First, work harder. With children, the expenses in all aspects of life have at least doubled or even more. At the beginning, children's milk powder, diapers, various inspection fees to the hospital (inspection fees for children and wives), and wife's soup (at least two dishes and one soup every day). When children reach school age, the expenses of kindergartens are also high. Although tuition is free from primary school to junior high school, there are still many miscellaneous fees. Moreover, when children grow up, they have higher requirements on the quality of clothes and will spend a lot of money on them.
Therefore, if you don't work harder, life will be very difficult. For me or people in our ordinary family, it is inevitable to work harder. Before you have children, you may spend your days in a job, but after you have children, you need to think of various ways to make money, and sometimes you will be a driver at night.
Second, I am more filial to my parents. Before I got married, I basically lived a chic life every day. Every time I see the news that parents complain about being tired with their children, I feel nothing in my heart. Sometimes I feel that taking children is not so tired. Now it's my turn to raise a child, only to find that it's really not easy, and to really understand the meaning of "a handful of shit and a handful of urine", not to mention that my parents have raised three, so tired.
It always hurts me to watch my parents grow old. Looking back on the bitter days before, I need to be filial to them.
Third, go home every day when you see your wife busy at home. One person has to take care of two children. From the time I come home from work, I will cook, wash clothes and take a bath for my children. I am always unhappy in my heart. So I go home from work every day, do all kinds of housework with my wife, and then have dinner and watch TV with my wife and children. I am happy every day, which is better than drinking outside and my wife exhausted at home.
An unmarried and childless person will never feel the hardships of being a parent. Only when you become a parent will you find that your responsibilities have become bigger and you need to be responsible for your wife, children and parents.