Proposing marriage with a bottle of soju is the first procedure in Xibe marriage, also called "talking about daughter-in-law". When the son reaches the age of 16 or 17, parents will start to "speak for the daughter-in-law". After you have a suitable partner, please ask a matchmaker who is good in character, famous and familiar with the woman's family to propose marriage to her family. When the matchmaker and the man's parents go to the woman's house to propose marriage for the first time, they can bring nothing with them empty-handed. The purpose of this trip is to "explore the road", just to visit and talk to each other, not to mention the children's marriage. But when saying goodbye, the matchmaker should say "come back later" to the woman's family-suggesting the next formal proposal. Everyone in the woman's family knows the visitor's intention. After the guests leave, they will immediately hold a "family expansion meeting" to solicit opinions and understand the man's family situation and the young man's occupation and personality. When the matchmaker and the man's parents go to the woman's house for the second time, the tradition is to bring a bottle of soju as a gift to propose marriage, which is also a token of formal proposal, and the woman's house can understand the new couple's intention at a glance. After the greeting, the matchmaker opened a bottle of wine, stood up with the man's parents to propose a toast to the woman's parents, and expressed his intention. If the woman's parents agree to this marriage, after some concessions, they will happily take over a small handleless wine cup and drink it; If you don't agree, you will never accept a small glass of wine under various excuses. If yes, after the matchmaker leaves, the parents of the woman's family will ask their next of kin to discuss it again, and at the same time, they will also ask their daughter for advice. The matchmaker and the man's parents will also bring a bottle of soju when they come to the woman's house for the third time. When the two sides talk over coffee, the topic will turn to the child's marriage. The woman's parents will announce the results of the discussion and agree to bring the young man to the "interview" next time; If the woman's opinion is still not unified, then this matter needs to be delayed until the time is ripe.
After waiting for a while, the man got the news that the woman's opinions on the marriage were completely unified, so the matchmaker, the man's parents and the young man went to the woman's house and took two bottles of shochu as a toast. At the woman's house, the future son-in-law will salute and toast the woman's elders. Girls will hide and peek at the appearance and behavior of their future husbands. After a while, the future son-in-law will take two glasses of wine and kneel down to propose a toast to the future father-in-law, which is equivalent to a formal proposal. By this time, the marriage proposal ceremony is basically over.