The first time I came across this book was in the last book recommendation of the mental growth camp for college students. Because my direction is painting psychology, I have heard of OH cards but have never experienced them, let alone understand them. . When I opened this book for the first time, I was attracted by the cases in it, especially the cases combined with painting therapy. I couldn't put it down! To be different, I must combine it with other schools so that the function of painting can be fully utilized and the painter can have a deeper experience!

Later I borrowed this little book from the library and couldn’t wait to read it. This book starts with What is an OH card? How does OH card work? What are the classifications of OH cards? And what are the application cases of OH cards in various fields? In several aspects, it shows us the magical OH cards!

Let me first talk about my feelings about the whole book after reading it! Since I was too greedy last month, I have only read half of it. At the beginning of the month, I was debating whether to return it. Fortunately, I returned all the other books and only kept this small book. On the one hand, it is small, so you can read it on the train back to your hometown, and you can take it with you when you go out for study and training; on the other hand, you feel that this book is valuable, small but precise, and very worthwhile!

The author herself is a master of spiritual healing. She uses delicate writing to describe her views on her original family, intimate relationships, parent-child relationships, relationships with her inner children, and money. In terms of understanding of relationships and so on, basically every paragraph can be called a golden sentence! The book also cites many individual cases. There is no superficial formality. They all go deep into the heart. The feeling given to me is that it is rich in emotion and touching people's hearts! At the same time, they also provided me with consultations or provided reference for using oh cards. I don’t have such a set of picture cards at the moment, so I’m really excited to try them out. I can’t wait to use them right away!

The following is the specific content of reading the book in June:

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The OH card is an incredible self-help tool, which comes from "Oh , It’s incredible!” It is the best tool to prove that “all laws are against one’s will.” When the same picture card is interpreted by the same client at different times, the image and meaning are completely different. It is a spiritual mirror that shines into our subconscious mind. It can be used with painting, music, dance, hypnosis, home arrangement and other tools.

The book lists several pictures. Different clients have completely different feelings and thoughts when they see them at different times, which triggers their own inner stories and opens a window for healing.

OH cards are open, there is no right or wrong, and there is no fixed card meaning... It is a very good tool to present the inner truth. It helps to break the inherent thinking pattern, express style, and open up people's compassion and empathy.

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The psychological principles of Oh cards:

1. Iceberg theory - consciousness, preconscious, subconscious; id, ego, superego . Human psychology is like an iceberg floating on the sea. The small part that is exposed above the water is consciousness, that is, the psychological part that can be perceived by everyone at all times. The majority of the part that is hidden under the water is subconscious, which is the basis of consciousness and instinct. It is the inner driving force behind the desire that drives our behavior; the preconscious is between the subconscious and the conscious, storing memories that we will not be aware of at a certain moment, but can be easily summoned to consciousness. The id is the most primitive instinct of human beings and is unconscious. The self is the conscious part of the personality, the rational, conscious, and realistic self; the superego is the moralized self that is differentiated from the self. Freud believed that for a person with a sound mind, these three major systems are a harmonious and unified whole; on the contrary, if the three major systems of personality are difficult to coordinate and conflict with each other, the person will often be in an abnormal state, reduce activity efficiency, and even endanger the health of the person. human survival and development.

2. ABC Theory of Emotions - Inciting event a is only an indirect cause of outcome c, while the direct cause of inciting c is the belief b resulting from the individual's recognition and evaluation of inciting event a. For the same event a, because different people have different beliefs and interpretations b, they will also get different results c1c2. When people persist in certain irrational beliefs and remain in a negative emotional state for a long time, it eventually leads to emotional disorders.

3. Empathy and projection. Empathy is an unconscious experience of the current situation based on an early established pattern. Empathy is an emotion. Projection is a psychological process of attributing unacceptable thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that one has to others. Projection is a kind of cognition. Empathy and projection are independent of each other but influence each other, and often go hand in hand.

In fact, the principles of painting psychology and oh cards are exactly the same.

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Steps to use oh cards:

Preparation (environment, emotion)

Shuffle (break up, shuffle) , arc, spread out),

Draw cards, (left hand, subconscious)

Select cards, (right hand, consciousness)

Arrange, (any angle All are available, and you have the right not to open or interpret it)

Arrangement, (the arrangement can be fixed, and can be arranged at will according to the user)

Interpretation (What did you see? What did you think of? ? How do you feel? )

oh card reading technology: 1. Association method - associate certain characters and scenes, describe what happened in the scene, and be aware of emotions in the process Change, feeling and realization.

2. Construction method - combined with painting, place the picture card at the appropriate position on the paper, and then extend a painting based on the picture card to tell a story.

3. Completion method - suitable for group games, free play according to the picture card, quickly add a sentence, a question, a story, etc.

4. Change of thought method - thinking For questions you want to explore, draw word cards (or write), draw picture cards, and associate and feel emotions. Ask yourself "Really? Are you 100% sure this is true? How do you react when you think this way? What benefits does it bring to you? How do you feel when you think otherwise? What do you do? Do? What kind of person are you? ”

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Life is always a constant challenge. If you fail to pass this level, you will still continue to pass it if you change the environment. Reappearance, constant ng, this is also true for the practice of spiritual analysis. A better environment can only provide better work. Living conditions cannot make one's inner development better. Life is from the inside out. Show that all things are created by the mind, happen now, accept it now, it is beautiful.

Mr. Feng Zikai divided human life into three levels, material life, spiritual life and soul life.

The author of this book divides work into three floors: work ~ career ~ ambition. On the first level, people are busy working to support their families. On the second level, you invest time, energy and money to create your inner ideals and goals, and enjoy the joy of creation. However, if you seek externally, you will be constantly swallowed by material desires, and you will be like a hamster spinning rapidly on a wheel. On the third level, the painful environment forces them to go deeper inward, to get closer to and become aware of their true selves, to continuously improve their consciousness, enrich their experience, and increase their wisdom. They realize that the inner mission of the journey of life is awakening and unity. , understand the ultimate goal and vision of this life, so you can truly experience inner satisfaction. The third level is what we call practice, and work is one of the best places to practice.

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Oh Card Life Journey

1. Me

2. Resources and noble people that can be integrated

3. Opportunities or obstacles encountered during the journey

4. Solutions and approaches

5. The goal and meaning of life

Exploration, Awareness and perception, dialogue with the subconscious

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Many people have caused harm to themselves due to some unfortunate experiences in their childhood, or the way their parents dealt with them at that time, so they turn their unfortunate childhood into Hidden deep in the subconscious, there is confrontation, resistance, and even hatred towards the parents.

Go and reconcile with your parents! No matter what your parents did for you at that time, they made the best choice and arrangement under the circumstances.

Go see the parents who caused your misfortune. They do not want to be the ones who hurt you and ruin your childhood. It's just that they haven't learned to love, and they don't know how to express it.

Even when they made you miserable like that, their inner motivation actually came from love and protection.

Everyone comes to the world only through the channels of their parents, and they themselves carry the energy of their parents. Parents are the source of life. If you hate your parents, you will not be able to connect with the source of your life, you will not be able to find your roots, you will not be able to be happy and at peace.

Maybe your parents are not as perfect and caring as others, but they gave you life, which is the greatest gift in this life. They are the most appropriate parents.

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Healing the relationship with mother is healing the relationship with everyone

Healing the relationship with dad is healing the relationship with money and career Relationship

When you feel psychologically uncomfortable, take out the oh card and talk to yourself!

Reflection: The two books I read this month are both classics. Maybe it’s because I’m greedy for more and my time is limited, so I haven’t finished both books. I still have to learn a lesson. If I spend 15 hours a day If it takes minutes, it’s better to read only one book, which will be more complete!

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There are three ways animals respond to danger: fight, escape, and freeze (numb). Sometimes numbness is the most appropriate way to protect ourselves. It can prevent us from feeling pain and, of course, happiness. Just remember to defrost.

When you have grown up, when you can look at the past with different eyes, when you have a heart that can empathize and tolerate others. Just like life is at different stages, the bitterness that was considered unbearable at the time has long since turned into long-lasting sweetness. As long as you are willing to change your heart, as long as you no longer toss and turn in the game of victim and savior.

Planetary Energy Singing Bowl Healing

Empty Chair Therapy

oh Card Mind Picture Card

Family System Arrangement

oh cards explore and solve problems

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Nine pitfalls in intimate relationships.

The first one is to find the right person from the beginning.

In fact, it’s the same for anyone. In the end, it’s ourselves we will face.

Second. Replace object.

Even if you change your marriage partner, the problem still exists. It's just that his problem has been postponed. It's just that, on the surface, we seem to have a problem, but in fact, as time goes by, the real problem will appear. There is no way around it.

Third. I have to save this marriage.

In fact, it doesn’t matter whether you can recover or not. What is important is to treat yourself well when encountering anything. Your marriage will naturally take its course.

The fourth one is all his fault. Each of us must be responsible for ourselves and not blame others blindly. We have to deal with our emotions

The fifth marriage is like a pool of stagnant water, and the only way to get stimulation is to find an affair.

In fact, what we need is not an affair, but courage. You need the courage to break through your comfort zone and enter new areas, so that you will encounter new worlds.

The sixth. true love. When I find the perfect partner, true love will truly come. There is no perfect partner in the world. Only when we make up for our own shortcomings can we achieve perfection in marriage.

Seventh, I want a harmonious family atmosphere. I don’t want to quarrel. Once there is a quarrel, I will run away.

In fact, quarrels are normal, and we must know how to deal with emotions.

The eighth. I couldn't tell him the truth, it would be hurtful.

In fact, the other party will never know if you hold back your words. Sometimes you have to tell the truth. If you open the sky and speak openly, we will use reasonable methods to say it out. Then vent your emotions out.

Nineth, I have to obey him in everything.

This is wrong. Such blind accommodation will make you feel wronged. All kinds of injustices in my heart. So have the courage to say no.

In fact, many people are in the trap without knowing it.

The last sentence you said was very good. I can’t remember all of it, but I only remember two sentences. There is no person in the world who is completely suitable for us. Only when we love ourselves and accept our inner perfection can we have enough energy to love others, and only then can we be pleasing to others and love the world.

Use oh cards to explore intimate relationships:

1. Draw a card from the adult picture card to represent yourself.

2. Draw one card from the adult picture card to represent your partner.

3. Take a picture card from the relationship interaction card of the adult card and place it between the two cards above to represent the partner mode of the two people.

4. Draw a picture card from the picture card of the companion card. Represents the current status of the intimate relationship between yourself and your partner.

5. Pull out a picture card from the road sign card of your partner card to represent your relationship with your partner, and adjust the direction.

6. Think about how to achieve balance and harmony in intimate relationships.

Case 1, a female man and a weak husband, the intimacy relationship is misplaced and they don’t know how to let go, which makes both parties suffer.

Case 2: My husband has been having an affair for 16 years, and my son is addicted to the Internet all day long. He has been the mother of the family and has been bearing the humiliation and burden for more than ten years. He is in great pain.

She chose a card from the word card to represent the theme she wanted to explore, "Victim", and a card from the child card, which turned out to be a laughing little girl. When Jingxin looked at the girl, she discovered that she had always thought she was the victim, but actually she was the perpetrator, and her husband was also the victim. Continue to draw cards from the children's card, as your inner child, and draw another child card to represent your husband's children. Feel and talk to the picture card drawn to understand your husband, see your own shortcomings, and your husband's needs.

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Children are not our accessories, they just come to the world through us. The prerequisite for establishing a good parent-child relationship is that the parents learn to grow up first

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Accepting the mother, overcoming a period of 30 years of fear

Giving up all the expectations A well-educated mother, give up pursuing the inner child that makes you better

When our bodies get taller, our skin gets wrinkled, and we get older, our hearts are really Have you grown up? When we are stuck in the injured inner child, still looking at our parents from the perspective of that time, clinging to our own prejudices about our parents, and letting ourselves curl up in the role of the victim, then we have lost a lot of things that allowed us to grow up and A chance to be yourself.

Use oh cards to talk to yourself, connect with your subconscious self, find the root of things, engage in self-talk, and self-heal.

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Worried that my parents would be unhappy, I chose to break up with my boyfriend

Healing starts with a painting

Choose any color , draw your current state

(Black is repressed and heavy energy. Dreaming is the result of holding on to normal repression. The subconscious is presented in the form of dreams. It demands to be seen and released)

(A stick figure with a big head, this is an adult stuck in childhood. He is childish, unhappy, and insecure. He cannot identify his gender and does not identify with himself as a woman. He hopes to take on the responsibility of the family like a son. Heavy burden, let parents live a good life )

Draw cards from the children's card to represent the inner child. Place it anywhere on the painting and connect it with the pictures and cards to guide him to dialogue with his subconscious. (Is the child in the picture you? How old are you in the intuitive picture? Are you happy at the age of four? You are far away from home in the picture. Do you want to go home? Feel what direction you want to go in the picture. Move? )

Draw a card from the adult card to represent your boyfriend. Place it anywhere on the painting.

Draw the current status of your intimate relationship with your boyfriend.

When you enter your boyfriend’s body, what kind of inner world is it like to feel it? What would he say to you?

Two chairs, the left represents the ex-boyfriend and the right represents new possibilities. Try to walk slowly, it may not lead to results, listen to your inner voice and give yourself more time.

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Parent-child relationship oh card

1. Select the card and the current interaction mode with the child (adult card interactive card)

? The dots represent several people, and the headcut represents the membership

2. Draw cards according to the points

Me (adult picture card or oh card picture card)

Children (Children's Picture Card or Oh Card Picture Card)

3. Connect with everyone, check your own psychological reactions, and feel everyone's emotional changes.

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Healing the couple relationship from the parent-child relationship

Children are the mirror of the family, and they reflect the problems of their parents. In a partnership, no matter what choice you and your husband make, you need to say to your children: No matter what happens to the two of us, we still love you. We are responsible for our own destiny. You just need to be your child with peace of mind. Just fine.

Let your children feel relieved, move forward with ease, and live out their own lives with your permission and blessing. This is what you can do as parents. As for your relationship, you have to work hard and solve it yourself!

Case:

Why choose this interactive mode?

The parents are on both sides of the child, and there are two arrows.

It makes the mother realize that she is alienated from her husband and is too lazy to communicate directly, so she always lets the children pass the message.

Not only are the couple far apart, their faces are facing opposite directions.

The son who had been standing between them was very angry and cried loudly, "Don't keep making trouble like this!"

Thinking about how painful the Cold War has been to his son over the years, he has been trying various methods to Calling his parents to pay attention to him, he even used extreme behaviors such as smoking, truancy, Internet addiction, puppy love, fighting, etc. to attract their parents' attention and save their marriage.

"Zero Limits" Dialogue

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When there is a vacancy in the partner's seat next to a single parent, usually loving children will rush to fill the vacancy.

If it is a child of the opposite sex, the child can easily become the emotional spouse of the single parent. Therefore, a daughter who is sensible and precocious may appear. Or a sensible and precocious son. In fact, being sensible and mature early is not necessarily a good thing. Many emotions are suppressed and cannot be seen.

Single parents and children of the same sex can easily form a pattern of confrontation, dragging down and entanglement with each other.

Such misalignment can easily cause troubles in the emotional life of parents and children in the future, especially the close relationship of children, which will have a great impact.

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Every child loves both his father and his mother. If these two forces are integrated due to the love and good interaction of the parents, the child will definitely be healthy and happy. , inner harmony, cheerfulness, sunshine. If one of these two forces is missing, or is maliciously restricted, resisted, slandered, etc. by a single parent, a tearing wound will appear within the child.

The child uses his life course of struggle, entanglement, anger, and reconciliation to express the secrets hidden deep in the subconscious of a child from a divorced family. These are different expressions of longing for love and hoping to be cared about by their parents.

In a broken family, the first person to mature is the parents. Respect each other's past companionship, understand each other's limitations, and accept each other for who they are. Instead of slandering each other, limiting the way children can contact each other, to prevent and deny the previous links. Please look at your child and tell him sincerely that you just need to be a child and we can handle our own affairs. No matter what happens between us, please believe that we all love you. We will leave a place for you as a child in our hearts, and please leave a place for us as a parent in your hearts.

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A child’s wrong behavior may be a reflection of the parent’s problematic relationship. When children stand between their parents and refuse to withdraw, they are actually worried about their parents' relationship and want to isolate them.

Seeing is the beginning of healing, and everyone returning to their respective places is the starting point of harmony and smoothness.

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Exploring my relationship with money

Many of us have this feeling. We always feel insecure when it comes to money:? Or feel that money Scarcity, there is never enough; either it is difficult to make money, and hard work is not rewarded; or one works hard to make money, but when one has money, one does not feel happy; or one is afraid that having money will make the men in the family bad. ……etc.

These feelings about money may be related to the projection of our parents’ attitudes towards money in our childhood.

Through conversations with shallow consciousness, we can gain insight into what happened to us when we were children, which shaped our current attitude towards money, and examine how our parents’ money concepts affect ourselves.

Repairing the trauma of connecting with our father, regaining the power passed down from our father, and making peace with money will make us more confident and powerful in walking on the road of life!

Seeing, healing begins! Pain needs to be brought to the surface, needs to be seen, needs to be healed, and ultimately it is discovered that behind all pain is the desire for love.

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Why can’t I keep the money?

Money is not a pile of paper, it is emotional energy that will flow to where there is love.

Many times, money is related to certain people in our native family. When we open our hearts, respect Him, allow Him to flow freely, no longer hold on, no longer control, and untie the ropes that suffocate Him, only then will abundance and prosperity truly appear in our lives.

Relax.

Select three character cards. (If not, write on the blank card)

Draw three picture cards

Feel how each picture card makes you feel

Continue to draw cards , to understand why the relationship with money is so stormy?

Draw picture cards to represent the boss and yourself.

Draw a partner card to represent the relationship between your boss and yourself.

Draw the inner child card.

Feel the feeling corresponding to each picture card.

Draw the oh card and find out the truth about why my mother is afraid and trembling when she hugs me?

Hypnosis. I saw scenes that happened when I was ten years old, when I was more than one year old, and when I was a child.

Spiritual alignment.

Standing in front of money, let him see who is opposite? Are you willing to walk there by yourself?

Standing in front of your ancestors, will they bless you? Are you willing to live differently from them?

When you walk up to your parents, will they bless you? Are you willing to live differently from them? My mother's attitude was different. After three or four attempts, she was still unwilling to accept her role as a daughter. After difficult communication and reconciliation, my mother reluctantly agreed.

Look at your future self two years from now. What picture do you see? Remember this image, it will be your source of strength.

Looking back at these pictures, does each picture have a different feeling?

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Recover the lost self and recall the inner child.

Many people have passively accepted the "obedient, obedient, and good" instilled by their parents and teachers since childhood as the evaluation criteria for good children. They "don't want to be childish" prematurely, resist the true feelings of their young hearts, and "be mature." ". They gradually separate from their inner children and become lost, resulting in negative childhood experiences that continue to interfere with their adult lives. When these painful old scars are uncovered, they usually respond by blaming others, closing themselves off, and becoming hysterical, causing greater entanglement and confusion. If the inner child is not healed and cleaned up in time, it will often cause difficulties and obstacles in various relationships in adulthood. The ability to care for oneself and take care of others cannot be developed, and the ability to love oneself and respect others is also lacking. When you become a parent, it becomes difficult to play the role of a nurturing parent, and you may even develop a cycle of abuse.

Therefore, it is necessary to talk to the subconscious, go into the subconscious to find an appropriate situation, and reshape the feelings people had when they were children, especially the feelings related to getting along with their parents. For example, when I was a child, some basic needs were not met, but I had experiences of horror, regret, fright, abandonment, discrimination, etc., so I saw the injured inner child wrapped in fear, anxiety, worry, fear, shame, guilt, grievance and other emotions, hiding from it. Crying sadly somewhere, shrinking back timidly, looking forward to being seen, heard, accepted, embraced, loved, cared for and brought back.

When the inner child feels cared for and safely accompanied, it will naturally overcome the negative emotions in shallow consciousness, enhance individual self-esteem and sense of personal worth, reduce self-pity and self-hatred, and enhance self-love and self-soothing. ability. In this way, you can freely relax and achieve complete physical and mental integration with your adult self, get out of the illusion of being mature, and move toward true maturity.

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Trace the source of emotions and fully connect with your inner child

Choose word cards and draw picture cards

What did you see? ? What comes to mind?

How do you feel? Is it uncomfortable?

Draw the child card to explore the obstacles and roots of "growth" and "success"

Who is this? What did you think of?

What did you see and hear? What kind of conversations do you have?

Now let’s see why “success” makes you uncomfortable

Who is this? How old are you?

Ask her what she is doing?

Ask her where her father is?

Ask the little girl how she feels now?

How do you feel when you look at those pictures again?

Reconcile with the inner child

Gratitude, accompany growth

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Use the oh card to enter the subconscious, travel through time and space back 30 years Before, I saw the inner child who felt guilty for not being able to say the last words to his mother before she died, standing there, shrouded in fear. The moment he brought his inner child home and became one with her, she found a source of latent power.

A brave heart is like the sun that shines brightly, and a light in a thousand-year dark room becomes bright.

Let you face life head-on and take responsibility for your current choices. There is no fixed meaning of the card, it goes deep into the subconscious mind. He not only allows you to see the superficial phenomenon of the event, but more likely, he can let you understand the inner reasons and motivations.

The script of life is written, directed, acted and observed by ourselves, and the oh card allows you to see clearly which play or scene is being played at the moment? If you don’t want to repeat reincarnation again, it’s time to revise the script of the old drama.

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The uncontrollable sense of material deprivation deep in the heart

also derives from other symptoms such as timidity, poor execution, care about effort, unwillingness to share, jealousy Wait for the question.

Draw how you currently feel about money.

Draw the ideal money situation in your mind.

Ask your parents and whether you are a child or an adult?

Extract yourself, mother, and father in turn.

Go to each card to connect, how does it feel when you see the picture card? See where their eyes are? What did they see?

Arrange these three cards (family arrangement)

Draw Grandpa, Grandma, Grandpa, and Grandma.

Feel each picture card

Arrange these seven picture cards on the table

(Subconsciously throw the cards of grandpa and grandpa out, Very disgusting, makes me want to vomit)

Continue to draw cards, representing the paternal family ancestors

Arrange all the cards again

After healing, I can accept my grandfather and grandpa. The picture is stuck.

Now solemnly introduce yourself in front of all family members: "I am the child of so-and-so and so-and-so. I am a girl. You are the older one and I am the younger one. Thank you." From generation to generation, life was given to me.

I will pass on the support and love you gave me to my descendants. I will use the resources and wealth you have given me to help others. If my life is different from yours, please allow me. I really want to live my life!"

Stand up and turn around to face your future.

Put the ideal money state you just drew and put it a few steps forward. place, can you slowly walk towards it?

Stand here, close your eyes, and see who is around you? What is it like?

Whenever you need support in the future, recall the feeling at this time. The warmth and strength on your back will bring you back to the state of energy!

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Use the form of painting to describe your inner child and feel how old it is?

Draw the cards of my parents (original family), Connect with them and feel the reactions of different parts of the body

Draw what the home looks like in your mind

Draw the cards of the current family members (reborn family), my husband and I, Parents, as well as my husband’s parents, our two children.

Put them in the position you think is appropriate and feel the feelings and moods of each person in that position.

(Healing of the inner child, re-introducing myself to the ancestors, introducing my husband, introducing my children.)

Rearrange the cards and experience each person's feelings and situation again.

Look like a painter again

You will find that everything will be different, and the inner child will grow up!

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Before the case:? Very Anxious, almost 29 years old, I feel that my life has reached a bottleneck period, and my relationship and work are not going well

Draw children's cards and parents' cards

Connection with parents

Draw Cards for grandparents and grandparents

Arrange the family system

Select five word cards "Dream, Tiredness, Mother, Feeling, Apology"

Draw five cards in sequence Each picture card has its own link

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Surrender and reconciliation, respect and acceptance start from here

Screen out 6 word cards and draw the corresponding picture card

Relax and feel every picture and text

Are you inside? What are you doing? Why are you stabbing Dad with a dagger? What kind of anger and anger is that? Resentment? What did it remind you of?

Leading back to the mother’s womb, re-healing the trauma of being born that was not expected and welcomed, lying in the mother’s belly with all fours up happily I was playing around and felt very safe. When I was about to give birth, the teacher guided me to crawl down on all fours through the dark, long birth canal. When I was about to come out, I saw my father, mother, and many people welcoming me. And blessings...

Listen to your partner's heart and see that he is also a hurt child inside. The hurt of his original family has made him hide in a dark world and cannot get out. My previous understanding was so superficial, I would only use complaints and accusations to ask for his love. How can two children who are both lacking inside give each other warmth? Neither of them can express themselves and both lack love. They are just children who deeply long for love and warmth!

Gratitude releases resentment towards parents, learns to accept and surrender, and lets go of what you cannot bear...