I have been teaching for many years, and I always meet children who like to steal. In the middle class, incidents of children losing things have occurred one after another. We tried our best to find the lost things and the perpetrators, and took some measures for the children, which achieved certain results. I hope my humble opinion can be used for your reference.

Case data:

Record 1: On Monday morning, he said to me with a very beautiful wand, "Teacher Jiang, my mother bought it for me last night. Good-looking? " I replied, "It's beautiful!" After that, she smiled and went to play with her partner. After lunch, the children choose their favorite projects and play quietly. There was a sudden burst of crying. I found Xiao Lu running to me in tears and said, "Teacher, my wand is missing, and my mother will criticize it." I asked all the children if they didn't see it, but they didn't find the toy in the end.

Record 2: When I left the garden in the afternoon, I asked my children to pack up their things and wait for my parents. "Teacher, my toy is gone." Lu Xiao said to me anxiously with tears. I quickly called the children and asked: Have any of you seen her toys? Repeatedly asked several times, the child said that he did not see it. In the end, they couldn't find Lu Xiao's toys by carrot and stick, and the matter went away.

Record 3: A few days later, Xiao Jing's grandmother casually asked me if she gave her granddaughter a toy and a scarf. Through talking with Xiao Jing's grandmother, I learned that the toys and scarves that Xiao Jing brought home were all children of our class.

Case study:

Name: Xiaojing Gender: Female Class: Middle Class Age: Five-year-old Child Situation: Xiaojing is beautiful and quiet, with strong abilities in all aspects. Her mirror is rich, and her parents work in government agencies, but her mother works in Pingyang, basically not in Wenzhou, and her father is very busy at work. Usually, grandma educates her. Grandma loves to spoil children and always buys toys without thinking.

For young children, when he sees what he likes, there will naturally be a sense of need in his heart, which will prompt him to make a "take" behavior. Is this behavior "stealing"? Judging from the development of children's ownership concept, it will mature at about five or six years old; Stealing before this can only be regarded as the result of uncontrollable desire, not the real problem behavior. So what is the reason for children to steal?

1, the concept of real right is not clear

Young children can't tell what is yours and what is mine for the time being. In his mind, "everything I like is mine". When the child is still talking, as long as the child has a finger, the family can't wait to take whatever they want, and as long as the child can get it, he can take it away.

2. Parents are too doting.

Many parents always unconditionally meet their children's various requirements, whether reasonable or unreasonable, resulting in no right or wrong standard in their children's minds, and they will take whatever they want without scruple. Such parents often allow their children to bring home public goods, such as toys in kindergartens and flowers and plants in parks. Even think that this is a kind of "promising" performance. Some parents think this is a trivial matter, but in the long run, children will develop the bad habit of taking other people's things casually and gradually develop into conscious stealing.

3. Children lack care

Other children take things privately not because they really need or like them, but because they want to get the attention of others, especially their parents. This kind of children are more common in families where parents have no time to take care of their life and emotional needs. Children will have a certain sense of loss in their hearts, thinking that their parents do not attach importance to and care about themselves, so they will deliberately take their friends' things to attract their parents' attention.

4. The bad influence of family.

I found that many children's stealing behaviors are related to improper parents' education and bad family influence. Sometimes, although the problem lies with children, the root cause lies with parents. For example, parents love petty, petty outside, and complacent at home. Children see in their eyes, remember in their hearts, and follow silently. With more and more petty, children often steal. When parents find their children stealing, some parents tolerate it, and some parents stick to each other. As a result, children often go to extremes and skate further. It should be said that parents are responsible for children stealing.

In this case, the theft of children may be caused by grandma's doting and mom and dad's indifference, so I take the following effective measures for children.

Case measures:

First, strengthen close communication with parents.

When children behave like this, I get in touch with their mothers in time. I visited my home, truthfully reflected the child's specific situation to my parents, learned about the child's family situation and family education methods, and found out the crux of the problem in view of his growing environment. In order to deal with this problem, first of all, I let Xiao Jing's mother know that the child may have started to take other people's things because of negligence or desire, but the child's ability to distinguish right from wrong is very poor, and it is difficult for him to realize the mistake of this behavior. Over time, it will form bad behaviors that are difficult to correct. Therefore, as parents, we must first realize that we can't take an indifferent attitude towards children's behavior, thinking that children are young, there will be no bad motives, and it doesn't matter. Even if you don't care, you can't make a fuss about children's behavior, call them thieves, or even punish them by hitting people. This practice can not only produce positive educational effect, but also damage children's self-esteem.

We should insist on positive education. I gave some advice to the mother of the child:

1. By telling stories and playing games, let children experience the anxiety of the little hero after losing things, and feel the troubles and pains caused by stealing things privately, so as to improve their ability to distinguish right from wrong and master correct behavior. For example, tell children the story of "looking for money without knowing it" to help them distinguish what is right and what is wrong. Adhere to strict requirements and protect children's self-esteem. In any case, it is wrong to educate children to return what they have taken to their original owners.

2. Protect children's self-esteem. If you don't let the child admit his mistake in public, don't put him in a humiliating position, try to let him get a positive feeling in correcting his mistake, guide him to take the initiative to return it to the original owner, and then affirm his performance of taking the initiative to admit his mistake.

We should respect children. Prepare your daily necessities for your child, such as tableware, skin care products, slippers, etc. And don't mix with others to help her establish the concept of "mine". If possible, give the child a small world of her own, let her treasure her belongings in the room, and ask her permission if she wants to take her belongings. Help her to establish the concept that everyone has their own space and can't rummage around without others' consent. Only by respecting the child's ownership can he learn to respect the ownership of others. In this way, shoplifting will not happen.

Usually, you can also take your children to the department store or grocery store to pay the bill. Give your children a chance to experience the examples of "barter" and "things that are not bought with money can't be taken home".

5. Set an example for parents. Parents should be strict with themselves, not greedy and cheap, not taking other people's things casually, and set a good example for their children. When children are found taking other people's things home, they should be convinced by reason and affection, and return the children to their owners in time, so that children can learn how to be an honest person from their parents' words and deeds.

Finally, remind Xiao Jing's mother to be patient. Children may make progress after receiving education. When the child has repeated, he must not be impatient. He should criticize and persuade patiently. When children steal other people's toys, they can say to her, "I'm really disappointed that you didn't tell me about the toys!" " "Tell me when you want a toy, and we'll discuss it!" If she steals again, she will say, "son, you took someone else's toy again." I told you not to eat. I am really disappointed! " Parents' attitudes and positions make children get appropriate and deserved punishment. This kind of education will make children feel guilty and encourage them to consciously correct this bad behavior.

Second, strengthen and improve our education and teaching methods.

As teachers, we can adopt the following educational methods:

1, after-dinner activities, choose VCD spy films about stealing or books about stealing to show children, arouse feelings through content, infiltrate morality through positive and negative typical education, touch the heart with simple and vivid stories, entertain children through performing stories, inspire children with laughter, let them distinguish right from wrong, distinguish good from bad, and learn from them.

2. The article can be personified and resonate with children. Tell him: "The toy's home is here. If he takes it to other places, he will be unhappy, miss his parents and be very sad. Think about what it would be like to take you to a place where you can't see your parents and leave home. How unhappy are you? If you like this toy, be its good friend, take it home and let it never leave its parents. If you want to play, go to his house and play with him. "

3. Teachers should first sincerely respect, care for and cherish these young children, especially observe words and deeds, grasp students' mentality in time, educate them through psychological counseling, talk with them regularly, understand the transformation process in time, and give necessary guidance and encouragement.

4. Use collective care to help children rebuild their confidence. Teach other children to treat them correctly and help them enthusiastically. Let children observe the teacher's love and kindness, and feel the warmth of the group, so as to eliminate opposing emotions, enhance trust, be willing to be close to the teacher and accept guidance, and be willing to integrate into the group and learn from it. Let them relieve their worries and solve the problem as soon as possible.

5, can't know the law and break the law, and conduct a search with great fanfare. It can't calm the situation and encourage the spread of children's bad behavior.

Case effect:

After a semester of cooperation, Xiao Jing has really changed a lot. Although she will repeat it from time to time, through our reminder, she will always return it to its original owner. So in the end I always talk to her and encourage her. Through our persistent positive education, Xiao Jing will never steal from others at the end of the term.

Case reflection:

Childhood is the key period to cultivate children's good behavior habits. Good behavior habits are easy to mold, and bad behavior habits are easy to correct. Behavior becomes habit, habit becomes character, and character determines the future. American psychologist william james added: "Sow an action and reap a habit; Sow a habit and reap a character; Sow a character and reap a destiny. "From this philosophical poem, we deeply realize that habits determine a person's life and habits cast the future. Good habits are very important for children's physical and mental health, knowledge acquisition, ability training, moral cultivation and personality formation. Therefore, as a teacher, we should help children correct bad habits in time, and parents should also reflect on whether the family education method is correct. In addition, elders should also pay attention to their usual words and deeds, and don't let their unprincipled love hurt their children.