More than ten years ago, I first heard the name of Japanese Junichi Watanabe, after reading Paradise Lost written by him. At that time, people in China were not as open-minded as they are now, and they could speak freely about sex as they are now. Remember to secretly watch Paradise Lost. The first feeling after reading: the author puts desire above emotion, and writes desire as a means to vent people's long-term depression, so that the original beautiful combination of spirit and flesh is so desperate, as if the world can't accommodate true love. A few days ago, a friend told me about Junichi Watanabe and his new book The Exile of Love. To tell the truth, I haven't seen his works, and I don't want to see them again. I always feel that in the eyes of that Japanese, desire is actually just an export, an export that is dissatisfied with reality or excessively depressed. It's just that he added a beautiful coat to this desire-emotion, and took a nice name-the combination of spirit and flesh. Philosophically, everything has a process of occurrence, development, decline and extinction. From this perspective, there is no eternal love, and it is reasonable for human beings to love the new and hate the old. Physically, matter is immortal. From this perspective, love can be eternal, and the single-mindedness of feelings should be the code of conduct that human beings must abide by. However, how many marriages in life are the combination of lovers, and how many divorced men and women have never come together under the premise of love. So, I don't understand, can love and desire really be unified? As long as it is a combination of spirit and flesh, can you have a clear conscience? The ancients said that the two most proud things in life are "being the top scholar" and "getting married". How many couples were there in the bridal chamber at that time? A pair of strange men and women started a long marriage on the premise of sex. After that, whether you have feelings or not, you have to have children together. Can such a combination achieve the blending of feelings and desires? I can't prove it. There are many works praising great love in the world, so there should be such a thing as love, because literary works originate from life. But how much can you see in vigorous love? After all, literary works are higher than life. If two people can walk through life hand in hand, it should be the greatest happiness. There is not much emotion and desire here, and there is not much spirit and flesh. More is the endless trivial things in life and the mortal life of daily necessities. There is such a couple, the man snores and thunders every night, and the woman complains endlessly about it. But one day, the man was on a business trip, and the woman couldn't sleep well without snoring at night. Similarly, women are always talking about what men do, and men can't stand it. However, a day without a woman's nagging, men can't adapt. I envy this couple. This is the mortal life of caring for each other. What can you expect on such a day? In this way, the perfect combination of emotion and desire is not as good as a black-and-white photo in the eyes of ordinary people. No, the blending of soul and flesh needs a perfect realm, which mortals can't reach.