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Love can make us burst into tears in many cases, because we see what happiness is and understand "how lucky it is to meet the right person in this life".

I believe there will be a beautiful love like Bai Yueguang and an enviable fairy tale marriage. I chatted with a reader the other day. She has been married for more than 2 years. Although she is a housewife, she is very happy.

She said something that benefited me a lot: "The best love is to know each other's difficulties and feel sorry for each other. The best marriage is to respect each other's contribution to the family and help him or her. The best state of marriage is that I understand your hardships and you know mine.

I'll call this reader Yang Nan. Let me tell her story. Maybe we can learn some philosophy about marriage from it.

Yang Nan is 42 years old and a full-time housewife. In this era when everyone thinks "stay-at-home housewife" is very dangerous, Yang Nan said, it depends on who you meet in your marriage. Whether a woman wants to pay for her family depends on what kind of man you are going to marry.

Yang Nan said that a woman loves herself very much. In her philosophy of life, a woman must love herself well. As for men, Yang Nan said, it depends on whether this man is good or not and how he treats you, which determines whether you should devote yourself to this family or not.

In real life, some men think that they are arrogant after earning a few dollars. But not Yang Nan's husband. Yang Nan's husband earns a lot and has his own company. He belongs to the kind of person who earns millions a year. But what kind of man is he? Even if the annual salary is millions, he wants to go home as soon as he finishes his work, and he is a man who does his best to do housework and take care of his baby.

when a man knows how hard it is to feel sorry for his wife and has such a sense of family responsibility, how can he cheat?

Because of this, Yang Nan never worried that her husband would cheat when she saw her husband's devotion to this family and how he treated her.

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A woman can be a housewife, but she should be a very interesting person

Yang Nan used to have a job, and she was busy with her job after she got married. However, her health was not very good. Later, her husband earned a lot. It was enough for a family to earn money with her husband, so Yang Nan resigned and went home with peace of mind. But after returning home, Yang Nan didn't make herself a boring housewife. On the contrary, she made herself a very interesting and knowledgeable woman.

Although she is a housewife, Yang Nan is not idle. She always makes herself study hard and doesn't waste all her time chasing plays and gossiping.

what new recipes will Yang Nan study? She knows how to live and cook. Since she is a housewife, she keeps her house bright and tidy. Yang Nan will also read more in his leisure time, see what new movies are available, and help her husband find some interesting points in life. Yang Nan has a wide social circle and is very kind and gentle. She has a good relationship with her neighbors. Yang Nan will also let himself learn how to take care of the baby with high quality and how to make the child grow better.

at the same time, Yang Nan will involve her husband. When Yang Nan is very tired, she also asks her husband to help clean up the dishes. When I was young, it was very tiring to have children and take care of them. Yang Nan would also involve her husband. Her husband is very busy, and Yang Nan's request for her husband is that she can accompany her and her children one day a week.

Yang Nan's husband is a man with good character, gentle temper and great respect for women, so he thinks Yang Nan's request is not too much. On the contrary, in the process of actively participating in family affairs, he learned how difficult it is for women.

Even though he earns a lot of money, his husband still knows how to respect Yang Nan. He never thinks that "a person's value is determined by how much money he earns", but thinks that it is more important than anything to meet someone who lives comfortably together.

How much a woman gives to her family after marriage depends on how your husband treats you and how she tells her family.

Yang Nan said that if her husband is not a caring person, she will prepare more for herself and leave a way out. Yang Nan won't let himself blindly pay for this family. If the man in front of her is not good for her, Yang Nan won't marry him at all; If a man is not good to himself after marriage, Yang Nan will stop his loss in time.

There are many women who will pay a lot for their families after they get married, and think of everything for this family. When they are disappointed, women will also ask, "Why does he still treat me like this after I have given so much to this family?" Why? Because we can't wake up a person who is pretending to sleep, because your marriage partner was wrong from the beginning.

If a man is not nice to you, you still don't think about yourself, and then you ask why? I can only say that you really know too much about self-emotion and sacrifice, and ignore "women should love themselves first"

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Yang Nan can have such a happy marriage, which is also related to her high emotional intelligence. She is very smart and doesn't make herself lifeless, but tries her best to be an interesting woman who loves life. Of course, her concept of mate selection is also very good. She values people more and chooses a good husband who can treat her well.

The best state of marriage is that I understand your hardships and you know mine.

So in marriage, men must be involved. At the same time, how much you pay in your marriage and whether you want to continue your marriage depends on how your marriage partners treat you. Whether a man can be trusted depends on how he treats you. The details of life under the same roof will not lie.

During the Spring Festival, there was a news on the Internet, which said that a couple went back to their parents' home to pay New Year greetings. At noon, on the wine table, a 33-year-old man thought that "the wife didn't bring tea and water in time" and publicly scolded her for being lazy. After returning home, the man continued to scold her. The 33-year-old man graduated from a prestigious school with an annual salary of 4,. He feels that he has reason to criticize his wife, because he earns a lot and his economic income determines his family status.

But what I want to say is that men should not think how much money they earn is amazing. From the moment you start to look down on your wife, you have become low. A good man knows that the family has a division of labor, and it is not easy to understand his wife.

when a man looks down on his wife because he earns a lot, it's a bit forgetful. How can you have a good home if your wife doesn't clean up a good home for you and educate your children?

in marriage, it is not easy to understand the other half. Only in this way can the marriage last.

I hope more couples can "I understand your hardships and you know mine", and go hand in hand to live a good life.

today's topic: in your opinion, what is the best state of marriage? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.

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Author: YIBAO；; Emotional original author, writing about the warm feelings of this world.