In fact, we also know that no matter how much we blame ourselves, we can't come back.

But I just can't forgive myself.

At this time, you must learn to let go. Letting go is not to give up, but to get better. Let's take a look at the wisdom in Caigen Tan!

1: Relax and enter the sacred world.

Classic original:

Put fame and fortune in your heart and you can get rid of everything; Only when you put it under the heart of morality, benevolence and righteousness can you be holy.

Translation:

If you can put aside the ideological burden of chasing fame and fortune, you can transcend the vulgar world; Only by not being bound by dogmas such as benevolence, righteousness and morality can we enter the realm of sages.

2. Feel wisdom:

It is often said that a person can afford to buy and let go, but it is usually easier said than done.

Letting go refers to a person's mental state, courage to give up, not stubborn. When faced with a heavy burden, he can make a decisive decision, unload the burden in his heart and deal with it easily.

Giving up is not decadent, not world-weary, but a science.

People live all their lives, and there are too many obstacles. For the sake of study, work, life, family, children and the elderly, it seems that we can't be idle for a moment and dare not give up easily.

And when we don't want to give up anything, like a top, we are always on the run. Even with more and more gains, we are still not satisfied, so our body and mind are getting more and more tired.

In real life, there are indeed many things that can't be put down.

If we are criticized by our leaders, by our colleagues, by doing bad things with good intentions and being misunderstood and wronged by others, these small things will inevitably make us depressed.

However, if a person wants to get rid of depression and unhappiness, he can only rely on himself, if these little things persist. You can't see kindness and happiness.

Some people often sigh, worry and worry, always worrying about this and that.

This is not only bad for our present life, but also bad for our health. There is a saying that people who laugh for ten years and always frown are more likely to get old.

In fact, what we can't let go is nothing more than fame, profit, wealth and affection. But on second thought, one day we can't take all these things with us. If you look down, you will have less psychological burden, less troubles and worries, and your life will be easier.

3. Wonderful story:

When love holds you back, you can put it down for a while.

Once upon a time, a teacher wanted to give her students some wonderful treasures.

Every baby is engraved with clear handwriting, including pride, integrity, happiness, love, worry and modesty. ...

The student saw these treasures shine at the moment, and everything was exquisite, lovely and exquisite. He caught them all and put them in his pocket.

However, on the way home, he didn't go far because his pocket was too heavy. He is so tired that his legs are weak and he can't walk.

The teacher said, "son, there is still a long way to go home." Otherwise, let's throw some first. "

The student dug out the treasure in his pocket, looked at it again and again, and finally had to bite the bullet and lose two pieces.

But not far away, the student was so tired that the teacher advised him to put down some more treasures.

Then stop and go, he lost as he walked, throwing away "worry", "pain" and "pride" ...

At this time, his pocket was much lighter, but after a long walk, his legs were still as heavy as lead, and he stopped walking again.

This is because the teacher asked him to put down more treasures, and the child had to throw away "name" and "profit".

Now all he has left in his pocket is modesty, integrity, happiness and love.

He walked with the teacher for another day, and just before he got home at 100 meters, the child really couldn't hold on and was too tired to get down.

The teacher said to the child, "Look at what else you can throw away in your pocket."

The child thought about it, took out "love", watched it over and over again, and put it on the side of the road.

His pocket is much lighter, but he is not happy because he has lost the "love" he has been longing for.

At this time, the teacher said earnestly, "Although love can bring you happiness and happiness, if it slows you down and becomes a burden, it doesn't matter if you let it go for a while, and you can get it back when your physical strength recovers, right?"

The next day, he recovered his strength and found "love". He felt extremely happy and cheered. He told the teacher that the teacher touched his head and said, "Son, you finally learned to give up!" "

Life is sometimes like this, forcing you to make a choice and give up something. You can't light a candle at both ends.

Giving up doesn't mean losing, but giving up is another kind of gain.

Tao Yuanming voluntarily gave up fame and fortune, carefree and contented.

Life is your own. If you feel that you are too burdened and too tired to live, you might as well ask yourself what I want most in this life, and then let go of what you don't need, so that you can be chic.

Don't regret what you have lost.

Learn to give up, and have a mentality of "since it has been lost, let it be lost".

Once upon a time, there was a collector who liked clay pots very much. He has a favorite faucet pot, which he bought from a rich man with a lot of money.

One day, a friend I haven't seen for a long time came to visit. So he took out this unused tap pot to make tea and entertain this friend.

My friend was very surprised when he saw this teapot. Exquisitely made, the brewed tea has a long fragrance, and he plays with it carefully.

Unexpectedly, the tea spilled accidentally and burned my friend. When my friend's hand shook, the teapot fell to the ground and made a crisp sound, and the teapot broke.

The friend's face suddenly turned red, and the two of them suddenly fell silent. Both of them felt sorry for this wonderful teapot.

At this time, the collector lowered his head, silently picked up the fragments and handed them to the servant.

He took out the teapot, made tea for his friends, and chatted with them about tea, laughing and laughing.

Later, someone asked him, don't you feel bad that your favorite teapot was broken?

The collector said, "The teapot has been broken. What's the point of thinking about it?"? It's better to look for it again, maybe you can meet better. "

That's true.

The old ones don't go, and the new ones don't come. What's the point of rethinking in the face of irreparable losses?

Life will face many choices, and life will face many inevitable losses. At this time, we must learn to pick it up and put it down, so that we can live fully and comfortably.

It is precious to pick it up, and it is wise to put it down.

Putting down money is a kind of chic;

Just like the unrestrained Li Bai: "Since God has given talents, let them find jobs!"! , spin one thousand silver, all back! ."

Putting down love is a kind of wisdom;

Only by giving up the love of "cutting constantly, reasoning is still chaotic" in time can we get rid of the mud and live a rational life.

Putting down fame and fortune can be extraordinary;

Paying too much attention to fame and fortune is like being tightened by a rope. Only by learning to let go can we live extraordinary elegance.

Let go of sadness to be happy;

Dickens said: "trying to do the impossible will only bring chaos and distress."

The same thing, treated with different mentality, brings different results, and life is not easy, let alone asking for trouble.

Only by letting go of sadness can we have happiness and happiness, and only by letting go of our obsession with wealth and fame and fortune can we reap plain beauty.

Think of the songs in Buddhist scriptures, let go, love, hate, let go, own, hurt and see through. ...