A truly outstanding person rarely loses his temper because he knows how to control his emotions, calm down, fight hard, and adjust himself; the less capable a person is, the easier it is to lose his temper because he doesn’t want to To struggle and complain that society is not friendly to him.
Why are less capable people more likely to lose their temper? The reasons are probably as follows. Losing your temper to cover up your "weakness".
If a person has no ability, others will look down upon him. But others can't criticize him because he won't listen to other people's suggestions humbly. When others kindly help him or remind him, he regards it as "ridicule" and feels that he is wronged and needs to resist immediately.
Perhaps, incompetent people are often criticized by others, and their patience has been worn away, and they no longer want to listen to other people's suggestions. For example, a very short person has always been shorter than his peers since he was a child. So many relatives and friends meet him and say, "Son, you need to exercise more, increase your nutrition, or grow taller." Such words are polite and well-intentioned, but if you hear them too often, you will feel annoyed. When he reached the age of ten, he immediately became unhappy and angry when others talked about him "growing taller". Because other people's words hit his weak point.
Perhaps, incompetent people adopt the method of "preempting others first" to make others "have nothing to say". Why he does this is because he doesn't want others to "point fingers", so he uses losing his temper to cover up his inner "fear and uneasiness". People who are incompetent lose their temper to show off that they are "skilled".
If you look at your circle of friends, people who like to show off tend to have a less satisfactory life. If you can’t afford the clothes you like, you can take a photo and show them off so that others think you are rich and buy expensive clothes. If you want to travel but have no money, just download a few pictures on the Internet and buy expensive clothes. He spliced ??himself up and pretended to go to "all over the country"; he had no money for food, but he could show off that he had a big meal. In fact, he was passing by a hotel and others were eating, and he took pictures casually...< /p>
Do you think it’s funny? There may be such a person around you. A person who has no ability loves to show off. If you expose him, he will definitely lose his temper - he is very concerned about face. This kind of logic may seem incredible to you, but many people are willing to argue endlessly with others just to save face.
A classmate who works in a different place posts to WeChat Moments every day, and good scenery often appears. So everyone always likes it non-stop. As a result, one time, someone who knew him very well left a message saying, "Did you dream of going to these places yesterday?" It was originally meant as a joke, but the classmate took it personally and immediately blocked the other person. Why do you do this? Because others accurately pointed out his "reason to show off", which made him unhappy. People who are incompetent always lose their temper, maybe because they have "ideas but no actions."
Some people have progressive ideas. They make perfect plans for themselves and dream that one day they can be realized. However, he "has not taken any action", and his ideal in life has become further and further away. Therefore, he feels resentful and feels that if God doesn't help him, Bole doesn't even have eyesight.
Some people are just trying to satisfy their hunger, overestimating their own strength, which leads to failure in anything they do. He was so ambitious that he failed again and again, and his temper grew a lot. In fact, the more you go beyond the point of displeasure, the more depressed you are in life and the worse your temper becomes.
When a person gets things done and is in a good mood, why do he still lose his temper? When you are successful, it doesn't matter if someone scolds you, because you are "happy" and will not care about other people's words.
Darwin said: A bad temper is one of the more despicable human natures. If a person loses his temper, it is equivalent to taking a step back on the ladder of human progress.
The bigger a person’s temper, the less capable he is, and his life will go backwards. A truly promising person speaks well when he has something to say, works hard at what he has to do, reserves his opinions when he has them, and tolerates his temper. Only when you have a good temper can you "hear the truth from others" and only when you get along with others can you have harmony.
As the saying goes, harmony brings wealth. A good mood means being kind to others and a guarantee of good health. You look ugly when you are angry, turning yourself and others into "opposites", resulting in the inability to "mutually promote". There is always an "unpleasant dark cloud" hanging over your head.
So, how do you control your "bad temper"? First of all, look at other people's words with a normal mind. Don't think that everyone can't understand you and doesn't want to help you. Then when you want to lose your temper, force yourself to calm down for three minutes. When you hold back the "temporary anger", your mood will change, and you will gradually no longer want to lose your temper. The second is to work hard. If you are busy with your career every day, you will have no time to lose your temper. When your career is successful, your temper will become smaller because life is getting better and better.
Finally, let me tell you that only those who are incompetent lose their temper, while those who are capable will strive for success.