In the stage of talking about marriage, after the marriage documents such as winning the lottery and asking the name were successfully passed, it was Najib. Naji is a ceremony to inform the woman of divination and marriage after asking her name. After the man's family got a good omen, the ceremony returned to the woman's family and decided to get engaged. This is the main ceremony in the engagement stage. Commonly known as delivery? 、? Overdetermined? 、? Fixed employment? Wait a minute. When engaged, in ancient times, geese were used to indicate that marriage was settled. Later, with the prosperous development of buying and selling marriage, it gradually evolved into a deposit and a gift with a fixed employment nature, usually rings, jewelry, coins, colored silk, gift cakes, gift candles and so on. During the Ming and Qing Dynasties, tea ceremony was also popular among the Han nationality and some ethnic minorities in southwest China. There is no tea ceremony in the bride price of Lahu nationality in Yunnan. Lahu people often say: you can't get married without tea. ? The deposit for reservation must be even, with red paper on the outside. Red envelopes? 、? Hey, money? Or? Deposit? . Gifts should also be in pairs, and singular is forbidden. Gift lists and invitations should be written in red paper (avoid white paper), and the words on them should be even, not singular. Even some exquisite families have to make up the names of gifts in pairs. Like what? A pig? For writing? The whole pig is a head? ; ? A dish? For writing? Happy dishes on a plate? Wait a minute. This is all about meaning? Double pair, eternal wealth? Symbolizes the happy marriage of the newlyweds. If there is a singular number, doesn't it symbolize loneliness? Big day, let people give birth? Widowed? Lenovo is of course very depressed, not to mention people are more afraid that the brand will really be tested! So avoid the singular when you are engaged.

You're afraid to say when you're appointed? Heavy? Word sum? Again? Words. For example, the man gives a dowry, and the woman presents cakes and candles on the shrine to worship the ancestors of the gods. When burning incense at this time, no matter whether the incense inserted into the incense burner is crooked or not, it is forbidden to pull it out and insert it again; For example, when the man comes to an engaged person to go back, the woman's family will go out to say hello. Say nothing? Sit down again? . Because? Re-insert incense? Made a mistake? Heavy? Taboo words? Sit down again? Made a mistake? Again? Taboo words. People think this will lead to? Bigamy? 、? Remarriage? , and therefore must be taboo.

The above is taboo, taboo? Heavy? Taboo? Again? All taboo customs are expressions of concern about ruining a good marriage. There are also some taboos in dating, which are due to etiquette considerations. For example, there is a folk custom in Taiwan Province Province called Naji, and it is forbidden to accept all bride price. When the man sends pork, the woman should return the part with bones to the man. There is a local proverb: Eat meat instead of bones? If the woman ignores this taboo, the man will be very angry.

In Xiangtan, Hunan Province, after the engagement, both men and women will change their names and call each other relatives and friends. Every three festivals (Duanyang, Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival) and two birthdays (in-laws' birthdays), the man always brings gifts to his in-laws' house. Tijie? . When it comes to festivals, mention carp, but avoid grass carp. If grass carp is mentioned, it is tantamount to scolding parents-in-law for eating grass, and the woman will be very angry. I'm afraid there are many taboos like this everywhere. Which side can this custom test in etiquette? Understand books and manners? Which way? Do not understand ethics? . Serious will also affect the success or failure of marriage, so these taboos must also be understood and paid attention to. However, some taboos seem to belong to the etiquette category, but in fact they do have deep roots in folk beliefs.

For example, there is a folk custom of prohibiting the daughter-in-law who has not gone through the door from eating gift cakes. It seems that the future new wife will be recognized as robbing the wedding cake. Are you lazy? Or? Bad behavior? Wait, actually, the point of that is to worry that the future new wife will put herself? Hi? If you eat it, it will bring good luck and unpredictable disaster. Only this floor is the reason why men and women are more afraid. However, this kind of deep anxiety and worry is not easy to tell the newly married wife who has not gone through the door, because it is taboo to say it. So I have to use it? Will there be monthly letters (menstruation) on the wedding day? To intimidate and stop her from eating the wedding cake. Obviously, a taboo custom often involves many levels of consciousness. Is the odd-even number problem and taboo we talked about earlier? Heavy? 、? Again? It's not just a superficial courtesy ban. Therefore, folklore has an important task, which is to uncover the root secrets of various folk beliefs hidden under the superficial customs and etiquette, so that people can recognize the true colors of deep folk culture.

Engagement custom taboo: recruitment taboo

what's up Six gifts? One, also known as? Nami? 、? Big hire? 、? A gift? Wait a minute. After Najib, both men and women got married, and the man was officially called a bride price? A gift? Sending it to the woman's house is a inviting gift. In the old society, this ceremony was very grand, and the man often took this opportunity to honor the family wealth and grand wedding, and usually prepared a gift list. Gifts are packed in boxes, picked or carried, walked around the streets, set off firecrackers and played drums, and sent to the woman's home under the escort of matchmakers and pawnbrokers. All items in the dowry should have auspicious names, and the numbers should be taboo.

Folk taboo to give the woman shoes as a dowry, for fear that the woman will slip away with them. In Shandong province, the use of meat stuffing is prohibited in signed gift boxes. It is said that with meat stuffing, the new wife will eat meat when she goes through the door (that is, slowly, not quickly). After the bride price is sent to the bride's family, it is forbidden for the bride's family to accept all the bride price. Generally speaking, some food should be returned to the man's house. In the customs of all parts of the Central Plains, when a woman receives a dowry, she gives a hen instead of a rooster. Hens should be alive and avoid white ones. After returning, the dowry was also sent. In the old days, it was forbidden to make quilts for dowry in September in the Central Plains, and it was preferred to make them in October. As the saying goes:? Wait for October, avoid September. ? Because? /kloc-in October, there were ten women on the set (I hope to have ten children in a row) and nine actresses in September (I'm afraid to have nine women in a row)? . And avoid using white thread when covering the quilt, and prefer to use red thread. Sewing people should avoid widows or people with incomplete children, and must invite two children? All alive? Sewing for good luck. In the bride's family, scissors, mirrors and teapots are also taboo, otherwise? Get in the way of uncle That is, the brother or younger brother of the bride's family will die because of this. There can be no bucket for children in the dowry of Hangzhou, Zhejiang, otherwise it will affect the continuation of children. The children's bucket is a toilet. There are two kinds of toilets in Zhejiang and Hangzhou. One is for defecation; One is for production. There are red eggs and happy fruits in the new toilet, which means wishing future generations prosperity.

Taboo of engagement custom: taboo of divination marriage

Some regions and ethnic groups don't press? Six gifts? Discuss the procedure of marriage and engagement. They practice the custom of divining marriage, linking the success or failure of marriage with a certain image, and forming many unique taboos of engagement custom.

For example, Buyi people are forbidden to thunder on the day of engagement. If it thunders on the day of engagement, both parties think it is a bad omen and will immediately dissolve the engagement automatically without complaint. Some people call this custom? Thunder and mandarin duck scattered? . Probably Buyi people think that thunder is a warning of God's dissatisfaction with this engagement, so they have to obey God's will and get divorced. The marriage of Hani people (Biyou people in Mojiang) should be concluded not only with the consent of parents, but also through? On the road? Then we can decide. ? On the road? It's an old man walking in the forest path outside the village. The old people on both sides walked silently and stared at both sides of the path to see if there were any wild animals such as rabbits and wolves. Hani people believe that if they meet rabbits, wolves and other wild animals, which is a symbol of bad luck, the engagement will be dissolved. If you haven't met such a wild animal, you are officially engaged. Now, this custom has improved. Sometimes, although the old people on both sides will encounter wild animals when they set foot on the road, considering the feelings of young people or the strong desire of both sides to get married, they will still turn a blind eye to wild animals and get engaged as usual. Therefore, setting foot on the road is now just a necessary engagement ceremony. Jingpo people used to be responsible for approving marriages? Demon? Therefore, the engagement of the old Jingpo people must be made by? Demon? Only with the consent of.

And then what? Demon? The recognition of marriage between men and women is based on a game of divination. Just put a bowl of water on the ground and then put two eggs in it. If the eggs can make do together, then a young couple are allowed to get married; If the eggs can't get together, then the engagement is not established. In Dehong area, the success or failure of Lisu marriage depends on being married. Rob? Whether we can find the girl. In the past, young men and women never told their parents their inner secrets after committing to life. When the secret wedding day came, the young man led the girl to hide quietly in the deep mountains and forests. The girl's parents didn't know what kind of family the girl had found, so they called relatives and friends to look for the girl's whereabouts together. According to the custom, if a girl is found within three days, the man is considered a stupid and incompetent guy, and the marriage is ruined. The man has to compensate the woman for a sum of money. If you can't find a girl within three days, then the marriage of the young couple will be settled and will be recognized by the society. So whether young men and women can get engaged depends on whether they can find it. On the wedding day, the Miao people in northwest Guizhou will hold the final divination ceremony, that is, catching the cow's tail. On that day, the woman asked several young people to take cows to the wedding. When the groom arrived, the bride suddenly cut off the cow's tail with a sharp knife. The groom immediately jumped on the bride to catch the cow's tail. The bride side will help the bride guard and keep the groom away from the bride. If the groom catches the cow's tail before the woman's parents and relatives arrive, the wedding will be held immediately, otherwise the groom will be considered incompetent and the marriage will be ruined. Although this divination taboo of marriage customs is barbaric in form, it actually has certain positive significance in choosing high-quality men to pass on their offspring.