My cousin was born in 1996 and is now a two-year-old baby. I've seen her take care of the children, and she really breaks out in a cold sweat every time. She took the baby out of the house, just like walking the dog. She doesn't care about running behind, but shouts "this way!" to the child. "Left!"

Once, the child grabbed her hair and made her cry. When she was angry, she grabbed the child's hair and made him cry. Her mother said she didn't look like her mother and quarreled with her children. The child also said that his mother didn't know how to let him go. As a result, his cousin made a surprising statement: "I am also a mother for the first time. Why should I let you go? "

We parents born in the sixties and seventies, although strict with the upbringing of children, directly criticized or slapped twice. After 80' s, parents didn't beat their children much, but they still "growled". In contrast, no one is more "bold" than the post-90 s treasure mother who directly "started to tear with the baby".

After 90, parents brought their baby, and the painting style changed suddenly.

Compared with other parents, the sudden change of painting style between parents and children after 1990s makes people wonder: What do they get along with their children every day?

It is common practice to "love and kill each other" with children.

Just like my cousin takes care of the baby, she usually loves the child very much. Children like reading, so she often buys them expensive picture books. The child wants to eat ice cream, so she bought three flavors for the child to choose from. However, if the child annoys her, just like grabbing her hair, she will grab it back directly. Therefore, it is very common for parents to take care of their children and "love and kill each other" with their children after 90. Their relationship is more like friends with no generation gap. On the contrary, sometimes children are more mature than their parents and worry about their parents all day.

(2) the concept of parenting is open, and the baby is super Buddha.

The post-90s generation is open-minded, and so is the parenting experience. They are all Buddhists. They will give their children a lot of freedom, take care of them every day, let them have fun and learn to learn, and they will not force them to be the first in everything, just casually. Even, some post-90s parents can accept that their children's dream when they grow up is to become online celebrities and street vendors. Besides, they sometimes go crazy with their children.

3 Take care of the baby and career. Many treasure moms are "strong women"

There is a post-90s baby mother in Celebrity on the Internet who gave birth to four babies in seven years, but she didn't affect her career at all because she gave birth to a baby. It is said that she started her own company, and after giving birth, she was busy with her career while insisting on breastfeeding. She is really a "strong woman" who takes care of her baby and career. In fact, many post-90 s treasure mothers are like this, and they will not give up their jobs and careers because of taking care of their babies. It is very hard.

What are the benefits of parents bringing their babies like this after 90?

(1) "En, enmity", parents and children avoid one-night hatred.

Just as Ma Bao, born in 1990s, didn't know how to let his children go, and the children provoked Ma Bao, and Ma Bao directly "fought back" like a small partner, so the way of "tit for tat" was also quite good. At least, if parents and children have problems, they will solve them immediately, and there will be no overnight grievances.

(2) It is easy to be integrated with children and the parent-child relationship is more harmonious.

After 90, parents took their baby "Buddha" with them, instead of forcing their children, they played wildly with them, so that the parent-child relationship would be more harmonious. For example, nowadays many children call themselves "Lao Zhang" and "Beauty" instead of their parents, which is very enviable.

Although the parents of the post-90 s are "heroes", there are several points worth learning:

Many traditional parents may think that it is a bit "out of place" for parents to take care of their babies like this after 90, and they have no parents' appearance. But in fact, there are many places worth learning for parents born in 1990s.

(1) Communicate on an equal footing and understand empathy.

Unlike traditional parents, many post-90s parents regard their children as their private property, but know how to communicate with their children on an equal footing and learn to put themselves in other's shoes. For example, my cousin was scratched by a child's hair, which was very painful. She answered blows with blows and grabbed the child's hair so that the child wouldn't hurt others easily in the future.

Other post-90s parents will think from their children's perspective, understand their children with empathy and communicate with them on an equal footing. In this way, the child will not be wronged, and there will be no worries in his heart.

Dare to challenge new things and be willing to play with children.

People who like to watch short videos will find that many post-90s parents on the Internet will take their children to shoot videos together, such as skateboarding, telling jokes, dancing groups and so on. This shows that they dare to challenge new things, are willing to play with their children and can win their love.

3 know how to respect children and are more inclined to meet their spiritual needs.

Today's children are basically not short of material needs, but lack spiritual needs. Like my niece, who is only over 3 years old, clamors for "boredom" every day and finds life boring. Therefore, parents born after 1990s will respect their children more, understand and meet their spiritual needs. This is also worth learning, especially taking the initiative to spend more time with children, rather than just buying them this and that.

Topic discussion: Parents, do you like the "bold" way to show your children to your parents after 90?