Look at that sister. The two men and women talked through the central media. If both parties are interested, they will agree to "meet the sister".
The two sides agreed to inform each other of their birthdays after writing the Geng post. When you go back, please ask the fortune teller to "check the eight characters". If the eight characters hit it off and don't collide with each other, write a Geng post (common name wedding list) and put it on the incense table. If there is no writing on the wall within three days, the marriage is settled (if the eight characters don't match, the man will return the Geng Tie to the woman's house).
Making a red list is also called "opening a red wedding post", or talking about bride price. The man's parents, clan relatives and matchmaker go to the woman's house together and draw out the bride price that the man wants to give to the woman's house. Some red lists should also include gifts for husbands, such as hats, silver flowers, clothes, shoes, socks and so on. In the process of opening a red bill, the two sides will bargain and finally finalize it through negotiation. After the red list is opened, men and women will exchange rings, handkerchiefs and other tokens. Finally, the man came to the woman's house and went back after lunch.
Engagement is also called "big marriage", that is, formally confirming marriage again. Young men and their parents are going to the woman's house to deliver pig's head, fish and meat. , as well as the woman's parents, brothers and sisters, uncles and grandparents will appear. After lunch, girls will come out to meet and call each other "parents" and "parents-in-law" and "mother".
Housekeeping means that the woman goes to the man's house to see the family, some before the "big tie" and some after the "big tie". Except girls and their parents, the woman's aunt and sister will go. A dozen people, big and small, don't bring gifts, even if they bring a little, the man is afraid to pick them up.
After the wedding date is set, the man should ask the fortune teller to choose the date to go home, including the date and time when the bride goes out and the time to go home. In addition, the date when the woman cuts the red skirt and the man makes the bed should also be chosen at the same time.
One or two days after the bride delivers the vegetables and brings the dowry, the man's family should ask the clan to send the bride price and the fish, meat, poultry, noodles and other things stipulated in the red list to the woman's family, and bring the bride price and furniture back to the man's family when they come back.
Wedding reception is also called picking up the bride or going through the door. On the day before the wedding, the man's family will go to the woman's house to pick up relatives, including a drummer band, firecrackers, a sedan chair, a censer (going to the woman's ancestral temple, temples and social workers to burn incense), a porter, a chicken guide (a male and a female) at one end, wine and Song Ming at the other end, and the woman will bring the clothes worn by the bride and a wooden basket.
When the parents arrive, they eat snacks first, and then they take them to the ancestral temple to burn incense to worship their ancestors. At noon or in the evening, the woman's family will hold a banquet.
The bride usually leaves at midnight or midnight. She is getting brighter and brighter, which symbolizes that she is moving towards the light. If she had gone out at night, she wouldn't have had such unlucky things as carrying a coffin. In front of the wedding procession are lanterns, followed by drummers, sedan chairs in the middle, and people who accept the wedding ceremony in the back.
When the bride arrives at the man's house, she will wait at the gate or the house next door if she hasn't arrived at the prescribed time. The introductions are usually at 7: 00 or 8: 00 in the morning, and some even have to wait until noon. When entering, the bride will kick open the door of the sedan chair, and the man's bridesmaid will lead the bride out of the sedan chair and then "cross the fire" at the gate. Before entering the gate, the bride will cross the fire with fir branches.
After the bride entered the hall with the sound of drums, she began to pay homage. There are incense tables in the hall, with parents and elders in the east, consorts in the west, relatives in the north and younger generations in the south. Before meeting the bride, the husband will hang red on the groom and cover him with a five-foot red cloth.
I read aloud: "I have five feet of red in my hand, and I only beat the groom, so that the groom can have a son and his son can be the champion." When visiting the church, the groom stands on the left and the bride stands on the right. Li Sheng said: One worships heaven and earth, the other worships ancestors, the third worships Gaotang, and the four couples respect each other as guests.
Finally, relatives meet and give the bride a red envelope. After the ceremony, the bridesmaid led the bride into the new house with red roses, and the bride and groom scattered wedding candy from the door to the hall with firecrackers. Then the bride and groom propose a toast. The maid of honor held a plate of chicken and said while drinking: "Round and round, beads on the wall" and "Guanyin gave birth to your son early"; Husband and wife make up and grow old together.
Hold a banquet at noon, eat a wedding banquet, invite guests with firecrackers, once every half hour, and let the banquet ring three times when you start sitting. Then, the gift students signed up for the table, and two people took the table. According to seniority and personal relationship, arrange them to sit at the table first, and then others can sit at the table casually. The male and female guests are seated separately, and the bride and groom want to propose a toast.
A noisy room is noisy in the lobby, a noisy room is in the new house, and a noisy room is in the lobby first and then in the new house. During the noisy period, firecrackers will be set off every few minutes until midnight.
The back door is also called "turnstile". Generally speaking, on the third or fifth day after marriage, the woman sends the bride's sisters and other women to invite the bride and groom as guests, and the matchmaker and the bride and groom's sisters also go, totaling 7- 14. After lunch, they will come back that day.
Send the full moon one month after the wedding, the bride's family will come to send the full moon and send chickens, vegetables, seeds, seeds and beans at the same time. It means that the grain is abundant and the fortune is prosperous.
Eight characters: when both men and women come of age, they are introduced by the matchmaker. If they suit each other, they can get married. The bride's daughter's birthday was posted in red next to the introducer and sent to the man. When the man receives it, he puts it in front of the kitchen god. Within seven days, if everything goes well, even a bowl is not broken, or a chicken dies at home, both men and women will count birthdays. If you can't make a mistake, it's called "eight-character matching", and then you can negotiate marriage. If you disagree, go back to the woman's house.
Comparison of shoes: the man will cut out the pattern of the prospective groom's shoes with red paper, that is, the size of the shoes, and send them to the woman's home together with gifts. The bride accepts half of the gift money (the remaining half is returned), leaving samples of men's shoes, and the bride-to-be will make shoes for the groom-to-be according to the samples.
Send New Year's Day: For example, before the Dragon Boat Festival, men send zongzi, three animals and other gifts to the Dragon Boat Festival. For example, after the Dragon Boat Festival, send Mid-Autumn Festival etiquette, such as moon cakes, three animals and so on. Give new year gifts. When a woman's family receives a New Year's gift, she only receives half and gives back half. Gifts will be distributed to relatives and friends to show that the daughter has a husband's family. In return for the man's gift, the bride-to-be made two pairs of cloth shoes, two tribute papers, two inks and two brushes, which means encouraging the groom to write and read.
The so-called "going to the brain" means that when the bride-to-be reaches the age of 20 and has her hair tied, the man will pack gift cards and accessories, such as hairpins, necklaces, rings and bracelets. Put it in a box, attach the wedding date to the introducer, and let them take the sacrificial wine to the woman's house. The woman replied after receiving the ornaments of the gift card, and both parties made preparations for the wedding day.
On the eve of the wedding, the man specially arranged a banquet called "Waiting for Lang" for the prospective groom, and the first table was the prospective groom. The attendants refused to choose a young, noble, full of children and grandchildren and well-off life. On the new year's day, the band leads the dance, the sedan chair is held high, and the introducer accompanies you to the bride's house to meet. After the bride bathes, she puts on her crown and dress and says goodbye to the hall. According to the set time, the woman or her brother carries the sedan chair and locks it when crying. Drums and music are ringing, stopping at the gate of the man's ancestral temple, waiting for the bride to visit the bride. Most of the people who welcome the bride out of the sedan chair and into the hall are the father or elder relatives of the groom. In its procedure, firstly, the folding fan is used to fan the car door up, down, left and right three times, and five kinds of grains, beans, tea, sesame seeds and melon seeds are sprinkled to ward off evil spirits. Then unlock the car, cover the bride's head with a rice screen and take it off in the audience. This is called avoiding evil spirits. Then drag the bride to the auditorium, salute, bow down to heaven and earth, ancestors, husband and wife to pay homage, and spin wine. After the ceremony, he was sent to his new house. At this time, there is a chef eating, called "home inspiration", and singing while sending, which are auspicious words. The bride and groom didn't attend the wedding reception at that time, only the groom accompanied his parents to propose a toast to the guests.
Custom of snatching relatives: snatching relatives comes from people who are not rich, but they are not really poor and have no food. They still have real estate and land, but they can't afford the bride price of face or the running water banquet on big occasions. They had to get married, so they robbed relatives.
Grab should also have an object, pay attention to the right match, and it must be both men and women, who have already known each other, "Lang has a heart" and "Sister has a heart". It's just that the woman's parents are proud and never admit that her daughter is unwanted, but they also feel that it's not easy to climb into a rich family. The girl is too old to marry. In this delicate situation, the man used his brain and planned to rob.
Rob must be in the twelfth lunar month, otherwise it is not a hero. This is an unwritten agreement, so girls can't go out in the twelfth lunar month every year, depending on the man's scheming. If the man can get the acquiescence of the woman first, or if the brothers and sisters of the woman's family are insiders, it will be easy and much easier. If the woman's parents and family disagree and only "hide" the girl's heart, it will take a lot of effort. The man must first find out everything about the woman's family and then estimate his own strength. Before preparing for the robbery, the man asked his relatives and friends for help, arranged in many ways, and tried to distract or divert the attention of the man in the woman's family. For example, the woman's parents and brothers like playing cards, playing chess and drinking, so they are invited to play cards and drink first. When the woman's husband is caught and stabilized, the groom-to-be will act quickly, enter the woman's house, wrap the girl in the boudoir with sheets, and then slip away on his back. When the girl is guarded, bring more helpers, forcibly arrest people, and break through and escape.
Marriage robbery, no matter what the situation, men and women can't use weapons, they can only hit each other with their hands and feet, but they can't hurt people. As long as the girl is snatched out of the door, even if she succeeds more than half, the woman's family will only admit it and rarely catch up.
Making trouble in the bridal chamber: the custom of making trouble in the bridal chamber is everywhere, but the methods of making trouble are different. In Nanchang, Jiangxi, there is a new house, "big or small for three days", that is, people of all ages can play tricks at will within three days of the wedding. The bride and groom returned to their rooms after worshipping heaven and earth, changed their clothes and met Weng Gu's relatives and friends. After that, the relatives and friends who were originally stiff began to be stiff.
In order to make the bride laugh, they made many strange moves, such as an old woman disguised as a woman to recite Buddha, or let the bride and groom together in the hall, and everyone came to visit the city god and his grandmother, which made the bride laugh. If the bride still doesn't laugh, it will be difficult for the bride in another way. For example, hang a spherical flower in the new house for the groom to pick. If the bride is fat and the groom can't hold it, then the groom should apologize to his relatives and friends, but the relatives and friends who have sex may disagree and insist that the groom do it. Therefore, the bride should be thick-skinned, take it off, everyone will make fun of it for a while, and then it will be scattered.
Beating the bride: The bride goes to the man's house in a sedan chair, and wears a cotton-padded jacket in winter and summer. Whenever the weather is hot in summer, the heat is pressing, and the rural traffic is inconvenient, the journey is quite long. The bride in the sedan chair endured the sultry heat as if she were tortured. People wearing cotton-padded jackets have their reasons. After the bride got off the sedan chair and paid homage to her ancestors' world, she didn't have to work with her own feet. It was her great uncle who had the ambition to do it. Friends, relatives and neighbors, old and young, can hit the bride on the back with wooden sticks at will, so the bride wears a cotton-padded jacket as a precaution to resist the blow. It is particularly strange that the cotton-padded jacket worn by the bride needs to be covered with a tattered and dirty coat, which is temporarily borrowed from drums and songs, and the degree of pollution is unbearable.