with opposition. My parents say that kind of job is insecure, which is not as easy and stable as my present job. I'm hesitant now, and I don't know what to do. Ask an expert to give me advice. Expert answer: in the workplace, work enthusiasm is the first, and it is also the driving force for all future work results. The way of thinking is secondary, because it determines that you will put your talents and energy into a certain field of work. Ability is the third, and working ability actually comes from experience. Enthusiasm for work is relatively emotional, which is closely related to your personal growth process. The way of thinking ultimately depends on a person's personal quality, and most of them are learned the day after tomorrow, that is, what they have learned. Don't be too practical when considering problems in the workplace, but pay attention to the cultivation of ability and the development of knowledge, so that you can have more potential after 30 years old. Life before the age of 30 is not to make money, but to create the future. Find the best combination of ability, education and experience, and better promote your career development, in order to have an accurate positioning and choice! Mr. Luo, a narrow-minded reader of my boss, wrote: Soon after I came to work in the company, I found that my boss was narrow-minded and didn't trust his manager. He told me that this person was bad, that person was incompetent and that someone wanted to ruin his business. At that time, I thought this boss was not suitable for me, but it was not easy to have a job, as long as I was not too strict with myself. A few days ago, he asked me to draw up a company's employment system, and forcibly added some non-compliant terms. I thought it inappropriate to discuss with him, and as a result, he flew into a rage. After this incident, he began to tell other managers that my work was not in place and he blamed me for the company's difficulties. I asked him to leave, but he refused. Excuse me, expert, should such a boss leave him as soon as possible? The expert replied: Your career and lover are chosen according to your own wishes, but your boss has no choice, because as soon as you enter the company, your boss has already been determined. Now that you are the boss, there should be something outstanding in your work. First of all, you should really know your boss. If you know the boss's personality, preferences and personality, you will be appreciated and recognized by the boss at work. Secondly, communicate as soon as possible and bridge the gap between you and your boss. After the "crack" appears, you should find a suitable opportunity to communicate with each other, so as to achieve the purpose of mutual communication and provide a decent step for both sides to show their respect for him. Finally, if you don't want to compromise all the time, leave as soon as possible.