When I was a child, parents always judged whether a child was a good boy or not by being obedient and not causing trouble!
My parents are like this. When I was a child, I was told not to be naughty and not to make trouble for them. Don't talk nonsense when there are many people, but learn to be smart. This is the most I have heard since I was a child. I was born in an ordinary working-class family, and my parents are honest people. I seldom speak in front of people other than our family of three, and always smile. Everyone says who you are. You have a good temper. You are so kind. You see, he doesn't talk much. Even at family gatherings, I will listen to others' parity for my family of three, and friends and colleagues will chat after work. In everyone's eyes, you won't lose your temper, and you won't find fault. For everything, it is very "this is already good, I have been satisfied."
I remember when I was a child in primary school, my academic performance was not very high as a whole, I was not very good in my class, and I didn't have any ability at home. The teacher couldn't borrow any light, and he couldn't get any benefits. Learning also held back their class, so he looked down on me. He always tried to find fault with me. No matter what I did, I was wrong. He always asked me to stay and look for my parents for various reasons, and I was looking for them almost every day. The unqualified teacher still belittled my parents in front of my parents, and even worse, he called me. ! God, it's so unethical. In addition, my family's education is still based on beating, and they are angry that they are not good at learning and are beaten by teachers, and they will always be beaten. My memory of primary school is almost only playing. There's nothing to remember. Going out to play with other students during lunch break was accused by the students and stood in front of the podium for criticism. Other students brought a few words to me and met with unfair treatment and were severely criticized and warned. At that time, I was particularly wronged. What's even worse is that elementary school went out to watch movies together. At that time, people rented more cars than schools, and there were always classmates standing, and I was the one standing and never got a seat. What's even more hateful is that the car swayed while driving, causing me to stand unsteadily and accidentally hit my sitting classmate, who even said that I should not always hit her. A look of disgust. After the activity, the teacher went back to the class to summarize the performance of the activity. Everyone summed up that the good performance would get the little red flower. At that time, the basic students got the little red flower. The girl who was hit actually told me that I was always hitting her on purpose because of my poor performance. It was funny for everyone to see it! What's even more funny is that such a retarded teacher actually believed it. I think this is deliberately aimed at me! Is the teacher stupid? Will my character do these things on purpose? So retarded, I don't think you will believe my friends! But the teacher really didn't give me a little red flower. Although this matter is small, I think I will remember it for a lifetime, which really hurts my heart and makes me extremely insecure now. I always feel that I can't do it. If I speak in public, I will be ashamed and others will look down on me. I really don't like to submit to humiliation, and sometimes I hate why my parents who love me so much have such a weak personality.
When I was young, several children at home played together. Once again, the mirror behind grandma's sofa was dirty by other children. Grandma just casually said that you saw how dirty the mirror was. Grandma just casually nagged before my mother heard her, and even opened her mouth in front of everyone to say who you made so dirty. Don't always touch the mirror and stay away from it ... a lot of words. At that time, the special grievance was too small to refute. I can only say that I didn't do it. I didn't even touch it. Although this incident was small, I was deeply impressed by it. Why did so many people in my family say me the first thing? How do you know that I did it? I didn't grow up with my grandmother, and I was ignored in her family. Later, when I grew up, I asked her, but she obviously couldn't remember it, so I just said casually. Mom smiled. Being engaged in the education industry, I now feel that you should not criticize children in front of everyone without distinguishing the facts, which is likely to hurt them unintentionally.
Later, after taking part in the work, I was as good-tempered as ever, and I didn't know anything. I didn't know anything when I met someone who wasn't assigned my own job or the oppression of the leaders at work, but I only got intensified bullying. At first, it is just a job to help, but later it will become a matter of course. If it doesn't help, it will be bitten back. That's what I often suffer. You kindly help others to reduce the job application process, but instead of the problem, you are blamed. But it is really your fault in terms of rules and regulations. When people say you, you are speechless. I ate a dumb loss.
After working for two years, I am also constantly exploring, constantly looking for a way to work hard without destroying the relationship between colleagues. More and more people feel that people can't be too honest if they are good at being bullied. If the current society is too kind, it will be squeezed out. So don't be used by others because of your kindness.
You can be kind, but not weak.